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Lauren1234
Lauren1234

Hi. I'm a 32 year old woman in a serious, monogamous relationship. I've never had a yeast infection or experienced symptoms of BV until I started this new relationship. (Previously in a long-term relationships, had sex, never had an infection.) A few days after the first time I had sex with my new partner, I noticed a terrible smell of death, and was just horrified. Tried natural remedies and finally gave up, swallowed my embarrassment, went to the dr, and got on antibiotics. Cleared it up. We used condoms for awhile because I was certain he had caused it, even though some docs say men don't cause it, but I know my body. And I'd never had it before, so what else could it be?!? We stopped using condoms (I was on bc) and then I got it again. SERIOUSLY. Are our bodies just not compatible because his bacteria screws up mine? Should he get treated? I hate this. HATE IT. What are your experiences? Caused by sex? Caused by randomness? I'm pulling my hair out. I don't NOT want to have sex with this person. Holy hell, will we have to use condoms forever? I can't see getting married and having to rely on condoms to not get an infection. Thoughts, please.

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  • Lauren1234
    Lauren1234

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    I found something that helped with the symptoms, quite a bit. VH Essentials Homeopathic BV capsules. Walgreens/ CVS/ etc....around ten bucks for a bottle that has a 2 mo supply. This seems to have helped me, quite a bit.
  • musicalsoul
    musicalsoul Lauren1234

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    I know your post is a bit old, but I wanted to reply in hopes of helping you. How is you and your partner's diet? Do you both eat healthy? The vagina is acidic, while semen is alkaline. Maybe your partner's semen is disrupting the pH balance in your vagina, resulting in BV. You can read about acidic/alkaline foods online. Another thing that will help you is taking a probiotic and vitamins. I take Ultimate Flora and it is a great, great probiotic. It will up the good bacteria down there and will prevent BV. I'm not sure if you're in the UK, but here in the USA this product is easy to obtain. You may have to purchase from an online vendor if you're in the UK. I have had BV twice, but spaced apart by several years. The first time was from a partner (like your situation) and the second time developed on its own - I think from me using wipes to clean down there. Bad idea! Don't use anything scented or any kind of wash down there. It will disrupt the vagina's delicate environment. I think with diet changes and/or a probiotic, you'll be good to go! Hope this helps smile
    • jade2896
      jade2896 musicalsoul

      Posted

      hi im going through something similar although my boyfriend does not ejaculate inside me. I do take probiotics and dont douche or use soap down there. I  dont see him often as well so we might have sex like 3 or twice a month. Ive had BV before but i didnt have any symptoms now i have an awful smell and i wasnt sure if he trigered it. Im so sad plus we are having problems and this is just a cherry on top
    • jade2896
      jade2896 kiki30325

      Posted

      Im actually just getting back from the GYN. And I'm highly upset. I thought BV had went away because i used Boric acid and saw how it worked for everyone else. Well she just told me i still have BV I'm so upset

    • janine48099
      janine48099 musicalsoul

      Posted

      hi how you getting on? So the key is to use pribiotics ? Have you been ok the last year 
    • patty01691
      patty01691 musicalsoul

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      My boyfriend and I have been together for seven months.  About 4 months ago I had to take antibiotics and got a yeast infection which I got treated for.  We did have sex at the beginning of the infection so he could have possibly picked up some yeast. His penis got tiny cuts and the skin got dry and peeled a bit. He admitted from the beginning of the relationship there were a few problems after sex.  I went to gynecologist last week and had every test she could do.  Everything came back negative. We had sex twice after my gyn appointment   Within two days he started having problems with his penis   I don’t know what to do. I don’t want him to stop having sex with me. Do u have any suggestions ? 
    • christie64386
      christie64386 patty01691

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      Have the doctor check for a bacterial infection in him known as balanitis... which can lead to a bigger autoimmune issue known as Reiter's Syndrome and other organ failures and shutdowns.

    • gussie80165
      gussie80165 musicalsoul

      Posted

      I noticed it too with my partner I never really had nothing like that I thought maybe it was just the way I was eating the different perfumes body wash and soap or maybe the clothing I was wearing then I even thought about maybe from all the soda I used to drink but I did notice a long time back that his dieting my dieting aren't that great he's a diabetic and he takes a lot of medication and he eats a very awful a lot of junk food and he doesn't take out well should I say pull out so the cement is still inside me days later that's when I know I start getting a urinary tract infection

  • Waer
    Waer Lauren1234

    Posted

    Wouldn't hurt for him to get fully checked out...otherwise the other dietary suggestions here seem swell. Good alternative to vicious antibiotics.
  • skybluepink
    skybluepink Lauren1234

    Posted

    You could be reinfecting each other but I was told even nuns get it .Mine seem to go alternatively with chronic utis  & metronizadole cleared it . But waiting over 3 hrs every 3 weeks for medication wasn.too funny.Did I hear there could be some connection with chlamydia??!!
    • christie64386
      christie64386 skybluepink

      Posted

      Yes. Chlamydia... left untreated for too long or not at all leads to balanitis leads to Reiter's.... my ex I found through his ex-wife have her chlamydia and HPV.... me.... BV.

  • cyndie3811
    cyndie3811 Lauren1234

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    Hi. I'm 33. I have a daughter that'll turn 9 on the 26th. I've been with this man before. Actually a few times. We've been off and on for ten years. But ... All my BV problems have become after sleeping with him. Only in the last 4 years though. All the sudden my PH won't match his. Dr said to try using a condom. Tenyears.. we have a child.. now all the sudden my body won't accept him? Just seems funny. I'm not sure what to do either. Asking the love of my life to use a condom for his eternity seems a little much to ask of a man. I'm nervous.

    • jade2896
      jade2896 cyndie3811

      Posted

      From the research ive done it has to do with the mans diet, if he eats trash, drinks beer all the time it makes his sperm more alkaline also tale vitamins and probiotics just to see if that helps
    • mel49525
      mel49525 cyndie3811

      Posted

      TREAT HIM PERIOD ITS A STD BEEN THRU THIS WAY TOO MUCH

      HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH DIET PH NONE OF THAT LOL THAT SOUNDS CRAZY!! He picked it up from someone and was never treated its COMMON SENSE YALL LADIES

    • tara04742
      tara04742 mel49525

      Posted

      Lol this is not true. I had BV once and went to the dr. And asked to be tested for EVERYTHING... I had a culture done, an STD testing done and even a blood test to check for any and everything.. everything came back good except for testing positive for BV and a minor yeast infection. This had nothing to do with a new sex partner, nor with an STD. My issue was I was being TOO CLEAN. Yes, that is possible. I was not douching, but I was trying many different things at the time. Summers eve ph cleansing washes, coconut oil baby oil, lotions, vagisil powders... etc. I was trying to find what worked best for me because as I got older, I realized the little things I could get away with when I was younger were causing rashes, and itching , like using perfumed lotions and what not. Anywho, once I hit 25, I had to change my hygiene routine and in the process ended up with BV. Definitely NOT an std. 

      so no, being an STD is not "common sense" love. 😏

    • tara04742
      tara04742 mel49525

      Posted

      P.s. Mind you I am married and have been with the same man for nearly 7 years. And no, he nor I were stepping out on each other... but we started using condoms at one point because I was no longer on bc, and the condom started the irritation initially. The condom broke one night and we were unaware, that a piece was missing until the following day. That alone will definitely give anyone some kind of irritation lol after that I noticed that after taking the antibiotics, I have to be extremely careful to not get any irritation. I think I may need to do as the other ladies advised and start taking probiotics instead of only vitamins. 
    • Guest
      Guest cyndie3811

      Posted

      Hey I know it's been a minute since you posted but I'm in almost the exact same situation as you regarding bv... Any advice? Do i need to take him to the OB/GYN with me? So frustrating

    • christie64386
      christie64386 mel49525

      Posted

      My ex claims he has always been clean, and his ex-wife must have got it elsewhere.... he also said the same to me. Too many coincidences with his promiscuous behavior, affairs, escorts, craigslist,  one night stands, bathroom romps.... and bi-curiosity.

    • gussie80165
      gussie80165 mel49525

      Posted

      My doctor check me for everything even when I moved they checked me for everything they can't find anything they don't know why I keep getting urinary tract infection but it's every time me and my partner mess around when I'm not around him for weeks or months I'm okay so how do you explain that one if it's STDs and I don't have it

    • sandy97145
      sandy97145 tara04742

      Posted

      You can't listen to everything these doctors tell you.I and a few ladies I know have struggled with BV. Your partner HAS to be treated.That is the only way it won't reoccur if you are having unprotected sex.The doctors told me the same thing that it's not sexually transmitted,but once I have the medication to my partner ,it didn't come back.It most DEFINITELY is sexually transmitted.

    • tanashia29734
      tanashia29734 mel49525

      Posted

      Yes you are absolutely right! I been with my fiancé with no problems until he cheated on me. Now I get BV every single time we have sex. We never had this problem until he slept unprotected with multiple other women. So I don’t care what the doctors are saying. I know my body! Yes it is a STI. They need to do more research on this. Let’s argue... 

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