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Caused by certain partner? His bacteria hates me?

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Lauren1234
Lauren1234

Hi. I'm a 32 year old woman in a serious, monogamous relationship. I've never had a yeast infection or experienced symptoms of BV until I started this new relationship. (Previously in a long-term relationships, had sex, never had an infection.) A few days after the first time I had sex with my new partner, I noticed a terrible smell of death, and was just horrified. Tried natural remedies and finally gave up, swallowed my embarrassment, went to the dr, and got on antibiotics. Cleared it up. We used condoms for awhile because I was certain he had caused it, even though some docs say men don't cause it, but I know my body. And I'd never had it before, so what else could it be?!? We stopped using condoms (I was on bc) and then I got it again. SERIOUSLY. Are our bodies just not compatible because his bacteria screws up mine? Should he get treated? I hate this. HATE IT. What are your experiences? Caused by sex? Caused by randomness? I'm pulling my hair out. I don't NOT want to have sex with this person. Holy hell, will we have to use condoms forever? I can't see getting married and having to rely on condoms to not get an infection. Thoughts, please.

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  • Lorea
    Lorea Lauren1234

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    This does not only happen because of unfaithful partners. This also happens as women get older and begin Perimenopause. Your hormones fluctuate and YOUR body chemistry changes. We also get more dry and less able to naturally balance PH levels after sex and periods.
  • shskia97110
    shskia97110 Lauren1234

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    This was my experience. I am 34 years of age.

    After leaving my husband, I started dating someone from my past. We have unprotected sex and never experienced the BV as I did with my husband over the years.

    For me, I believe it was the activity he was involved in at the strip clubs 3-4 times a week.

    I am thankful I learned what I learn and am moving forward. That experience was horrific! Never wish to deal with any of that again. BV IS HORRIBLE, even worse when it’s bought on by an unfaithful partner.

  • michelle616
    michelle616 Lauren1234

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    Hey so I've been told multiple things. I was told it was because my partner having multiple partners because I sure didn't and then I was told also because it was the chemical imbalance. Only thing is only time I get it is when my partner does have sex else where. I don't see how it's because we chemically imbalanced because we've been on and off for 9 years and it's never been a problem until he had sex with someone else. These doctors don't know everything like they think. I know my body and I know when I have sex with someone and I know my body tells me when something is off. We can have sex everyday for a month with no problem if he's around me every single day. he leave for two days or so comes back then it's there again. I'm burning and itching. Don't believe me try it. I'm not a doctor by any means and every body bodies are different I'm speaking for me. I know it's when my partner is having too many partners. Sadly.

    • shskia97110
      shskia97110 michelle616

      Posted

      I totally agree with you!

      I hadnt slept with my husband for months. I had a friend and we were having  unprotected sex. Never had a issue.

      The friend and I stop talking I sleep with my husband and BOOM! BV again-

      I’d rather die than to sleep with him again. I’m DONE

    • terry802
      terry802 shskia97110

      Posted

      @shskia97110 I feel you, but for the last 6months we been good. I have and still use PH products. Like Pro-B RepHresh probiotic Feminine supplement, pH water essential 9.0..

    • terry802
      terry802 michelle616

      Posted

      @michelle616 you are right the Doctors don't know everything. But for me I didnt have intercourse in 7year. My Husband was prison for them year. When he came home immediately, He was itching and burning after sex .It was coming from me and I No i didn't do anything. The Doctors didnt understand. So i started doing my own research . What i use helps us really.

    • michelle616
      michelle616 terry802

      Posted

      What helps you guys? It's so annoying. The doctor said because we're incompatible pretty much or his semen but when I get it there isn't any semen. We have three children and his was unfaithful every single time I got it but it was only after one particular female he started messing with and had a child with. The doctor don't understand me either lol

    • terry802
      terry802 michelle616

      Posted

      @michelle616 look at my last post.. you can get the pills from the Drug store the cost about $28 try it. I still use them also. I use everything with pH ,soap for my vagina they have a pH levels douche it comes with a douche and a gel to keep you moist oh yes. I drink essential Waters that has 9.0 pH very good. Everything worked for me thank God, because i was stress.. Wish you all the luck.
  • chloep
    chloep Lauren1234

    Posted

    Have you tried helping him out with herbs? I strongly suggest you do.
  • chloep
    chloep Lauren1234

    Posted

    I had a similar thing with my hubby. I started doing my research and asking questions. Now it's over and we are happy together. Your case is not so different from mine. Write me through let me see I can be of help.

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    • terry802
      terry802 chloep

      Posted

      @Chloe may I ask, what did you and your Hubby use?
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