Caused by certain partner? His bacteria hates me?
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Hi. I'm a 32 year old woman in a serious, monogamous relationship. I've never had a yeast infection or experienced symptoms of BV until I started this new relationship. (Previously in a long-term relationships, had sex, never had an infection.) A few days after the first time I had sex with my new partner, I noticed a terrible smell of death, and was just horrified. Tried natural remedies and finally gave up, swallowed my embarrassment, went to the dr, and got on antibiotics. Cleared it up. We used condoms for awhile because I was certain he had caused it, even though some docs say men don't cause it, but I know my body. And I'd never had it before, so what else could it be?!? We stopped using condoms (I was on bc) and then I got it again. SERIOUSLY. Are our bodies just not compatible because his bacteria screws up mine? Should he get treated? I hate this. HATE IT. What are your experiences? Caused by sex? Caused by randomness? I'm pulling my hair out. I don't NOT want to have sex with this person. Holy hell, will we have to use condoms forever? I can't see getting married and having to rely on condoms to not get an infection. Thoughts, please.
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ryann62495 Lauren1234
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kelly21281 Lauren1234
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anne00520 Lauren1234
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This is an interesting thread. I have only ever been with my SO my entire life. I have never done anything sexual with anybody else ever. I'm in my 30s. We have never used condoms. We eat really healthy and don't drink or smoke. I've never douched. Well, a year ago he cheated on me, felt guilty and told me about it right after. I got BV for the first time ever and have had it 4 times since. I was tested for everything under the sun and Dr said i dont have an STI. If it is an imbalance of the bacteria, it would make sense that the other woman's bacteria was introduced to my husband (who shows no symptoms), but passed the different flora to me which screwed mine up. Even with me being treated, I would think he would need to be treated too to reset the bacteria, so to speak. Otherwise, its just going to be given back to me again and again by him even though that was his one and only encounter (one night stand). Idk, just my thought . I could be wrong, but nothing else has changed for us.
anne00520
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Also, it's not an STD, in the fact that an STD is a specific type of bacteria or virus that can be identified under a microscope. If you have trichomoniasis, it can be swabbed and cultured and literally seen under a microscope. BV is not a specific bacteria or virus and therefore cannot be classified as a specific STD. However, it is an imbalance of bacteria that can be caused by introducing bacteria through sexual contact. So a partner can pick up bacteria from another person and give it to their current partner. Then continue to give it back to them. Men won't experience the symptoms because they don't have a vagina that have this bacterial dynamic going on, but they can harbor bacteria that can cause the imbalance once it's transferred back to the partner. With that being said, just because it can be transferred via sex, that's not the only way. Bacteria are everywhere and you can come into contact with it and then accidently transfer to yourself and cause the imbalance. This is why proper hand washing and genital hygiene are important.
t83240 anne00520
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robin82300 anne00520
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sam30271 Lauren1234
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I too had this problem. Each month I slept with him, I would get it.. took flagyl to get rid if it but it always came back. So I did my research. Probiotics and coconut oil helped. So I loaded up on it for a month b4 I saw him again. So... last time we did the deed. I am not feeling like it's BV but my labias are irritated like it's a yeast infection this time. He said he just went in for bloodwork and came back negative. I told him I think he needs to be tested through a urine sample. Would any of you agree with that or do you think the blood test suffices?
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shskia97110 robin82300
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Learned my husband was having sex with women at the strip clubs.