Cervical Spondylosis ruminations
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Over the years, I've experienced varying confusing reactions, from friends, relatives etc. to my cs problem and I just thought I'd explore these positive / negative influences and try straighten my head out so I can have a nice Xmas!
The problem is this...I can't expect the average person to understand, or even empathise, with the confusing assortment of symptoms I try to explain to them in an effort to reach an understanding of the limitations of my interaction with them, whether that be organising a social event, or just trying to focus and engage verbally. I have developed a disgusting patronising habit of pretending I'm interested when I'm really only concerned with the ache in my neck. Obviously, with c/s, there's a time to socialise and a time not to, and due to the unpredictability of the condition, this can get confusing and even lead to uncalled for bad reactions, again leading to resentment, anger etc. Nothing wrong with resentment and anger as long as they are not the demented children of misunderstandings!
I don't know if anyone else with c/s feels like this. In this post I'm going to try and unravel the conundrum and evolve a positive attitude, as a Xmas present to myself.
Firstly, I know it's not right to dismiss other's opinions just because I'm aware they can't grasp a complex problem of understanding...that would be patronising. Also, although I am aware of my aches / pains twenty-four-seven, I can't really expect a sympathetic ear whenever I feel like whingeing ( though it would be nice!). A lack of tolerance in this department is the norm. So, what am I left with. I must make the intellectual effort to find some middle ground that works for both, but most importantly, works for me, as I am the one who must go through this process to counteract the social stigma of rationally discussing chronic
ailments.
I will return and add to this later (must go out now). would appreciate any comments... eg \"Stop while your'e ahead\".
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Gerry_the_neck
Posted
Thanks Jas for Thurs sympathy...a few nurofen helped as well. Hope all is well in the colonies.
Flutterbye
Posted
Glad the Neurofen helps....Unfortunately it doesn't work at all for me....Mersyndol Forte is my drug of choice.... :wink:
Hope your day is a wonderful one and that the sun shines on you.....Jas..xx.. 8)
Gerry_the_neck
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I have to say that, since we sent you there, you've done a nice tidy job around the edges ( seaside resorts :shark: :surfer: )....but, when are you going to make a start on the middle bit ?????
Flutterbye
Posted
Now about our Aussie (thats our slang term for it) middle....I think the desert is just beautiful.....full of sand.....and more sand.....oh an occasional scorpion....a HUGE red rock.....and sand....whats so wrong with that???????? :wink: Actually I have travelled to Ayres rock and it is an amazing sight to see...at sunset, the rock glows to a most beautiful shade of red....never seen anything like it!!!!!!
Sorry for hijacking your ruminations...please go on....I love reading what you have to say......
Take gentle care....Jas..... 8)
Gerry_the_neck
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So. No matter what they say, Straylya is Dutch. You found it...it's yours!
However, claiming a large rock as a major tourist attraction is no excuse for not levelling the lot and replacing it with a mega Tesco hypermarket. Parking shouldn't be a problem, but I still haven't figured out what to do with the Dingos :fullmoon: :fullmoon: . Maybe you could just domesticate them...you've been there long enough!!!! Perhaps the sign that says \"This Way To Beach\" :surfer:has assumed a certain priority in the national psyche. When are you Ozzies gonna stop treating your own country as a tourist resort ???? :wink:
Flutterbye
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I am certainly not one who treats Oz as a tourist resort..... :surfer: I Love Straylya and wish is was less touristy (is that a made up word?) :weird: If they ever even contemplated turning 'Middle of Oz' into a Hyper, Mega super Tesco's, there would be a MAJOR outcry from the Aboriginal community and many others for sure!!!!! They have claims and rights over many parts of Oz that we are not allowed to touch!!!!!:fullmoon:
I best go and get myself ready for my day....I'm actually going out of the house today to have lunch with some girls i worked with....
:tea:
Have a good one!!!! Jas..... :ok:
(Can you tell I love using emoticons..... ) :roll: :wink:
Lou77
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Have to tell you two you have made me laugh so much! I had a disastrous day yesterday, tried to make the most of the gorgeous weather but the headache and dizzies drove me home early, rattling with painkillers all the way. What a joy to log on this morning and be cheered up by your banter :lol: .
Thank you for your kind words Jas :D .
Sorry for hijacking Gerry, carry on ruminating, oooooh missus, sounds like a film :shock: !
My love to Baba :love: :blackcat:
Lou xx
Gerry_the_neck
Posted
Can I just go back to the bit before the truce for my next rant ?
Re Ayers Rock....I get the picture now....We get the beaches. the Opera House, the prime farmland, the diamond mines etc....and they get to keep the big rock and the croc sanctuary. I hope my cynicism isn't too subtle here. As it happens, I'm a Kelly on my maternal side...so you can see where the attitude springs from. I'm not too distantly related to your horse thieving national icon. If I get too belligerent, you can always send over that other icon ' Chopper ' Reid to sort me out!
While I'm at it, can I just say 'no thanks' and return herewith Kylie, Jason, Rolf, Paul, Steve, Michael (what was He doing?!!!) , Neighbours and Home and Away. We'll keep Barry Humphries and Nick Cave, if you don't mind!
And, please stop sending us movies like Wolf Creek.... some things are best left in the outback.
Truce again :peace: . There's a good book on the Batavia story...\"Batavia's Graveyard\", so trekk on down to your local bookstore...but it's not for those with a weak stomach :arrow: :yuk: .
Besides all this , have a nice day. It's a bank holiday here today, so lots of slobbing and pampering is definitely on the agenda :cheers:
Gerry_the_neck
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Baba, the cat :blackcat: , is up and running again. 3 weeks of head collar, antibiotics, ear cleaning etc. and now it's like ...well....like it never happened :cat: . Still, it's good to be back to normal. Thanks everyone for kind concern.
Gerry
Flutterbye
Posted
I must have forgotten to tell you that I am a true blonde!!!! :wings: (i thought the wings on this emoticon could be taken as my blonde hair)
Gerry_the_neck
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Flutterbye
Posted
I will be back later for more banter...head is pounding right now..... :yikes: :doh:
Jas..xx..
Flutterbye
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Feel free anytime that the thought come to write more in here....It is highly amusing and food for thought for me and probably many others..... :diva: :wings: :hug: :sheep: :dragon:
Jas..... :wings:
Gerry_the_neck
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I detect :idea: I'm being very carefully redirected :nurse: back to the haunted :monster: padded cell of my own ruminations page :thepost: .Fair play.I've had my fun :devil: on day release and I must go back :arrow:
now.Nurse :nurse: says I should keep taking the meds and try and get some sleep :zzz: :zzz: :zzz: ........and stop hijacking other peoples pages.
As a Dutchie :wings: , you must be aware that the Brits have always hijacked Dutch colonies.New Amsterdam....now New York ( thank you ) :ta: . Australia... ( thank you ) :ta: . New Zealand.... ( thank you ) :ta: .South Afrika...for a while ( thank you ) :ta: and :sorry: .They even hijacked your Prince, William of Orange. :bleep: (expletive deleted)...( I won't thank you for this one, due to my own ethnic affiliations :guinness: :goodluck: ). By the way, is it true that the term \"Yankee\" comes from a Dutch expression meaning smelly cheese :yuk: .....I heard that somewhere and have always wondered? :idea: :?:
So, there should be no surprise :o if your page is also hijacked./...we're all pirates :pirate: :pirate: :thief: over here!
In return, we gave you football :football: and various hallucinogenic substances :weird: :magic: :monster: :monster: and, although you've applied youselves half decently to our national sport :football: , never forget...we invented the game, it's our rules...we win! As regards the substances :skull: , no question here, the manner in which your homeland relations have taken to these is, without question, admirable. Well done! :weird: A weekend trawl of the coffee houses :coffee: :wings: :coffee: of Old Amsterdam is well known for calming the stresses of modern life :whistle: :boing: (perhaps this should be reflected in the Home Remedies page.) As I like to put it......the Spanish expression \"Manana\" (manyana) meaning 'leave it til tomorrow' suddenly assumes too great a sense of urgency.
Anyway, I'm back in the cell :cry: , Jas, and behaving myself again, so the serious :zen: ruminations :idea: :idea: :arrow: :idea: :!: :?: may well spring forth soon. :ok:
As everyone who knows me, knows..........I'm really into Peace and Love :peace: :hug: in a big way.But, if I can't have that, there's gonna be BIG TROUBLE!!!!!!! :steam: :grrr: :steam:
Flutterbye
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I will have to break down your post to reply.....otherwise my blonde head will explode!!!! :wings: :weird: :ill:
[quote:25f4443348]Thanks for the invitation!
I detect Idea I'm being very carefully redirected :Nurse: back to the haunted :Monster: padded cell of my own ruminations page :The post: . Fair play. I've had my fun :Devil: on day release and I must go back :Arrow: :Sad: now. Nurse :Nurse: says I should keep taking the meds and try and get some sleep :Zzz: :Zzz: :Zzz: ........and stop hijacking other peoples pages.[/quote:25f4443348]
I would never redirect you or anyone else.....You are free and more than welcome to post anywhere you want, my friend..... :jester: :thepost:
[quote:25f4443348]As a Dutchie :Wings: , you must be aware that the Brits have always hijacked Dutch colonies. New Amsterdam....now New York ( thank you ) :Ta: . Australia... ( thank you ) :Ta: . New Zealand.... ( thank you ) :Ta: . South Afrika...for a while ( thank you ) :Ta: and :Sorry: . They even hijacked your Prince, William of Orange. :Bleep: (expletive deleted)...( I won't thank you for this one, due to my own ethnic affiliations :Guinness: :Goodluck: ). By the way, is it true that the term \"Yankee\" comes from a Dutch expression meaning smelly cheese :Yuk: .....I heard that somewhere and have always wondered? :Idea: Question[/quote:25f4443348]
I have never heard this thing about 'Yankee' meaning smelly cheese....Hmmm...I can't even think of the Dutch word for smelly , but i do remember that cheese in Dutch is Kaas.... :cake: (This was the best one i could find to represent cheese...)
Seems to me that you Brit have hijacked a lot.... :thief: I think you can stop now..... :wink: And as for your ethnicity..... The Irish are very loved here in Oz....I think its the accent..... :drool:
[quote:25f4443348]So, there should be no surprise :Surprised: if your page is also hijacked./...we're all pirates :Pirate: :Pirate: :Thief: over here!
In return, we gave you football :Football: and various hallucinogenic substances :Weird: :Magic: :Monster: :Monster: and, although you've applied youselves half decently to our national sport :Football: , never forget...we invented the game, it's our rules...we win! As regards the substances :Skull: , no question here, the manner in which your homeland relations have taken to these is, without question, admirable. Well done! :Weird: A weekend trawl of the coffee houses :Coffee: :Wings: :Coffee: of Old Amsterdam is well known for calming the stresses of modern life :Whistle: :Boing: (perhaps this should be reflected in the Home Remedies page.) As I like to put it......the Spanish expression \"Manana\" (manyana) meaning 'leave it til tomorrow' suddenly assumes too great a sense of urgency.
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OK....I am NOT a sports fan, but what i do know is that what you call football, is Soccer :football: to me.....Football is completely different here..... :weird:
[quote:25f4443348]Anyway, I'm back in the cell Crying or Very sad , Jas, and behaving myself again, so the serious Zen ruminations Idea Idea Arrow Idea Exclamation Question may well spring forth soon. OK
As everyone who knows me, knows..........I'm really into Peace and Love Peace Hug in a big way. But, if I can't have that, there's gonna be BIG TROUBLE!!!!!!! Steam Grrr Steam [/quote:25f4443348]
It's 3 30am here, and my meds have just kicke din....I will have to come back tomorrow to finsh...who knows what will come out of me if i tryt to type with my eyes closed!!!!
BBS...Jas..xxx..