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patricia44773
patricia44773

I have never felt like this before......I am absolutely dreading Christmas.  My girls are grown up now, but I have always loved the planning and excitement of Christmas....even as they became adults.  Now I wish I could just hide away and pretend it wasn't happening. 

I dread the socialising I will have to do, and I cannot bear the thought of trying to write Christmas cards and choose presents.  What is happening to me?? 

It is making me so sad because I feel that I can no longer find pleasure in the simplest of things.  I feel that I am getting ready to leave this earth, even though I should have many years in front of me.  It's a terrible way to feel because I have so much to live for.

Sorry.  I find it hard to post my feelings because I know that I am so much better off than so many on here, I read your posts and I feel so selfish for feeling depressed.

I just wondered if I was alone in dreading the festive season coming.

Patxxx

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  • erickorbly
    erickorbly patricia44773

    Posted

    What do you really want to do? There's an answer between hiding & the stuff you dread.
    • vickylou
      vickylou patricia44773

      Posted

      Hi patricia

      i thought it was me being a bit dense! I don't understand the comment either. I had visions of you hiding presents!!

      hope you are doing ok I will be glad when Christmas is over, although I will enjoy seeing my grandson whose 7 open his presents. He's already hypa now, so hate to think what he'll be like by the 25th!!

    • erickorbly
      erickorbly patricia44773

      Posted

      I guess I can explain by sharing a little of my way of doing Christmas. I never felt like cards from a store were worth the paper they're printed on, I enjoy giving a few presents to kids but I don't give many to other adults & I prefer to not receive any as well. All that stuff is corporate materialistic crap.

      For the holidays I try to enjoy good food, get extra sleep on rainy days at home, go see a few movies, & enjoy some decor. I might do some holiday related social things but I also might not.

      Christmas is still Christmas without store bought junk & lame redundant gatherings. Don't worry about what other people think as long as you don't intentionally hurt anyone then drop the stuff that doesn't work & go with the few that do.

    • patricia44773
      patricia44773 erickorbly

      Posted

      Thank you, that all makes perfect sense and I will try to follow your advice.

      I wish you a lovely, peaceful Christmas.

      Pat.

    • patricia44773
      patricia44773 lorraine52317

      Posted

      Hi Lorraine

      I am doing OK.  I think all the good advice I have been given is working because I don't feel half as stressed and worried about it all now.  I have talked to my husband and I think he understands a little more now about how hard it is for me to socialise.  He might be more helpful now.

      Hope you are feeling alright.

      Take care,

      Pat xxxx

    • lorraine52317
      lorraine52317 erickorbly

      Posted

      I'm with you on that! But for those who once did enjoy Christmas, this period can be very hard. When this illness leaves you flat. Eg. you know you can't muster up the joyful exuberance of family members/friends expectations. it leaves sufferers feeling somewhat guilty. As for me well I have already spoken to my family and told them this is a humbug Christmas for me! Lol!!! l'm so blessed as they all understand which removes my guilt.

      How areyou doing on your journey? Hope you are doing well.

      god bless x

    • patricia44773
      patricia44773 vickylou

      Posted

      Hi Vickylou,

      I envy you so much having a Grandson .......Christmas is really all about the children isn't it?  My cat will be getting a stocking filled with goodies....but his reaction to it won't be like your Grandson's .... that's if there is any reaction at all !!!

      It will soon be all over now and I feel so much more able to cope now that I know other people feel like I do.

      I so appreciate all the lovely people on here who are alway there to help.  Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

      Pat xxxx

       

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