Cutting my alcoholic friend out of my life
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I have had a close friend around me for several months who has a drinking problem which they admit to having and Im not a drinker. This friend or now ex friend did try to get some help and support by his GP couldnt really do much for him. My ex friend did try to cut down on the cans he was drinking everyday because when I first got involved with him to help him. He was on 9 litres of Cider a day, he gave that up and went on to weak cans of lager. He stopped them for a fews days then relapsed and went back on to them. But he has refused to ever go into Rehab, why I dont know but I think he has a big fear about it. He has no one else left in his life, well no one at all. I have done a lot for this now ex friend of mine if not to much and I do know now he will be hiding from the world again drinking away. I have had to tell him I dont want nothing more to do with him unless he is willing to except real help with going into Rehab, otherwise stay out of my life. It was a hard desecion to make as I would say me and my ex friend was probably more closer then friends, but I refused any relationship with him and an alcoholic and non alcoholic do not work out at all that way. There became occasions where he would get very verbally nasty and blame all of his problems on me if he was drunk, then test me with mind games. No Im done with all of that and my ex friend is better of learning how to deal with his own inner demons on his own. He did tell me many times how much he hated his life and wanted to give up drinking, but I just dont feel like he had the strength to do it in the end. So now I believe I have done the right thing and walked away from him, even though he does live just round the corner from me which could still be a problem as long as he leaves me a lone now. If someone isnt willing to help themselves, then I believe there is no point being around people like that.
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PaulJTurner1964 wanda14337
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linda83143l PaulJTurner1964
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wanda14337 PaulJTurner1964
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PaulJTurner1964 wanda14337
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linda83143l PaulJTurner1964
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linda83143l wanda14337
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He will bring you down. Keep a distance between you.
Walking away till he wants and genuinely wants help is the only way forward.
Its not going to be easy but you must do tgst for you own health's sake
Words are nothing you need to see action from him...
No action no contact.
I will try and send private message to you later and you will see what I mean.
Good luck and love to you x
wanda14337 PaulJTurner1964
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linda83143l wanda14337
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He will blame everyone except himself, sadly he truly believes its every everyone else's
fault.
Please be prepared that he may not seek help..... If this happens fir your own sake let go and stay away. No communication at,all.
He us killing himself
Please walk away if he does nothing.
Maybe your last remark that may work is
Ask him what he wants at his funeral?
And has he enough money to pay for it.
Tell him you won't be at the fuberal as he is killing himself. Xx
wanda14337 PaulJTurner1964
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PaulJTurner1964 wanda14337
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Richardt wanda14337
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Richardt wanda14337
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linda83143l Richardt
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There is such a thing as,a personal life
Pleeaaassseee x
hope4cure wanda14337
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i totally understand tan dur situation. I think u made the right decision. Move on with UR life. If he really cares about u he will do what it takes to find sobriety.
im truly sorry u went theu so much to help and in the end u did the right thing.
HOPE4CURE