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Daughter of 13 suffers severe anxiety

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corrina88137
corrina88137

Hi my daughter has suffered anxiety for 15 months basically house bound, not attending school,,no social contact apart from myself grandparents,,seen a physcologist 3 times missed 2 appointments, headaches sickness dizziness every day,,I have tried every approach she is now getting very distressed saying she does not want too feel like this anymore,, any advice please

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  • lisalisa67
    lisalisa67 corrina88137

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    How did this begin. Was she tested for PANDAS. Check with he gp in that one. 

    Secondly did anyone rape her? Is she holding in a secret.,

    those would be the two things to find out. Otherwise im so sorry. Possible place her in in patient facility to work with her. Its horrible. They will know a lot more how to help her.

     

    • corrina88137
      corrina88137 lisalisa67

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      Thanks for your reply,,I have asked these questions sorry what is pandas,,she was diagnosed with vertigo then labrynthitis she is anemic,,she worries about everything,,I have to check about 15 times a day to see if she has a temperature,,she sleeps with all light on,,door open and a sick basin next to her it took 12 months for her to be seen by cahms after a letter of complaint,,we were told to be priority she would have to attempt suicide,,there is so little support I have kept a log of everything,,I have thought long and hard about this would medication help her
    • dalene63026
      dalene63026 corrina88137

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      If she is anemic then heart racing, dizziness, and anxiety would be symptoms! Have they treated that?? I would not put her ina facility she needs her family!!!! In the event everything is medically fine then yes meds one can help her!!!
    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67 corrina88137

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      I wouldnt consider in patient in a oublic facility for  a child at all, not well run. 

      But you do have diagnoses. is she being medicated for the anxiety at all? The anemia? And what can they do to help her with the viral labrythitis? Which is awful I had that. 

      This is what pandas is i copied and pasted it, but you already got your diagnoses..PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal Infections) occurs when strep triggers a misdirected immune response results in inflammation on a child’s brain. In turn, the child quickly begins to exhibit life changing symptoms such as OCD, anxiety, tics, personality changes, decline in math and handwriting abilities, sensory sensitivities, restrictive eating, and more.

      i wish your daughter all the best and you as well. 

  • borderriever
    borderriever corrina88137

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    corrina

    Do you know what is the route of this anxiety, to know the problems can help address Her fears and concerns. You may be able to sort out the situation

    One thing I would recommend is that She attends her appointments, in some instances in the UK you miss a couple appointments the treatment pathway will be withdrawn, just an observation.

    Have they introduced a medication yet ?

     

    If you feel She is only thirteen we normally only deal here with people who are sixteen upwards.

    Although I will say in my case, my wife phoned telephone NHS Helpline for advice if she had any concerns regarding my attitude to my situation

    Keep a hold

     

    • corrina88137
      corrina88137 borderriever

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      Hi,,missed 2 appointments and this is my concern,,without physically forcing her she feels sick,,dizzy,,headaches,,sore stomach,,we only have managed the three sessions with my dad taking her in the car,,she likes her counsellor but feels she is pushing too much,,she has been asked to walk round a park,,go to the shops,,I encourage and praise everything she does,at one point it was 19 days before she went to our local shop which is basically 50 yards away,,the only thing I can describe is that if she does something then for days after she is physically drained,,I have attended a few courses,,I have searched the Internet,,I am starting to struggle I am on my own with an 8 year old boy,,she can talk about things and def not depressed it's the social isolation that breaks my heart,,

    • borderriever
      borderriever corrina88137

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      corrina

      I noted what you have said, it is so important she attends her one to ones, I cannot stress enough on this. 

      Some areas can arrange home visits, at this time most of my appointments for depression are at home, the Specialists can see what the sitation is in the home environment and work on the most important problems.

      Anxiety when young can be the best time to control it although she will need interaction with a CPN or similar.

      Some anxiety in young people are caused by external sources and to know about those may help in the moving on process. Has there been any problems in the home environment, many questions need to be discussed and addressed.

      We are here to help

    • dalene63026
      dalene63026 corrina88137

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      Sounds like she has developed agoraphobia!!!! I had this didn't leave my house for 2 years when I did it was hell and exhausted me for days!! Exposure is the best thing though! Even though it is hard you need to force her to go to therapy don't be her enabeler!!! She don't want to go because it is hard to leave the house and talk about it!! I would google agoraphobia and explain it to her and met her know you are there to go out with her even around the block is a good start eventually it will become easier!

    • corrina88137
      corrina88137 borderriever

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      Thank you yes I totally agree,,and I know over time she will get better,,we went private before cahms but because I could not physically get her to go it fell through,,,in all honesty I feel that someone who could visit build up a relationship and take things slowly would work,,but I know the children's mental health are at breaking point,,thank you

    • corrina88137
      corrina88137 dalene63026

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      Thank you,,her grandad is the one that can get her in a car,,hopefully she will go next week and I have explained that it will take time to feel better
  • nichola91952
    nichola91952 corrina88137

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    Hi corrina, has ur daughter been tested for a B12 and folate deficiency? That has been linked to depression, in my case it was making my anxiety worse.
    • corrina88137
      corrina88137 nichola91952

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      Hi she just has blood test done all were fine apart from being anemic,,she has also been referred to the ent hopefully will hear soon,,I know it's extremely important for me to remain upbeat and positive in the beginning I found it really hard,,I sometimes blame myself as I am an emotional person but I need to deal with the now,,thank you

  • dee53012
    dee53012 corrina88137

    Posted

    Has she been tested for Celiacs? There is a lot of infomation on line, Gluten Dude is a good site. My symptoms were depression, anxiety, and panic attacs.
  • carole27374
    carole27374 corrina88137

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    My daughter was exactly the same hers was through bullying. She was diagnosed around 11 with anxiety and depression. Start of this year was the worst ever she didn't want to go on. Docs eventually put her on sertraline and has made the world of difference. I feel your pain it's a terrible feeling of helplessness for us xx

  • lewis43146
    lewis43146 corrina88137

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    heya it must be concerning with your daughter been so young. my anxiety started when i was 13 and tis also concerned my parents. The only thing you can do is to help her understand that its just anxiety and that what she is feeling is a natural response to her anxiety. Its so hard because even now as im typing this i feel a lot of symptoms that are frightening me a lot but you have to jjst try and listen to the specialists. Try to make her understand that in a very weird way its actually a good thing because even though the feelings are herrendous which they really are your body is doing what it is supposed to do in response to the anxiety. I have had this for years and it has got worse as the years go on always looking for a serious ilness because of my symptoms yet everyone telling me im fine its a terrible thing to have for such a young ag but try to tell her the more she interacts with friends and hobbies the more her mind will forget the symptoms and it might ease off a little bit. i hope it does for her x
    • corrina88137
      corrina88137 lewis43146

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      Thank you,,tbh why I never thought about joining this site before actually quite annoyed with myself,,just hearing a variety of experiences has helped slightly,,I wish there was friends,,nobody,,I live in a small community and the elderly have invited her along to dog walks,,I bought her a dog for her 13th birthday to encourage going outside etc,,I try to remain positive def gets worse at night time which I am not sure is common,,sorry to hear of your situation,,I can only empathise,,myself I have suffered depression since the age of 16 but it is under control,,she is not on any social media her world is the TVs or to draw,,just heartbreaking ,,thank you
    • lewis43146
      lewis43146 corrina88137

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      yes hun its deffinately more common on a night time thats when mine hits home hard aswel. its because on a night time your more laid back with less to do and less things to concentrate on which in turn makes you concentrate more on the actual feelings you are feeling which in turn again heightens the anxiety. it really is a horrible up and down rollercoaster just try your hardest to reassure her thst everything is ok and its a natural response to what she is feeling. I used to absolutely love fishing driving swimming boxing all of them but havnt done them in years now. yet i find if i really do push myself to do them i forget about the feelings which for a little while i feel normal again until i remember how i am gunna feel soon which brings it back on. Reasssurance hun
    • corrina88137
      corrina88137 lewis43146

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      Thanks,,I showed her your messages,,without asking we went out for a walk was only for a short time but a massive breakthrough and I feel really proud,,it is small steps but I need to stay positive and keep reassuring her x
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