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Dementia fears! Need reassurance.

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Ruthie49
Ruthie49

I hope you are all feeling ok today. My anxiety has reached new limits today and I'm in a tunnel of fears.

I'm 50 with irregular periods and many other peri symptoms for last few years including depression, anxiety, sleep disturbance (insomnia, sweats, nightmares, numbness, waking with a fright thinking there are noises when there aren't!), IBS, fatigue, dizziness, brain fog, mood swings. The mood swings have got worse the last few weeks - frequent crying, agitation, rage. I don't know whether I'm coming or going and neither do my family!

I've worried about dementia before but today I read about Lewy Body Dementia (LBD), apparently Robin Williams had it, and so many of my symptoms above can be early signs. I felt sick with fear when I read it. It doesn't help that the fatigue, dizziness and brain fog is really bad today. I'm just convincing myself that all these peri symptoms are adding up to something more serious. I'm sorry but I can't stop ruminating in anxiety and even that I'm interpreting as a sign of dementia or seriious mental disorder because I just can't seem to control my anxiety and emotions right now. Any words of wisdom or comfort would be greatly appreciated.

Thank goodness we all have each other to turn to, love and hugs to every one of you on this journey.

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  • susan21149
    susan21149 Ruthie49

    Posted

    Hi Ruthie 

    All that you mentioned is what i am going through. Depressed moods, anxieties, not sleeping well, stomach issues can't look at food at times don't know what to eat, then i to have crying spells, agitation, and rage to where i take it out on my boyfriend at times. Then i get tired and just want to sleep then there are times i can't sleep then there are times i do get dizzy and brain fog sometimes its hard to say what i want to say but i do get it out then there are times i forget things 

    Its just been really hard on my and i wish this would go away. Then there is a cyst on my ovary and the ultra sound person thought he noticed something i go tomorrow to talk to my OBGYN to see what he wants to do i pray it is not large but when the guy who did my ultra sound saw something he told me it up to my OBGYN as to what he wants to do 

    I just want to cry more and just cry but i want to be on the safe side and make sure that this cyst is not cancerous thats what i am afraid of 

    • Ruthie49
      Ruthie49 susan21149

      Posted

      Oh Susan, that description sounds like me. Just lately I am finding it really hard to control my emotions in public. My hairdresser told me a sad story as she was doing my hair yesterday and I ended up with tears streaming down my face. Other times I don't know whether to scream or cry. I feel on the edge.

      Take a deep breath and go along to your OBGYN. Cysts are nearly always benign and harmless just troublesome. I can understand your fear but your thoughts are just thoughts, they don't make your fears real. I wish I could take my own advice!! Let us know how you get on.

    • susan21149
      susan21149 Ruthie49

      Posted

      Can the cyst on the ovary cause stomach issues and urinating a lot
    • Ruthie49
      Ruthie49 susan21149

      Posted

      Yes, the pressure of the cyst on the bladder could cause frequent urination. But increased urination/irritable bladder can be a peri symptom too. I am in and out of the bathroom day and night since starting peri.
  • ellen20088
    ellen20088 Ruthie49

    Posted

    Hi Ruthie.

    I am so sorry that you are going through the braing fog, that has to be depressing as well as scary.  Our brain is what we make it - I have read research on that you have to do fun things to make the brain develop happy cells.  One example is taking up a dance class and dance as much as you can.  Another one is to a card game to get your brain to developing strategies.  I go to the casino when I am down and once I leave I am better.  these are just suggestions not a replacement for medical advice.

    • Ruthie49
      Ruthie49 ellen20088

      Posted

      Good advice Ellen. I REALLY need more fun in my life. I just never seem to feel well enough lately to commit to a regular class/hobby. I'd love to go dancing though.
  • chelo
    chelo Ruthie49

    Posted

    We are in this together!! I feel the same way many days myself. It is nice to have a bouncing board to gather some comfort and knowledge..

    Be well

    • Ruthie49
      Ruthie49 chelo

      Posted

      Thanks Chelo. Yes, this forum is great. Not many women seem to talk about this openly in the 'real' world and it's easy to feel like the only one going through it. Love to you x
  • MrsMerm
    MrsMerm Ruthie49

    Posted

    Hi Ruthie wink

    The problems and symptoms associated with peri/menopause could turn you into a hypochondriac overnight.

    at one point I felt like I may be developing MS

    I also had allergies causing my head to ache I thought I was going mad last summer

    The aches and pains, I've also had hiatus acid reflux and nausea

    sometime last year I even thought I was pregnant, bloating, boobs swollen

    However,  like you, my most recent and ongoing problem is anxiety eek nearly on the ceiling the past two days, shouting, hysteria, and crying LIKE A MANIAC lol

    Oh Ruthie stop thinking all these things hun, it's THE CHANGE and it's naff because the medical profession does not take this seriously and we are left to try and find out what we can ourselves.

                                   Nite XXXX wink 

    • chelo
      chelo MrsMerm

      Posted

      Very nice comments, your helping a lot of us.

      Thx

    • Ruthie49
      Ruthie49 MrsMerm

      Posted

      Thanks for sharing Mrs Merm and bringing some perspective. I find myself in a gloom and doom tunnel sometimes! This forum is wonderful support for us all. I find it helps to laugh about it sometimes but when it's bad my sense of humour goes missing too. We will survive this. Onward and upward menopause warriors!!
  • MrsMerm
    MrsMerm Ruthie49

    Posted

    I'M SO GLAD, I JUST HOPE THAT THE MEDICAL PROFESSION BEGING TO UNDERSTAND PER-MENPAUSE PROPERLY IN THE FUTURE

    honestly I have seen several GP's and feel that they haven't got a clue what they are dealing with

    Maybe I should write to one of the reputable medics magazines, an essay or something

                     Nite Girls

                            keep smiling XXX and love yourselves smile 

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