Depressed Girlfriend asked for Space, says she Can't Trust me...?
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Hello there,
I have been together with my girlfriend just under a year now. With our anniversary coming up soon. We both had some stress the last few months, I have moved house. She is switching jobs. During the past year when she was feeling down, she sometimes wanted her space, and sometimes wanted me to stay and keep her company.
It all started a couple weeks ago, as I was moving into my new home...the last time we saw each other was during Christmas. She didn't fell well after and a little me time (which was partly the job switching and a cold). I may have made too many suggestions trying to see her, and see my new house and that may have added to the stress. But then a week ago, after a pleasant chat on the weekend, she tells me she isn't
feeling to well. When I ask her if I can help; she tells me, that she is under a lot of stress because of me. She wants to take a break because she feels she can't trust me anymore. (The issue in question is that I've told her that I suffered from depression in that past myself). I found ways to accept that part of me, but she thinks I was lying to her and questions my honesty.
That was the last thing I heard from, as well as her wanting to be on a break. I am so confused and lost, I love her so much and want to help, but after sending her message about the issue in question and letting her know I'm there for her with occasional messages. I haven't heard from her since, I am worried this might be end of our relationship.'
I love her, she loves me too. But how can I help her, if she doesn't want my help?
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ConcernedWolf
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What's the aaaaaargh for, but I guess that best explains some feelings. Hahaha
I just tend to over worry a bit, and think she may have lost her love towards me. On the other hand we do always love cuddling before we sleep. thats good sign right?
Can I help you in return for any advice?
Cazza86 ConcernedWolf
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all kinds going through my head which is whag the arrrggghh was for
yeah im the same, but mine is because he has told me he doesnt know how he feels... before everything went downhill he would say he loved me but as soon as he started suppressing and getting down he was like i dont know.
i mean hes been through alot this year so i would imagine thats taken its toll.
haha how long have you been together?
ConcernedWolf Cazza86
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yeah I guess that's true, She has had occasional moments of being being down, she didn't want to be alone. Now that she doesn't want me it kinda hurts you know. But he hasn't said she doesn't love yet or I don't know.
That's what kinda most sad, our 1 year anniversary is coming up on 19th of February.
But I know we have never been happier this past year, and sure it's the honeymoon phase but we both love and care for each other.
I just love her so much, but if say it too often she'll feel pressured atm you know.
Cazza86 ConcernedWolf
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see weve have split up because of his mental state (his choice) but he has then lost his grandma who he was really close to so i think thats knocked him too.
i ask him if he misses me or if he has those kinds of feelings but he is down depressed he just doesnt know anything.
hes also not dealing with it, hes kind of running and trying to keep busy so hes not left with his own thoughts because he knows he has depression but hasnt been to the drs or anything to deal with it.
hes still in contact maybe not like before, it can take him ages to reply and sometimes not at all but the contact is still there...
maybe im just holding on waiting for him to realise and he never will... i dont know.
see i do get you but he would tell me he loved me even towards the end of our relationship and obviously now he doesnt, i think it all gets to much for him and he just runs and suppresses stuff.
awww that is sad, maybe she will feel like reaching out around then.
i was with mind for 2 years, honestly, the 1st year was the best year of my life, last year he really started to struggle after us having to make an extremely hard decision and i dont think he ever got past it or recovered from it
ConcernedWolf Cazza86
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mhmm....there is that and I realise that it might be a signal to let me down easy, on the other hand I still have hope. I am sorry to hear what happened and it is tough losing relatives, that's another thing to come. showing her I'm here for her, once her grandpa dies. Not joining inter anything but he is quite old, and I have enough love and hope for her to return. I know we have some gifts for each other, I got her some telly cute PJs. 😊
I've never told her this but I feel she is the love of my life. Thus planning to propose later this year. But telling her now might be too much for her you know.
Cazza86 ConcernedWolf
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i think the same thing, like is this his way of just trying to distance himself so i give up?!
i am the same, still feel hope that we have more to come.
see my guy and i had plans, like move in together in our own house, start a family... he and i have very similar morals and like you, i feel like we are soulmates and are supposed to be together
ConcernedWolf Cazza86
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Yeah that's how we feel around each other, never had any major arguments and we both always felt it was kinda right. Our last few times together, we weren't "safe" because the trust is there.
We even talk about moving in one day, and atm we both dislike children, but we also joked about it being different being our own.
All we can hope is that True Love really exists, and live happily ever after 😂
Oh dear look at me, such an old romantic 😂😂
Cazza86 ConcernedWolf
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just feels like he pushes me away because he knows that i care and like he doesnt understand why...
i dont know i would wanna know anyone after all this stuff again, its to hard to keep hurting