Desperately trying to help my friend
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Hi, I’m desperately trying to help my best friend get help with alcohol.
I have been sober for 7 years so I do have a bit of experience but she is much worse than I was.
She is drinking 6 litres of cider and 2 bottles of wine a day.
She has all the signs of liver damage, does not eat, lost use of bodily functions. She will not get help, refuses to leave the house. She’s been to a few councilling sessions(drunk)
Doesn’t sleep, constantly topping up alcohol levels.
Her husband and I really don’t know what to do. Can’t physically force her out of house. Don’t have money for private rehab.
My fear is she is just gonna die, feel helpless.. Nothing is scarring her anymore. Must be something! Please help. I’m in the UK. Xxx
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vickylou lisa99066
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gwen45436 lisa99066
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What a terrible situation to be in - for all concerned. To not want to stick around and get help for her daughter's sake is very very sad. That poor child must be going through hell at that age. Your friend is on a hiding to hell - and the fact that alcohol can do this is criminal. I don't think any suggestion is going to get through to her - probably the only thing that will, in my humble opinion, is when something happens to her and she is taken ill and hospitalised; the ramifications of what alcohol can suddenly present are endless. Then stark reality might hit her in the face, especially when loved ones visit and she has had time to think long and hard. You are a brilliant friend and she is really lucky to have you.
I wish her and her family well - and you too.
km45 lisa99066
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Personally, I think a family intervention is required. I have had a couple of friends that that was the only thing that worked. Husband need to issue altimatum of get help or he takes their child and you will have no place to live. I’m assuming she doesn’t work and is being supplied the alcohol by her husband. I know some people will probably disagree with me but that is my two cents. Someone needs to protect that poor child and stop enabling your friend.
Good luck, and please let us know how things get on.
lisa99066 km45
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He had so much to contend with at the moment. Helping him with his daughter is a massive help.
I have told the mother that this is what I warned her would happen. Her daughter would pull away from her, it’s a toxic environment for her.
Hope this shocks her enough
Tough love!
vickylou lisa99066
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Her daughter will resent her, especially the older she gets. She’s chosen alcohol over and above her family, which is hard for her family, especially her daughter to forgive.
Someone must be helping or enabling her to drink to this extent. How would she still be able to drink if she had no access to money and no-one bought her drink? I’m not suggesting to cut her money and drink suddenly, but it certainly worked for me.
No access to money and no-one buying alcohol for me, made me realise how bad the situation was and I had to change.