Desperation

Been through a few (failed) hip scopes and found the narcotics made me very emotional. I traded away the pain for being free of the narcotics, and was glad to do it. I went thru the same thing you did, i'm uyre many of us have, what works for me may not work for you, but that's what I did. Narcotics played hell on my emotions, oxy was the worst. I'd literally rather be in pain than sad all the time. I'm sure it will get better for you, please keep us posted.

Just take one day at a time your doing great I did read that is was quite common to feel depressed around the 6/8 week mark take one day at a time you will get there x

Oh Linda sorry you feel this way. I Remember being petrified for 12 weeks about dislocation. Feeling that lump will go in time. I said to my surgeon I'm being silly but I can feel a lump. Your body will soon get used to it. Your muscles sound as I feel they are extremely tight. Have you seen physio or been given any exercises to stretch them? Sending lots of hugs your way xx

Hey Linda,

I still have a lump feeling in my groin when I lift my knee up past 70 degrees and am at 10 weeks. Also have tendinitis in my groin area which still needs babying. I finally put a 1/4" lift in my shoe to equalize my leg length because it was making me weary (and slightly depressed). But compared to where I was, things really do keep getting better every day. Some days are definitely harder than others.... like being amazed that I'm stiff one day and not the next. The pain killers are probably messing with ur emotions too.

In regard to you grandmother, that sounds really emotionally difficult to bear. Is she cognocent? If she is maybe someone in your family could help you do FaceTime with her in the hospital....it's not the best solution but at least you would get to see her and tell her that you love her. So sorry for the awful timing.

Hi Linda,its a wonderful group here,& it's OK to vent. Please remember that you have had a big operation! For many people it can take a good year or more to get back to normal.I am investing in Cherry juice,its good for joints,also I am going to try a magnet bracelet,too see if it helps.I have awful sleeping problems as well.Ihave a warm milky drink with honey 'have rescue remedy,at nigh.I also listen to a relaxation Cd.Hope this help I also have Reflexology & i have crystal s that helps.Regards Amanda h

This is wha many hippies go thru. Depression is not always discussed by the dr. It may help to take a antidepressants for a whoe to Eli you get thru This ruff journey. My dr put me on them as my hormones from the stress from surgery and recovery can be quite overwhelming. 

Eat at well exercise a and this will passes soon. 

Best wishes.

Vent away, Linda! Your situation sounds very difficult, and it is understandable that you are so down in the dumps. Post-op depression (even without other negative circumstances like you have) is quite common. I read that you will talk with your doctor about this, and that is good. Keep talking with doctors until someone has some effective treatments and help for you. You have a number of legitmate concerns and physical problems. I hope you will reach out for help with all of them. Some things you can't fix, such as not being available for your very elderly grandmother, or to be able to help with your granddaughter. We can only do what we are able to do, and that's hard to accept sometimes.

Best wishes to you finding some help and some peace. I feel so fortunate that as I have had strong family support over the last 14 months since my failed hip replacement, and will continue to get that help with my new surgery in 3 weeks. I also don't have any loved ones in need of my hands-on support. I can't imagine what you are going through. Take good care of yourself, my dear!