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So, long story but my friend( I say friend but we were more at times, big feelings there on my part and I thought his) went into rehab in June for 6 weeks and it really helped him. We were in contact for a week after he came out by text, but one day after I asked him what I thought was a normal question he said, we need to have boundaries around what I can ask and basically said we should stop contact. Said it wasn't healthy for him or me because it brought back memories of when we would drink. That was 7 weeks ago. He said he would be in touch when he was doing the making amends part of AA programme.
I suppose I'm still struggling with it. I've being doing some self care work on myself, looking at codependency traits I have which have helped, but I still find it hard that in the last 7 weeks it hasn't crossed his mind or had a weak moment and texted.
To give bit of background, before he relapsed, he would text me many times a day and ring as many. All the effort was coming from his side mainly. I hadn't drank for months to support him, yet he says contact with me brought back memories of us drinking( earlier times perhaps, or my most recent visit when he relapsed on alcohol and cocaine).
So I'm wondering am I deluded, did he just bin me as that was convenient or could he still have feelings but ignore me?
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