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Detoxing without benzos

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Paper_fairy
Paper_fairy

Hi everyone, hope no one is suffering and in pain. If you are, just remember that most of the people on this site want you and me to get well again. Some people just get sober straight away( lucky them) though the majority of us, it takes time. So please stay on the forum and don't ever feel you're a failure and give up. You can get well again..

 

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  • susan60053
    susan60053 Paper_fairy

    Posted

    Hi Paper fairy and all you other friends. Sorry for late reply did not feel good yesterday ( you can all guess why ) this morning forgot my password so had  to do that again - so many different passwords for everything all written down somewhere ! ! ? ? This for me has been a confusing disscusion different drugs mentioned that I've never heard of but I take what I can from it and know that I am not alone in this constant battle with Alcohol.It was my birthday Thursday and in good shape to enjoy a lovely day out with Hubby.Sober no thoughts of Alcohol almost 80 per cent better. Post came lots of lovely cards from friends&Hubby,BUT not one from my youngest son.Anyway although being upset tried to enjoy day out. Lunch good walk round National Trust place they useually raise my endorphins level and make me happy. But the lack of card kept festering so on the way home I made excuse to pop into shop for cigs bought half bottle of Vodka ( all i could fit in bag without looking obvious ) Straight upstairs to have large swig magic ! ! Sadness subsiding at last. Needless to say yesterday I felt rubbish and vowed again never to drink.Why are some of us so WEAK we have to be drawn into depression and misery for ourselves and the people around us because of Alcohol ? I honestly do try to be strong but it's not enough I guess I will just have to try harder. Sorry I have rambled on. Love Susan X
    • RHGB
      RHGB susan60053

      Posted

      Anxiety, stress, depression, we all deal with it in different ways. Some seek tablets, some medicate with alcohol. Whatever we use, we are trying to fix our bodies, with chemicals and in the long term, none of them do us any good, be it medication from the off licence or from the doctors.

      Ad hoc trying to give up alcohol will not work, or for very few people. You need  a plan.

    • susan60053
      susan60053 RHGB

      Posted

      Thank you for taking the time to read my post.You are so right about the management of stress etc. Although I don't know which plan to try next ! I seem to have tried them all and failed. The reply which is being moderated is roughly speaking ( if I repeat it again the same thing will happen ) was i believe the lack of card was punishment for being drunk the last time son came to visit - I completely messed the whole weekend up and it could have been so enjoyable - lesson learnt i hope. I'm not sure what Ad hoc means ?
    • RHGB
      RHGB susan60053

      Posted

      Ad hoc = Impromptu, improvised, make do, off the cuff, i.e. in an unplanned way.

      Can I make a suggestion. Have you spoken to your son since then, and cleared the air? If not, why don't you pick the phone up and talk to your son, I don't think he will be enjoying the situation either.

      I'm not trying to be moralistic, or trying to suggest how to conduct your affairs. But it is obviously troubling you and I know what it is like to fall out with parents and what the consequences can be. I never really got on with my father, so I left home (ran away actually) at 16 and never really hit it off with him. He died last year, I went to the funeral for the family, but I wouldn't be having sleepless nights if I hadn't of gone.

      Remind me, which plans have you tried so far.

  • susan60053
    susan60053 Paper_fairy

    Posted

    Hi All again. Meant to add on my previous reply that son did not forget my birthday ( he never useually forgets ) No it was a punishment for me being Drunk most of the weekend when he came to visit us two weeks ago and I was a real pain useually am when when I'm in that state ! I am so depressed again- would love a glass of Wine to take edge off -then it all starts again ! Have just taken a couple of citalopram so they may help although they make me sleepy and I need to do something positive like going shopping,gardening or even cleaning ! ! It's a lovely day & I'm sitting indoors feeling sooo sorry for myself it's unbelievable that I'm wasting yet another precious day . That's it then must force myself to do something? Bye for now.Susan X
    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 susan60053

      Posted

      Hey..how are you doing?

      Go out and buy some colored pencils...crayons...markers and an adult coloring book.  This really helps me with boredom and my mind racing.

       

    • Paper_fairy
      Paper_fairy Misssy2

      Posted

      Hi Misssy. Thanks for your message. Not got soothe bag together yet as I'm still drinking. HATE IT.!!

      Went to art college when I left school and it put me off art for life! So can't do the colouring thing. My only thing that helps is reading either novels or self help stuff. Hope you're doing good!! X

       

    • Paper_fairy
      Paper_fairy nicole36330

      Posted

      No just ran out of stuff, forgot it's a bank hols. Unfortunately that's me, leave everything to the last minute, whether it's prescription drugs, petrol for car, everything. Hopeless case really x
    • nicole36330
      nicole36330 Paper_fairy

      Posted

      I am very organised with pills ect but I'm a right pikky when it comes to housework,hate it with a vengeance
    • Paper_fairy
      Paper_fairy nicole36330

      Posted

      No housework done here either. I really don't care about stuff like that anymore now..tho I cleaned the bathroom.

      Someone once said to me because I worry about everything and anything,  the ex, that my gravestone should say "what was all the fuss about?"

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 Paper_fairy

      Posted

      Hi...Its YOUR bag and it is whatever you want smile.

      When your able the day will come where you not only have your bag but some peace from this demon.

       

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 Paper_fairy

      Posted

      Hey! Don't say your a hopeless case..you are NOT.

      And I know or hope you just said that in jest.....but we have to try to erase all negative thought patterns from our mind and vocabulary.

      Certainly there are some around us that can beat us up enough. We don't have to add more to ourselves.  

    • Paper_fairy
      Paper_fairy Misssy2

      Posted

      Thanks Misssy. Can't wait to be where you are now. I'm crying out for help  to be where I once was. Mostly sober, 

      But no joy. I'd do anything to be back on track...no joy. 

      I keep trying but at times I just give up...as no one wants to help. I'm not worth saving really xx

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 Paper_fairy

      Posted

      You did it again! "Im not worth saving really".

      Say....I'm worth it and I am going to do this!

    • RHGB
      RHGB Misssy2

      Posted

      Yes, what a silly statement.
    • RHGB
      RHGB Paper_fairy

      Posted

      Jeez, missus has had to work this weekend, so I've been doing the house tidying, hoovering, upstairs and downstairs, cutting the lawn (it's 150ft long), all the washing up, taking the dog for its three walks a day (I always do that), feeding the chickens on the alotment and clearing their sh*t out of the coop. And generally making sure the house is running okay, the only thing I refuse to do, is the ironing - that's women's work.
    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 RHGB

      Posted

      I refuse to do ironing and I am a woman...I buy clothes that don't wrinkle.

      We could digress and get into a topic of what we believe is men and womans work and I'm sure most of us would disagree...Lol...lets not. smile

    • vic67405
      vic67405 Paper_fairy

      Posted

      Don't ever say or think you not worth saving.

      You absolutely are.

      One day at a time xxx

    • nicole36330
      nicole36330 Misssy2

      Posted

      I don't iron either (or very little )

      The secret is to get things out of the washing machine straight away and put tops on hangers

    • Robin2015
      Robin2015 vic67405

      Posted

      Good reply Vic...one day at a time and I have never been to the AA but it DOES MAKE SENSE...Robin
    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 nicole36330

      Posted

      Sometimes when I do iron I make things worse smile.

      Like...burning the clothes....I do the same as you - straight out of dryer...and even if I dont get them in time...I don't care if they are wrinkled....my mother told me to get a wet towel and put the garmet that is wrinkled back in dryer...I don't even have the energy to do that...

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