diagnosed 1 day ago GH

Thank you very much for your time, I must say how scared of water I am. The pain makes me scream loud curse words but I will try pouring the water while I do it. Thank you for your time, the last doctor I saw was very short and gave me no advice for pain or no comfort and I must say I was very distraught. I had never had anything before then all of sudden this. I have been dealing with the pain for the last week, do you have any idea when the ulcers will go away. I just cant seem to take it much anymore. Thanks greatly,

Kelly

Same here. I've always had a very healthy vagina, then suddenly BAM!!

The pain will lessen over the course of 1-2 weeks, but it may take another week or two for things to truly get back to normal. For me, the painful peeing was worst in the first week, much better in the second week (but I got a few more new lesions; luckily they didn't hurt), and I felt fully normal down there in all respects at three weeks, but I have a couple of bumps under the hair that never ulcerated and have yet to completely go away, otherwise I'm all good. Touch wood!

If you dilute your pee by drinking enough water/fluids, it won't burn much when you urinate. Rinsing while you pee will stop your urine from stinging any external lesions and get rid of the infected urine, which can be irritating to the vaginal opening. Remember to pay dry, not wipe. Applying *diluted* tea tree oil is both antiseptic and can offer soothing relief if you have any itching.

Hope that helps!

Also, im very new to this. How do I find the forum page u recommend I take a look at that u pinned?

*pat dry, I mean. Also, you can take paracetamol or ibuprofen for general pain, or possibly pyridium just for the burning urination (used for normal UTIs), but check with your doctor first regarding the latter.

It's on the Genital Herpes Simplex (this group forum) homepage at the top, under my username.

Direct link is https://patient.info/forums/discuss/genital-herpes-useful-info-for-those-looking-for-answers-like-me--482438

Thank you very much, yes he keeps pointing that out but I blame him for past girls hes been with. I have said many hurtful things. You are right, I should be understanding he is probably experiencing the same emotions im going through. I just want to mad for awhile and I just feel lost in the dark with it. 2 min convo with the doctor and it felt like my heart fell in my stomach. This means that I take medicine everyday forever right, that I cant have sex at times of break out? Im an active person so to be told all the cant is making me want to rip my hair out

I know exactly how you feel. I'm very sexual so hearing I had herpes was like the biggest punch to the gut. You wouldn't want to have sex during an outbreak. It's so painful already. You have the right to be angry! I just don't want anyone to make the mistake I did of going off and now having to apologize. It sucks. I'm still healing..almost done. And I went and bought myself a sex toy. While I still have to figure out how the hell I'm going to bounce back with sex..I'm not dead and I won't pretend to be.

Hello again, im on day 2 of meds. I seem to feel some relief until I go pee... however after a shower I was putting vaseline on the ulcers yesterday and today some white stuff came from infected area. First time inwent pee and felt no pain. Does this mean that the ulcers have popped and draning?

Yeah. If you're seeing pus it's draining. So make sure when you pee you pat those areas dry too. And when you pee carry a bottle of water and pour it on your vagina while you pee. That method saved me. And try not to wear underwear. Let the area breathe! Really important

You had mentioned that yeaterday and I wiah I knew that 1 week ago, it made a WORLD of difference.. I actaully didnt feel like I was going to chip my teeth from grinding so hard while using the bathroom. So its a good sign that they are draning. My partner is the culprit, I think I mentioned that already, but since im on antibiotics and when I feel better would it be ok to engage in intercourse? Do I need to finish out all medication and even then what if it comes back after we do it again when im done with antibiotics. Im so sorry to bother you.. I just have no one to talk to and you have been beyond 100% helpful and emotionally life saving.

Honestly I'm trying to figure out the same thing. I don't know how long after healing you should wait to have sex. I personally want to wait a little bit. If you're having sex with the same person that gave it to you I think everything is okay. You can't get more herpes unless you get a different type. And you are no bother at all.

Supposedly once your symptoms are fully gone and the skin completely healed, you are good to go regarding sex. However, my thinking is like yours. If it's with the same person who gave you GH, then this is fine, although I'd be careful in the first 3-4 months while the body is still building antibodies.

If with a new partner, however, I would rather wait. Newly infected individuals are supposedly more contagious in the first year, plus I want my body to regroup and be less susceptible to other cr@p, so I'm tempted to wait at least 6 months. Lol, that seems like forever!!

@Kelly - Glad you are feeling better! The pouring water while you pee trick always seems to work, plus keeping your urine diluted. Some of the other answers you are looking for are in that link I posted earlier. Have a read.

P.S. What annoys me is how all websites only talk about GH and sex in the context of a committed monogamous relationship. Also, they only talk about sex after a general/recurrent outbreak, not a primary one, which is another reason why I've been digging for info on immunity, HSV type cross-protection, contagiousness, etc. Health and advice websites need to get with the times and ask GH folk what they want to know!

Ive read so many different things. When I urinate the stinging has stopped but I cant see inside to see if legions are gone. Like I said earlier ive been on meds for 24 hrs now. Just curious if its ok to give it a go. Same partner but done want to cause anymore pain then ive already been through. Maybe I should finish up meds but its very frustrating in my relationship

Since this is a primary outbreak and you aren't out of it yet, I would wait longer. If you try too soon, it may be painful and could worsen your outbreak. Sex can be a trigger for GH.

Also, especially if you have HSV-1 and never had it orally before, be wary of autoinoculation (spreading it to other areas of your own body). Autoinoculation is more likely to occur during a primary outbreak until enough antibodies have been established (3-4 months from infection).

I say wait at the very bare minimum a month. Ideally longer than thag but if you can't wait then atleast that. As said before you don't want to agitate or irritate it more. It will just set your healing back and you don't want that!