Disheartened
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My closest friend has just basically told me to get a grip. We are of a similar age (46) and she says I'm the only women in our age group, including herself, she knows who is ' suffering' with bad peri/meno symptoms. Apparently everyone else is doing great and getting on with it. I now feel like she sees me as a complainer and weak. The thing is I don't personally know any women who are having it bad (which is good thing - I wouldn't wish it on anyone) so maybe I am just one of the unlucky few or I am a complainer and weak. Who knows, all I do know is the brain fog, dizziness, nausea, neck aches, headaches, extreme fatigue, hair loss etc etc is very real, if only to me.
Sorry to babble on, but feeling sad and a bit alone right now. If your female friends can't sympathise it's a lonely old place to be.
But hey, reading all your posts on here helps tremendously - l don't know how I'd cope without this place. Thank you all for your posts and I wish you all as smooth and symptom free transition as possible.
Every day is a day towards getting to the other side!
Happy Sunday!
Love and best wishes Dazed xx
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looloo43 Dazednconfused
Posted
Hello hun. firstly like many other ladie have said on here, if your friend was a true friend she should be more sympathetic & try to listen & help you, not disregard you. I was very lucky when i spotted my changes of going into peri, & sought help from my gp who is a specialist in gynae/menopause. i probably went about 3 or 4mths with awful symptoms of brain fog, erratic low mood, random tears, very short temper(so not me), terrible all day headaches, palpitations, anxiety & panic attacks, giddiness to name the worst. my doc diagnosed me with perimeno in april based on symptoms & irreg bleeding & after much discussion i went o n hrt in april. i am now back in control of my mental symptoms, rarely get the all day headaches now either. my bleeding is still very irreg, & i am due to have another transvaginal ultrasound soon, but on the whole, hrt helped me tremendously. when the symptoms began, it was like an evil sprit had entered my body & taken me over-best way to describe.
I would leave your "friend" to herself, she may realise when she doesn't hear from you for a while that get over it probably wasn't the kindest thing to say. You will always get support on here.
Maybe you could contact your doc surgery & see if they have a specialist gynae/meno /well woman gp or nurse-many do these days, & make an apointment to see them & discuss things.
xxx
Maestra Dazednconfused
Posted
I'm sorry.
The whole point of having a friend or being a friend is to show some compassion for another human. I was on a girl's trip recently and had a miserable period, and although I was trying to keep it to myself, I didn't want to drink with everyone. That was taken as me ruining the trip.
Some "friends" just don't understand the meaning of the word. If you can't find someone in your social circle to undertand, at least this form is full of decent humans who try to help out.
Trishann Dazednconfused
Posted
Isn't that terrible! I have the same thing happening to me.. people do not understand and they say "Be strong and tough it out!!" Or I'm weak person! I just say you don't understand the pain I go through every single day! It's horrible and scary. Nobody knows until they are in the same boat as we are. I keep myself active and busy so I don't focus on the pain. Prayers lifted your way!