Disheartened

Hopefully you saw the post about things to eat during these tough times - I am so sorry you feel the way you do and I know it is real, but you need to change your eating habits and drink 8 glasses of water every day - first thing every morning drink a large glass of water with lemon juice - you might even think of doing a detox of your body to rid yourself of all the built up toxins - check your health food store on how to detox - you are the only one who can make it all happen - we are all different and need different things - don't get up and say oh this hurts that hurts, I feel awful - instead get out of bed and stand tall and tell yourself you are going to have a good day - you are going to work at being good to yourself and do whatever it takes to feel better - be positive - you can do it

I feel bad for my family !!! I have a really great guy in my life, I have two sons still at home 19&15. Sometimes they tip toe around me and I feel such remorse when I have snapped at them .

They sometimes look at me like my head just spun around .

The thing is it affects everyone differently, I know two friends who had no symptoms, others like me and you, are having hair loss, mood swings, bone pains, heart palpitations and more!!! It's the low oestrogen causing it all which fluctuates during the month. I'm on HRT which has really helped, but still get some low mood and mood swings at the same time each month.

Hang in there, all will be ok, we will come out of it, just be kind to yourself and forget what other people say or think. Do whatever you can to make you feel better.

Hi Dazednconfused, everyone here is experiencing just about the same thing as you. I have been experiencing a host of symptoms for 3 years now. When I am at my worst, I feel alone and crazy. My husband of 27 years tries to be understanding. I know it is hard for him also.

I don't have many female friends or Co workers that I can tell my problems too. I thank God for this website. It is nice to know that you are not the only one going through this. I have been feeling more like myself now. I just hope the symptoms stay away forever.

It does get better. Now is the time to focus on you, take time out for yourself. Get out of the house, walk , window shop go site seeing by yourself. Find things that make you smile, even when you feel awful. Pay attention to your body, exercise.

I think peri/menopause forces women to start taking care of themselves , start finding things to do that make us happy. We spend the first part of our lives focusing on others, now we are forced to focus on us.

You are not alone! I suffer from all of these too. Just try to stay positive. This group helps you stay sane so vent all you want. Hugs to you.

Your friends time is coming trust me! Everyone body is different and some of us start perimenopause MUCH sooner than others HOWEVER every woman will go through it. One day when it hits your friend she will be back apologizing and asking how did you cope! Don't you dare feel bad YOU are NOT a complainer or weak this stuff is real and not easy to deal with or GET through a big HUGS to you!

They don't have a clue. Don't take it to heart.  

sory re your freind, freinds shld support whatever and you dont need her thats for sure.   You are not alone, as this site will proove, i am like you and you are not alone thats for sure.  Good advice to look after yourself, try all you can to help ease the horrible symptoms.  they are all normal menopause im afraid, all the best to you.

keep in touch, praps we should arrange a time each week so we can all be online does that sound good idea?  debi

Wow so many fantastic replies and comments to my post. Thank you all ladies - your support and good wishes mean a lot and I'm very grateful especially as I know so many of you are also dealing with this trying time.

I said this on an earlier response but I'll say it again - I am so thankful for this site and all the amazing, compassionate and brave women on it who post and take the time to support others. How on earth did women get through this before the Internet I've no idea.

Wishing you all good health and good times on the other side. In the meantime keep posting and sharing - we will carry each other over the finishing line!

Hugs to you all

Dazed xx

Hi sweetie i to am having the same as you isnt it hell im 53 and was sure i was coping and getting on top of this but im not at the mo, it all calmed down now flareing up again

See, you are not alone. So cheer up we are all here for each other. Speak soon.

Hi

I, too, am one of the chosen few who seems to have every meno symptom ever recorded.  It's been going on since I was 50, but my hair started thinning in my late 30's.  I didn't know what was causing it at the time, but it makes sense now.  I am now 61 and have been through the wringer.  I feel like I have tried everything to feel normal again.  People say they understand but how can they?  You get out of bed in the morning feeling like a 90 year old, everything hurts, you're hot, you're cold and it goes on.  Anyway, HRT helped for a couple of years and then I decided to see how I went without it.  All the symptoms came back but they did seem to be less intense with the exception of the VA.  I couldn't bear my partner near me.  Luckily, I recently went to a gyno and she prescribed a vaginal cream.  It took a couple of week to work but now I feel almost normal again, well in that area anyway .  Good luck with your journey.  For me, I don't think it ends.

We are here for you as we suffer together!😤