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Do you get sick of saying 'I'm fine!'?

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GeorgiaS
GeorgiaS

What do we say when people ask 'How are you?' I don't want to lie and keep saying 'I'm fine' but I don't want to put them in an awkward situation by saying 'Terribible if you must know!'.

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  • bethany65
    bethany65 GeorgiaS

    Posted

    Yes, I am sick of this question, in particular from those who know what I have and am still going through. On the one hand I knot example my husband must be tired of hearing me talk about all my pain so I try to hide it, which I know is not healthy. I feel guilty because although it is " for better or worse", he did not sign up for this. With my other family members or close friends, I find that I am more honest if they ask, since they are not around me 24/7 and honestly it probably goes in one ear and out the other as soon as our discussion ends. To answer your question, yes it's very difficult to answer especially if you want to be honest.
    • georgeGG
      georgeGG bethany65

      Posted

      I never suggested it is easy. An off hand I'm fine will tend to build up unsympathetic attitude towards what you can actually do. Part of the 'lazy' reputation might well be caused this way. I say again, it is worth a lot of thought.
    • georgeGG
      georgeGG GeorgiaS

      Posted

      If the enquirer is hypocritical there is no reason why we should be so too. Polite, brief honesty seems best.
    • SteV3
      SteV3 georgeGG

      Posted

      I always find being brief is just too short, that's why I beat about the bush! and end up with long posts!
    • SteV3
      SteV3

      Posted

      Now, I need an Edit button - that sentence sounds a bit wrong! LOL eek
    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS SteV3

      Posted

      Actually that was the best post you've ever made because it was short! Hehe Running away now. eek
    • SteV3
      SteV3 GeorgiaS

      Posted

      Now, how did I guess I would rattle Georgia's cage? LOL razz
    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS SteV3

      Posted

      Made me laugh!!!!! razz Didn't know you were capable of short. Hehehe
    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS SteV3

      Posted

      Glad to hear it, otherwise you might wear your wife out! cheesygrin
  • SteV3
    SteV3 GeorgiaS

    Posted

    Hi Georgia,

    Well, you can always use the sarcastic reply, that I use sometimes! lol

    'How are you today?' - 'Well, I'm going to the see the Doctor, how do you think I feel stuck in a wheelchair?

    In hospital, this always bugs me! People come in and always ask that stupid question.

    'How are you feeling today?' - 'Oh, I'm amazing stuck in a hospital bed'

    or the real downer....

    'I bought you some grapes!' - 'Oh, thanks "Didn't you read the sign ( Nil by Mouth )?'

    The best one I had was a locum Doctor... obviously, didn't know me and what I'm like with sarcasm! A female doctor...hehe

    Doctor had a big grin on her face and said "What a lovely day it is today sir?"

    I replied "I would say that, I'm married and slept with another woman and I think I have an STD!". Her face soon changed, and even her tone of voice! Then I said "I'm joking, you're new here and do not know me like the rest of them!" LOL - after that she never fell for my comments again!

    People that know me, know exactly what I'm like. Others soon learn, even when something is getting me down and I'm depressed, I put up a front to hide it. People always think I'm happy and outgoing, - outgoing 'Yes!'.

    I seen my Oncologist yesterday, and as soon as he come in, 'Oh here we go, a massage on my nymph glands, Oops! sorry I meant, lymph nodes!" - "Then he said, I knew I recognized you, you're the funny one we had theatre years ago. One person you forget!" lol

    Regards,

    Les.

    • georgeGG
      georgeGG SteV3

      Posted

      Of course Les, the wheel chair line. Why didn't you say so? You don't have those fool questions any more. Your last friend cleared off, when was it?  .,. .er. . .1887? cheesygrin
    • SteV3
      SteV3 georgeGG

      Posted

      LOL... lol George!

      Yesterday, I was freed from Oncology!! 7 years of remission, and Officially, out now! Yayyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!  Mind you, those 7 years passed quickly, considering I can remember my first remission like it was yesterday, even my wife mentioned it yesterday! It was so depressing seeing so many children with cancer from just 3 counties! It is something you do not forget very easily.

      How is George today? smile So, nice and hot here, I could strip off and get arrested for having a Mr. Blobby body! hehe

    • georgeGG
      georgeGG SteV3

      Posted

      Now that IS worth smiling about, Les. I am so glad for you.

      ((((((((((((((((((((((((( hugs. )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

      and yyyyyyyyyyyYYYYYYYYYYYYIIIIIIPPPPEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE,!!

      absolutly marvellous..

      ((((((((((((((((((((((((( hugs. )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

      and yyyyyyyyyyyYYYYYYYYYYYYIIIIIIPPPPEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE,

      Good bye remission

      Hello. CURE. YES YES YES CURE.   razz  yes razz  yes. razz

    • SteV3
      SteV3

      Posted

      Actually, when I'm on Facebook and someone says 'How are you?' I just reply with 'Fine thanks, u?" and then they give me a rundown on how bad they are!!!  Really, ironic!!

      Guess next time I should say "Read my latest book!"....LOL

      Regards,

      Les.

    • georgeGG
      georgeGG SteV3

      Posted

      Well Les, you had to have a post that was wholly and uniquely a celebration of your cure. I am so very happy about it. 

      How very kind of you on this your special day to think of me. I take it you restrained yourself as far as sunbathing goes and have not been arrested after all. That would be an unusual way to celebrate, Free holiday at Her Majesty's expense in one of her hotels for bad lads.mmm interesting choice.

      i am fine if still a little strained. Annie has had a lengthy examination and we await the report. We hope to get the result from our GP next Tuesday, the next day she works. I hate uncertainty. That is probably why I am now "living with or after Prostate Cancer". I can have oooodles of practice trying to cope with uncertainty. One day I should get quite good at it, perhaps, er may be, yeh! Who knows! eek confused sad

    • SteV3
      SteV3 georgeGG

      Posted

      Yes, I was delighted by the doctor signing me off remission, he was a bit unsure at first. My wife and I said about the spate before Xmas last year and a possible prostate cancer going by what I told him. So, he said wait here a second let me check those scans and blood tests before letting you go, he is very thorough when it comes to cancer, really nice guy had a chat about everyday life to begin with before checking me out. Once he seen the records from before Xmas last year, he said well we don't need to see you again, but if you feel you want to see me give my secretary a ring! lol I thought cool...... I would jump for joy, if I could jump! lol

      Regards,

      Les.

    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS SteV3

      Posted

      I imagine you're a pain in the arse for nurses and doctors but brighten up their days. You certainly brighten up mine.

      Did you hear the story of a man, whose name is lost in history but whose memory will live on forever? No, neither did I! cheesygrin 

      Sorry, that's the best I can do at the moment. I'll get my laughing gas mask on.

    • georgeGG
      georgeGG SteV3

      Posted

      Yes, see my sour note to Georgia about the hard time healthy people have. mad
    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS SteV3

      Posted

      Or we could say 'Judge for yourself, I've lost a leg, I'm bleeding uncontrollably, I'm having CPR and heart massage at the moment, and I'm in a coma! I'm fine obviously!' lol
    • SteV3
      SteV3 GeorgiaS

      Posted

      hehe... Georgia! You know me too well! lol  There's always one joke that used to go around our school that always stuck in my head.

      Teacher in a classroom asking general knowledge questions to the kids. If they got the question right, she would then give them an Opal Fruit Chewie. Anyway, one kid called Joey had Aniseed Balls in a bag, and he dropped one. It rolled under all the desks until it reached the front of the class - the teacher saw it and said "Okay, Who's got Black Balls?" - Little Joey put his hand up and said "King Kong, Madam - please can I have an Opal Fruit!".

      I know thats a sad joke in this day and age, but it was funny back in my day! LOL

      Actually, I was thinking the other day about writing a book to sell on Amazon, then had second thoughts, first it would take to long, with my dam hands missing keys, then there's tax, etc... Someone mentioned it to me a few weeks ago, saying you have done so much in your life even though you're disabled. At first, I thought do I take that as a compliment or something else.... With me, stories always have two sides has they say!

      Regards,

      Les.

    • SteV3
      SteV3 GeorgiaS

      Posted

      Georgia, me and nurses! lol I could tell you a few stories but they would be removed from these forums, not for profanity but what the contents were about.

      And they happened because I was high as a kite from 3 types of painkillers, and my 2 sons thought it would be funny for me to say something to nurses walking by, needless to say they did not think I would do it, and when I did both my sons didn't know where to look and the nurses must of told the Sister because she had a word with me, but my wife it was his two sons telling him to say it. It was not something for little ears to hear.... and I wasn't quiet either which made it worse.

      While I was on those drugs they never tried playing pranks with me again on nurses! LOL

    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS SteV3

      Posted

      May be a long shot but when I have my degree in a few years and do the copywriting and proof reading training, and if I haven't been killed by king kongs balls in my sleep I may be able to help with that.
    • georgeGG
      georgeGG GeorgiaS

      Posted

      I am puzzled. My aniseed balls were brick red. Hard as brick too.biggrin
    • georgeGG
      georgeGG SteV3

      Posted

      Black ones, Les? That is a serious condition, unless you are King Kong, that is! , ! 
    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS SteV3

      Posted

      My mum does it all the time Les! She's pretty healthy and she never asks me how I am but gives me a run down of her lastest symptoms like having a headache or being tired from too much gardening and I find myself saying 'Awwww have a rest, put your feet up etc etc'. 

      What's that about? lol

    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS georgeGG

      Posted

      Are you intimate enough with Kind Kongs balls to know that they're black and healthy George? eek
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 GeorgiaS

      Posted

      my mums the same when we used to speak 

      i would ring her and she never even say how are you or hows it going 

      but i always got a list of her problems 

    • GeorgiaS
      GeorgiaS tiswas24537

      Posted

      We should say 'I'm dead'! They'll think 'No you're not, you're talking to me' and they'll be a bit confused at that point. What they don't know is that you've prevoiusly arranged for somone to suddenly tap them on the shoulder then hide! Hehe
    • georgeGG
      georgeGG GeorgiaS

      Posted

      Oh Georgia,

      redface my hands are on each of my burning cheeks. I have lived such a sheltered life. Oh my! Oh my! 

      And  all this while I had thought King Kong Was a brand name.

      redface and Sooooo BIG too.

       

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