Does anybody else feel normal and pretty good in the evening ?

Yes Finny ! I’m just like that too ! Takes hours to get moving and don’t feel happy in the mornings in fact feel very very down .

I’m on the estrogen patch so I don’t get hot flashes and never got them really bad anyway.

I was just thinking this morning .... is this it for life ? When do things improve ? 

I live alone so it’s all so much more magnified I feel like I’m doing a prison sentence . If only we had a date ... at least we could plan and have something to look forward to . 

I’ve never really been a morning person but this lethargy is ridiculous .

Many women go on ADs during this time and there’s a reason why .... not because we are weak or wimps but the fact that is just so terrible .

I feel for you having to travel for work .... don’t know how you do it .

Yes I wake up and think ok ... don’t feel too bad maybe this is the day ! The day things turn around and then like you I just go off and can’t get out of bed . 

Just doing normal things like errands is a chore ... I bought some tea towels today and you’d think I’d bought a house. It was so hard to do .... trying to get back to the old me where I cared about my house the decor .. somewhat obsessive sometimes but it’s better than this crap ! 

Wow Lori that sounds just like me...I went to Williams Sonoma today to purchase a Thanksgiving tablecloth that I saw they had on sale & you would think I just made the whole damn Thanksgiving dinner!  I actually thought, who am I kidding buying this, I’ll never have the energy to make a Thanksgiving dinner!  It used to be nothing for me to go to 5, 6 different stores looking for just the right tableware/accents - I used to love setting a beautiful table & entertaining constantly...now I am lucky if I throw a meal together - what happened? Will the things we love to do ever come back to us - not sure 😢

Hi Debra...I ordered everything from a market last Thanksgiving.  Even the tablecloth I ordered online!  Didn’t even eat...So exhausted, weak...I went to the ER last Thanksgiving night.  This year will be better...I am still struggling but I will not go to the ER!  I will still order the dinner though!  

Hi Lou! Hah! I get it, believe me I do.  The unfortunate thing for me is I used to love entertaining, cooking & baking (frustrated Martha Stewart) but now the joy & energy is gone...food doesn’t even taste that good anymore, but I am praying it will come back Here’s praying no more trips for you to the ER!!! 🤞🙏

I was just thinking about all the entertaining I used to do ... recipes friends over for dinner cooking all day and enjoyed it. 

I’ve not cooked a recipe or had people over for dinner in 18 months .... my joy for everything has gone . Even clothes shopping !

I will know I’m better when the UPS man is coming everyday with boxes. I may have sent most of the stuff back but at least it was living being excited about something 

Nothing brings joy ! Even if somebody offered me a private jet to Paris and an unlimited budget to shop .... I could not go !

It MUST come back ... right ? 

It has to ! I try so hard every day but it’s such a BIG struggle . 

Gosh I remember  preparing everything from scratch took me 3 days and nights . I just don’t have he inclination or the energy anymore . 

Please God we all feel better soon!

I wish ladies who have ‘gone through this’ and come out the other side would post more ... it would give us a lift and hope .

Yes I agree Lori...we need to hear from the warriors who survived this mega battle - I just spoke to a friend who @ the age of 61 couldn’t cope with her menopause symptoms any longer & got put on BHRT & now she is 65 and said that she feels fabulous & is never stopping taking BHRT!  She just climbed a rather large mountain in Oregon, so something must be working! I may have to re-visit the BHRT, cuz this quality of life isn’t pretty - 

Wow ! That’s a great story Debra! If it works I don’t blame her ! I’d take anything right now. 

I’ve been on the patch a few months now but it’s not lifted my mood at all. It helps for sure with the crashing fatigue but I just want to ‘feel good ‘ and not ‘depressed’ Maybe I need to give it more time .

Yes, my friend said it took some time to get her RX really dialed in, but once that happened it’s been smooth sailing.  She does go fairly regularly for blood checks etc.  She stressed that it is really important to go to a dr who specializes in bio-identicals and can dial in your RX to your needs.  I was shocked that the dr put her on hormones @ 61, cuz I went to a so called “hormone specialist/Gyno” who said she would never put me on hormones at my age of 61.  I guess this is another example of all this crazy info we get fed. Ai yi yi!

Do they put you on HRT only after you've stopped seeing your periods or can they give it to you while you are in peri. I'm still seeing my periods.

The thing is, they probably don't even look back once they are out of these symptoms. I hope I don't do that. I would want to help those who are still struggling after I've found relief.

Hi Sharcerv - I am probably not a good person to ask that question,  since I am 6 years post & never even inquired about HRT or BHRT until this year when my symptoms became intolerable.  My Peri symptoms were basically insomnia, hot sweats, weight gain, migraines & flooding...all miserable, but not earth shattering.  It’s been all the other scary symptoms in post menopause that has caught my real attention like debilitating anxiety/depression, shortness of breath, burning body parts, tingling/electric shock/vibrations, heart palpitations, muscle aches, random pains in heart, head, neck, upper GI, digestion issues, dry mouth & tongue, fog brain, fatigue, horrific flushing & etc & etc.  From my observation, it appears some women get it really bad in Peri & some woman (like me) get it really bad when all hormones seem to exit the body - I guess that’s why I never inquired about HRT or BHRT until now because I could function before, but not now - I just think you just really need to find out what’s right for you & find a dr who will work with you, so far, I haven’t found one yet - 

I wonder if it affects tastebuds? Food doesn't taste that good to me anymore either. I have some energy(I have to, I'm still working) but my house? Forget it. I'm ashamed to say I saw a cobweb the other night. Normally I would deep clean my house every other week, now I just barely do the basics. I try to keep it picked up, I clean the bathroom, mop once a month, vacuum once a week. Cooking? Sometimes, but it's usually me stopping by the deli at the grocery store and getting something.

 

That's me Lori, where the heck is my joy? I used to be so happy go lucky and I felt like the world was my oyster! What happened? I'm like you, it has to come back right?

same here with tasteless food. it seems my taste buds have left the building and took my sense of smell with them...

Yes Juanita, since hormones seem to affect the dryness in our throats & nasal passages, I would assume it also affects our taste buds.  I always remember my Mom complaining (in her 90’s) about losing her sense of smell & taste.  I always assumed it was an age related thing, but maybe it’s a hormone related thing because my Dad never complained about it.   If I have no taste buds left, no real desire for food & I feel like crap most days, then explain to me why, every time I look in the mirror, I look like I gained more weight - Ugh!!!!!

Gosh I hope so Juanita .... I can’t imagine living like this forever ! Trying to look at old photos where I’m happy and well to give me inspiration ..... it’s a long daunting road 

I know right? It's like if just walk by food the calories jump on your body! 😂😂😂😂 I have to make myself eat three meals during the week. Most weekends I only eat one meal a day, which is totally not good for you.

My smell is ok. Not like it used to be though. For a while I couldn't wear or stand to smell any type if perfume or cologne. That passed, but food most of it tastes the same. Sad, I'm a big foodie.

Mine too! 😂

Thanks for your reply. I haven't found that doctor that will work with me yet. I guess that's why I've been wading through this kind of aimlessly. I thank God for this forum. It has been a wealth of knowledge and resources not to mention, encouragement.

@debra..I don't know if you've seen an old post that Juanita posted about that commercial??? She said it's of a vibrant menopausal woman hiking in the mountains (something like that)? I got a good laugh to myself thinking maybe it's your friend? LOL! This post did inspire me to strongly consider the BHRT! What a story!

Yes I’ve seen that ad ... remind to laugh when I have time 🤣 we need a REAL AD!! The panic dizziness holding for life onto the shopping cart... dirty hair and clothes ... closing the curtains before it’s dark ... and don’t forget the tears! 

H Finney - No, I don’t think I recall that post of Juanita’s, but frankly anybody hiking at this juncture in our fractured life is either a masochist or somebody that is on something that they need to share...just saying - Hah!

l did laugh when I saw that ad. It's totally ridiculous! It represents maybe .0001 percent of menopausal women. Yesterday I had an awful day at work. So when I stopped by the store to pick up something to eat I also bought two bottles of wine. Am I turning into an alcoholic? And now my Supervisor just told us something now I feel I have to resign. It's going mean tons more work and when we're on call being called out way more like all the time. At almost 59 I'm not interested in any of this mess. Every time we get a new Sergeant, they change how our unit does things trying to prove themselves(this guy hasn't been a Sergeant very long). I'm sick of people trying to prove themselves and climb the ladder on my back!!! This is my 11th Sergeant in as many years. I'm over it.  Sorry rant over.

Oh Juanita - I am so sorry about your stressful situation at work, I frankly don’t know how you handle it - I help my husband with his business & can barely handle that. If I had to deal with multiple personalities, I might just loose it.  I chuckled about you buying the wine, I did the same thing the other day (was having a good day) had a glass of wine & the flushing/sweating started then the reflux & I just thought, there just isn’t a drop of pleasure left - Oy Vey! 

It's only by the grace of God that get to work every day. But if they implement these changes I will be planning my exit. We had a stupid meeting tonight. We should not have been there but whatever. I drank two glasses of wine with my early dinner. I almost hoped they would smell it on my breath and say get out!😂😂😂