Drinking every day...
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Hello. I've just signed up here because I thought it might help to acknowledge somewhere, in some small way, that I have a problem with alcohol. And maybe compare notes with other people and their experiences. I'm not ready to tell friends and family yet. I'm in my late 30s and for a long time (4 years) I have been drinking something every day (with very occasional alcohol free spells) - it varies between 2-6 cans each night. Always just in the evening. The daily amount I consume isn't enormous - but over time it's become a seemingly unbreakable habit, and of course I worry about the long term health effects. I've got used to waking up with a woolly head or a hangover. My mind has an incredible duality - every morning I resolve to stop but by the evening I crave it all over again. I get so frustrated with my lack of self control. It's not social drinking - I live alone and most of my drinking is done alone. Often I'll even find myself turning down social invitations because drinking alone in my flat seems so much more pleasurable (I'm a shy and very socially anxious chap). On my own there's no-one to raise an eyebrow, or suggest that I've had enough. It's like the ultimate love/hate thing. Nothing, absolutely nothing, can de-stress me quite like alcohol - but I also know this effect is temporary and that my stress will often come back worse in the morning. I'm concerned about quitting altogether because then my friends will want to know why - and I'll have to admit that there was a problem. It feels shameful somehow. I feel my relationship with alcohol is very different to that of other people; for example I'm always amazed when I see people with half drunk bottles of wine in the fridge. If I ever have any alcohol in the house with me it gets drunk that same day! Anyway, I'm going to try and quit, starting today. I'll let you know how I get on : )
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irene25now peter97822
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Peter, I can relate to everything you're saying. I'm going thru the same thing. I cannot figure how to stop having 2-3 drinks a night... it's very difficult. I also feel it's easier to drink alone. I enjoy it. Been doing this for years. I have quit a few times but always go back to it eventually. I wish there was a magical cure, or at least something I could do to stop. I worry.
julie_ann98151 peter97822
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jess0 peter97822
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Word for word I could have written this myself. Please tell me how you're getting on?
sean_94209 peter97822
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ADEfree sean_94209
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Best luck with quitting, Sean! Have a look at Paul Turner's post as a "Plan B" if you run into problems. I used it when I was at over 80 beers per week, now I'm at less than a 6-pack per month and honestly want no more than that.
Ms_Jones peter97822
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I was listening to a hypnosis you tube about cutting down on drinking. There are literally dozens of them out there. I particularly like one narrated by a woman named Sarah who is a certified hypnotherapist. Search under "how to stop drinking you tube" and several titles will come up. I think her's is sponsored by "improve your life". It is very comprehensive and persuasive. I have found I drink far less since listening to this nightly, and I sleep much better too.
Fuzzy head and over drinking is a bummer for me. Wish I found this tape much sooner.
Plug in your earphones and doze off as you listen. Very practical and helpful.
Good Luck!
j21573 peter97822
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Hi
I know this was posted 3 years ago and I hope you're ok. I was actually searching this for a comparison, basically one of ex's used to drink everyday, just 1/2 but if faced with the prospect of having to go without that evening drink he would hit the roof, my partner's mum drinks near enough every day, but if she goes without she's fine, me I like a drink but have never been a daily drinker, probably as my dad was a full on alcoholic so I'm abnormally aware of my relationship with alcohol. It's odd isn't it how we each approach it differently? Hope you're?ok anyhow
charles_24412 peter97822
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Hey listen fella, I'm 71 years old, I've been supping since I was 16, I worked for 51 years and I've supped every week of my life. Since retiring I've switched from beer to red wine, I'm a vegetarian, I walk between 5 and 10 miles every day and I drink a bottle of wine every day. I've just had an "MOT" health check full blood markups and my liver was 100% don't listen to all the crap doctors spout. Trust your body. Good luck.
PaulJTurner1964 charles_24412
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Not really sure why you are here Charles. It's not a place for people to come and boast how alcohol doesn't cause them a problem when it is used by people who DO have a problem. It's a bit like burning £50 notes
in front of homeless people.
Nat666 PaulJTurner1964
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Guest peter97822
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Peter your not alone here just lately maybe about a year I've begun drinking most evenings as a stress relief or relaxation thing it started as a coping thing with planning your wedding and as ending up (after I was married) as a coping with a wayward stressful hard to cope with 3 year old child don't get me wrong but I adore and love my child but she is so hard to handle sometimes I just want some peace the 3-4 hour in
Morning isn't enough(that's when she is at nursery £ but my darling husband just doesn't get the stress I am under he seems to think I sit on my bum all day which I don't I am very house proud person so I am always cleaning trying to make sure my child isn't bored but she become very naughty and I find it hard d to displine her he comes home and she can't take more than five mins of her and her behaviour I'm like come I have this 24:7 but does understand does he hell always being told I'm being nasty to him if I even bring up any kind concerning thing I have I'm frustrated so I end up drinking and then I feel relaxed surely it's not good for but I don't see what other choice I have tho ????
vickylou Guest
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Kids are demanding, fact. They're not bothered if the house isn't immaculate. They need attention, not a sparking bathroom or manicured largest. She's at nursery in the morning, so I assume you work.
You said yourself you're always cleaning "she becomes very naughty and I find it hard to discipline her" She's three years old
sorry I'm not going to comment any more and will unfollow it. All I will say is I had 3 kids under 5 and a husband working abroad. I certainly wasn't a super mum but I did enjoy my kids. If 4 hours every morning isn't enough for you, maybe she'd be better off being at nursery all day!
vickylou
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Lilypuds peter97822
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Please please see you ......... it's the easiest thing to go along with the 'booze' ..... but even if you walk out and sit where there is a view- just sit and feel how great this space around you feels. I am in your place now in a marriage that revolves around alcohol. It's drink or dont fit in ..... I need to get strong but I am like you as go along ..... then I now drink and hide the bottles - so mixed up but I keep saying it's got to stop .... it's a social thing and so dangerous
i am so sick of it but like you it's booze or feel stressed
take care and be strong!!!!!!!!!
karen36196 peter97822
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Lilypuds karen36196
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Tonight just had horrible fight as I am trying to justify my decisions with a husband who has had a bender of 7 days ..... I can have a say but he never remembers the next day nothing physical just spare bed time again 😳