End of sex life
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2 years ago, i had a nerve-saving Da Vinci prostectomy. today, i simply cannot get an erection. i am depressed. i feel inadequate. MY wife never even asks me for sex. Maybe she is glad because she is not interested in sex anymore (we are both 66) and she likely knows i can't perform. i think with her help, i might be able to get an erection, but I just cannot bring myself to talk about this. I dont want to obsess about this. I am happy the cancer is gone. i still have a desire for sex. I struggle with these feelings. i know life is more than sex, but would like to try. it's been 2 years . lost.
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mark_fastco gene46851
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I I had my prostate removed in 2016 and I am not able to get a natural erection the pills don't seem to work but I am able to get an erection through penile injection it works in over 90% of males after the operation. these are the medical facts but of course speaking with your wife and opening up to her and explaining to her that you would like to try this is a different story. maybe get some outside help if you can't talk to her but if you can and she is willing to help you you can have a satisfying sex life. it will be very different but satisfying and can be very loving.
barney34567 mark_fastco
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Agree. It is very useful to speak to a psychologist or a GP who focuses on male sexual problems to help when preparing to speak to the wife.
rick75354 gene46851
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It's been a few years now since I had my R.P., and for the first couple of years I was afraid I would never be able to get an erection again. I'm lucky that I am able to get Cialis or Viagra on my drug plan, but just taking one before any kind of intimate encounter with my wife did absolutely nothing. On the advice of my doctor, I started taking it for 2 or 3 days in a row while giving myself a little extra attention in the shower, and I am starting to see some positive results. I'm not sure if I could have penetration at this point but to see myself returning to nearly the size I was is very encouraging. I'm 65 and not ready to give up yet.
RichardKen rick75354
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Never give up! I had RT and hormone treatment for PS in 2016 with excellent results and find that erections are possible with one 10 mg tablet of Levitra. I'm almost 78 and very fit and active and on several dating sites so intend keeping positive! Thankful that PC did not get me. Keep it UP everyone. Cheers, Richard
jordy21073 gene46851
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You're not lost, you're alive & probably havn't encountered much physical discomfort. I too, have survived prostate cancer, homone & radiation treatment for stage 1 agressive cancer, 2 years after diagnosis. A year ago I thought best part of my life is over, probably so. Then developed radiation proctitis, took six months to live through & recover from that b*****d.
Now I'm fine, 5% of former bedroom ability but I don't give a dang. I'm eating, drinking, smoking cigarettes & checking out younger women, just looking of course. Women in my life from yesteryear are either dead or not interested in banging anyway. I can still jerk off, not like when younger but all's not lost. Adjust and accept what's left; not so bad.
barney34567 jordy21073
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I am glad to hear you're checking out younger women.
Most guys confuse sexual performance (ability) with sexual interest.
And most guys suffer deflation in both spheres.
good to see that your interest has returned.
And good that you have a positive attitude.
Regards,
Barney
Gleason 9 post surgery, RT, ADT etc with a similar experience and outlook to yours.
joshuapryce1987 gene46851
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There is hope for you stimulation of the prostate is one way of achieving an erection. Stimulation of the penis should cause erections its blood flow that causes it. I do not know if you will orgasm though. Its best to try lots of foreplay. Anything is possible.