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EVERYONE AROUND ME DOESNT UNDERSTAND ME BUT DEFINATELY SOMETHING ABOUT ME HAS CHANGED.HELP.

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cindy11191
cindy11191

Hello Everyone

I was once a jovial girl,a strong one,an opinionated girl, but now i am this girl who hides in her own skin,I am afraid to go for parties any more because i feel like i will have people talk bad about me.Im afraid to give opinions.

It all started one time when all of a sudden i started developing a fear that i will die,It haunted me,made me cry,made me afraid,I couldnt sleep i couldnt stop thinnking about it ,I was haunted by memories of my sister who passed away.It took alot of time to work through it with completely no help.

Now i worked through that and now everytime im with people i try to hide myself and try to please everyone looks like im looking for love form people.I never used to do this before.Everytime i post a comment on fb and someone critisizes it i quicky delete it in fear .Honestly i dont know whats happening but i know that i aint the same girl that i used to be before.

NO ONE ELSE UNDRESTANDS ME ANYMORE,CAN I FIND ANYONE WHO WILL UNDERSTAND ME HERE?? COZ I DONT UNDERSTAND MYSELF NOW ANYMORE!!!!!

 

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  • fx70349
    fx70349 cindy11191

    Posted

    The cure for this, Cindy, is choice. Evereything lies in your own hands. If you make a decision to choose that you will not be subject to this type of situation then you will be able to extricate yourself from it very quickly.

    Its our mind that makes decisions for us and we all do have the ability to tell this mind what to think and what not to think about.

    Wish you the best and hopefully, soon, you will be the same old gal again. Bless you!

  • cindy11191
    cindy11191

    Posted

    Faz70349 I put on a brave heart and face all they say but when i get home i start to think no one loves me,I beleive i have tried  but i know  will get over it .Thanks faz

     

  • fx70349
    fx70349 cindy11191

    Posted

    I can understand what it does to you from what you have been through so far. But, again, you still have the right and ability to overcome it by yourself by realizing that it is you who makes the call about anything to do with your ownself and not others. By this you will be able to get on top of this feeling and end up a winner.
  • georgeGG
    georgeGG cindy11191

    Posted

    Dear Cindy,

    Are there any other changes?  That includes changes in your environment.

    What were you doing "that one time when all of a sudden . . ." ?

  • fx70349
    fx70349 cindy11191

    Posted

    George, no doubt the many changes that we encounter in life does have an impact on us and our moods, temperaments, attitudes, and personality. It doesnt really matter how they put us down as long as we are able to make the right choices to overcome them with our minds based on the simple fact that we are the masters of ourselves and no one else.
    • georgeGG
      georgeGG fx70349

      Posted

      Thank you Faz. I have not been able to take my problems by the scruff of the neck and bend them to my will. I had to resort to patient and mindfull practices and more recently to severe treatments and changes to lifstyle in the hope of beating my current problems. Still, it is not for us to judge. Our different experiences are placed before the members of the forum. They will select. They might even choose none of the offered histories.
    • millyimp_1322
      millyimp_1322 fx70349

      Posted

      Faz,I understand where you are coming from,however you were lucky in that you were able to do what you suggest to Cindy.Not all of us are able to tell our mind these things ,this is NOT always an easy thing to do .No matter how much we would like it ,no atter how hard we may try ,many are the times we find ourselves not the master of our mind but the victim if you want to use the word ....

       

    • frustrated61
      frustrated61 millyimp_1322

      Posted

      Milly ~

      What I see as a failure to disclose is the fact that it took someone 40 yrs to "find his/her peace".  That is important to know and wouldn't give Cindy false hope.  

      Cindy, if all fails, see someone who is unbiased with your life and talk with them as they may be able to guide you in a way that will be healing to you.

      Good luck!

      Frustrated

  • fx70349
    fx70349 cindy11191

    Posted

    Certainly true George

    I myself started making my choices much after I had been through some very dofficult times arly on in life. Now I am fine.

    • georgeGG
      georgeGG fx70349

      Posted

      Hi Fax, How did you make the transition from striving by various means, medical and otherwise, to improve you health to dominating your ill health so that you became healthy as at this day.?

       

    • fx70349
      fx70349 georgeGG

      Posted

      It took me 40 years but I was able to get out of the box. The opening I had was to try ad look at life in its reality and not through myth, superstition, man made scripture, rituals, and all that hocus pocus. Once I was able to ride that it was a piece of cake.
    • georgeGG
      georgeGG fx70349

      Posted

      Thank you Faz.

      I am not interested in myth, superstition, rituals and hocus pocus. There remaisn then the Bible. I have found it logical when taken as a whole. There is plenty of illogicality when taken in spoonfulls.

      So I shall look again at this remaining area. It is something I constantly do any way. I always assume I have much yet to learn.

    • frustrated61
      frustrated61 georgeGG

      Posted

      Doc ~

      Knowing you are a very logical person, I'd say you have learned a lot in your years.  I do agree with "I always assume I have much to learn" but you do it in a way that isn't harmful to others, if you get my drift.

      The Bible will guide anyone in the direction they should go at present time.  I'm not opposed to telling Cindy to keep an open mind and try reading the Bible.  If you don't already.  I'd say start with the new testament as it is a bit easier to understand.  Read the rest after you know what you're being told.  Just my opinion.

      Good luck!

      Frustrated

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