Felt extremely ill with dizziness headache and excruciating pain in the lower left back and groin could hardly stand up. It was the day of my husbands sisters funeral and he had to stay back as I was that bad. Five days later and the shingles appeared and doctor put me on antivirals and pain relief. The awful thing about it is I had horrible messages from his relatives thinking I was making a fuss and he should have left me to go. It is 2 weeks now and feel fatigued, in pain and depressed because of the situation and of course shingles. No-one can possibly know how bad I feel except fellow sufferers. What do you all think. Could I have stayed on my own but my husband would not leave me I am 70 and he is 80. Would appreciate comments.