Fear of intimacy.

Hi there Roy, let's just say there is no harm in you dying a virgin but if it is something that you want to experience and you believe you are unable to get a girlfriend then my only suggestion is a female escort perhaps, I wouldn't necessarily engage the services of a "lady of the night" but to pay for an escort for a number of hours and include a "night out", Im guessing they don't come cheap unlike a street lady (not that I know I hasten to add). 

If performance anxiety is the issue, you can enquire with the escort regarding her experience with performance anxiety.

Neil 

I understand your fear, and anxiety is a bugger, can stop you doing things you love or doing anything for that matter. You've probably built up a huge anxiety towards sex and woman as it sounds like it's playing on your mind an aweful lot and you are more than likely over thinking things. Perhaps have a chat with your gp and maybe get some diazepam for the short term, just to help relax you, and then go online dating. That way you can get to know a lady before actually meeting them, that makes it a lot easier when you come face to face. Try not to worry about it, an just go with the flow. Sex is massively hyped up, especially if you've never had it, I bet once the deed is done, you'll wonder what you were worrying about. My sex drive suffers due to my anxiety, but I love my partner so I force myself to do it, but always end up enjoying it. Maybe that will be the same for you. But first step id say is the GP. Sorry I can't be more helpful, but that's the only thing I think would be worth a shot. Good luck.

Hi Roy, I also suffer of extreme anxiety , but i have panic attacks too. The Dr. Prescribed Buspar. I'm on 5mg 3 X day. It's helped some with general anxiety, I still have some anxiety, but it got rid of my panic attacks right away. It has some side effects, like gas and some acid stomach, I've been on it for a month. It also made me sensitive to noise, light and touch in the beggining, but the good side effect was the INCREASED libido Right away. It is also a med that is often used for sexual dysfunction.Talk to your Dr. because some SSRI meds decrease libido, like antidepressants. Buspar is not an SSRI med. it is an anxiolitic, I was told, and it's supposed to help some of the anxiety. You may need something in addition to this, but do your homework about side effects, since Doctors don't seem to understand about side effects (they probably have not been on meds to know) they only know what their sales rep tells them or possibly don't have time to read about all possible meds .I think that if you at least get your libido up, for now, you could at least pleasure yourself. It is known that orgasms releases some feel good hormones. Once you've been comfortable with yourself, you can work on being comfortable with another person and be a little less anxious. Take your time through every step. If you end up taking Buspar, make sure you don't drink Grapefruit Juice, since it adversely interacts with it. Good luck, I hope this helps.

Roy, I know that you have tried Viagra but have you tried Cialis. It is usually prescribed in cases of drug-induced impotence?