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Fear of intimacy.

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roy_59739
roy_59739

i am a 69 year old male who has never had sex or a girlfriend due to anxiety.i can't even pleasure myself cause of strong antidepressants that effect my libido.does anyone know where I can get help before I die a virgin. The feeling churns me up inside......ROY.

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  • archemedes
    archemedes roy_59739

    Posted

    If is any consolation to you Roy I can guarantee that there are women out there who feel as isolated, unfulfilled and as sexually frustrated as you do.

    Trying to put any nagative thoughts behind you and trying a stimulent like Cialis might be the very thing that you need.

    Regards

    Rod

     

  • archemedes
    archemedes roy_59739

    Posted

    Or maybe even consider a sex therapist?
    • roy_59739
      roy_59739 archemedes

      Posted

      I don't want to sound awkward but don't you think in 69 years that I have tried all the things that you good people have suggested......including sex therapies........Thanks for all of your ideas bye....ROY.
  • ema65741
    ema65741 roy_59739

    Posted

    Anxiety can really destroy life. Was it harder to deal with it earlier? 
    • roy_59739
      roy_59739 ema65741

      Posted

      It was hard when I was young because lots of georgeous girls fancied me & I could do nothing about it. It is hard now because I regret what I missed out on when I was younger. It is still hard because I still have strong sexual feelings but at 69 I could never get the kind of girls I like......life is one big frustration.
  • ema65741
    ema65741 roy_59739

    Posted

    What does your doctor say how long will you be taking antidepressants?
    • roy_59739
      roy_59739 ema65741

      Posted

      It's a long story but I was put on Lorezepam in 1979 & ended up on them for 19 years eventually becoming addicted to them. It took the councillor ages to get me free of them.i was put on Seroxat for a while but couldn't stand the side effects so that's when I was put on Escitolopram which I have been on ever since.
  • roy_59739
    roy_59739

    Posted

    PS.....I started off on stelazine & Librium long before the modern meds. We're available.
    • roy_59739
      roy_59739

      Posted

      First I would like to thank Millylimp for her private notes, next I would like to explain the reason I think I am like I am.....when I was about ten my mother caught me playing docs & nurses with the girl next door. she took my trousers down & gave me a good hiding then made me have a bath then told me never to do anything like that again.....& I never have. Ever since I have felt inferior in the company of women.
    • roy_59739
      roy_59739

      Posted

      last notes.....can we please wind up this conversation as I think it has gone on long enough. I have given you what I think is the reason & you have given your replies. Thanks for all of you help. GOODBYE.
    • millyimp_1322
      millyimp_1322 roy_59739

      Posted

      Dear Roy,

      What I have said in my previous private message still goes ,it is always your own decision.Please do remember this.

      I do recall you saying the above reason in an earlier posting ,your reason for being as you feel you are now .

      As you so wish Roy ,your request will I think be carried out ,with you in the knowledge  we are all still here for you if in the future you would like to chat with any of us .

      Take Care

      millyimp1322

      xx

    • roy_59739
      roy_59739 millyimp_1322

      Posted

      Just had to add this ending. I heard two youths talking about their sex lives on the bus yesterday, & one whined to the other "I haven't had sex for two weeks now" and he was really upset. I felt like saying you ought to try 69. Years mate.
    • millyimp_1322
      millyimp_1322 roy_59739

      Posted

      Helllo Dear Roy,

      Many thanks for your latest posting,it did in fact give me a giggle,sorry if it wasn`t meant to but it did.It is nice to see you come in again ,I can only speak for myself ,I will respect your wishes and not try to give you further advice unless you ask me for it in person.I would think others would o do the same ,and give you this respect

      hope to see you back in here Roy .

      Take Care

      millyimp1322

      x

    • roy_59739
      roy_59739 millyimp_1322

      Posted

      I have now started a new thread on the anxiety section called "NO EFFECT"hope you get to read some of it.......ROY.
    • shaz48
      shaz48 roy_59739

      Posted

      Hi Roy.i think I am in the same boat as you.I am about to see a psychiatrist for anxiety but want to try and address my fear of intimacy and fear of sex. I want relationships but am too fearful of them.I am 47 years old and have never discussed this with anyone,let alone a psychiatrist.I cannot see how they can help if I can't bring myself to be in an intimate situation without shaking with fear and panic.As you have had theraoy for your problem,What do you think the psychiatrist will ask me or offer me as treatment?.I'm terrified at the thought,it's the biggest fear of my life,but I cannot carry on like this.I want to be with someone but at present,I've got a better chance of winning the lottery 3 times in a row,than having sex,let alone being in a relationship.
    • roy_59739
      roy_59739

      Posted

      seeing a psychtriast never helped me & I've been seeing them for all my life. Same with doctors. They just want your money. Still that's up to you. They are a waste of space.
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