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  • lorraine52317
    lorraine52317 paul67642

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    Hi Paul

    A lot of us here can identify with you. Fighting illness makes you battle fatigued. But hold on to the absolute fact that better days are coming. What's been happening with you to make you feel so low?

    This site is amazing and so many of us with different experiences hopefully we can offer some advice

    Stay strong

    God bless

    Lorraine x

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    • lorraine52317
      lorraine52317 paul67642

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      Hi Paul

      I am so sorry to hear that. Do you mind me asking how old your son is. Is he old enough to understand what's going on? Does she have custody of your son? Sounds like you are having a dreadful time Paul but you are always going to be his dad and the bond cannot be destroyed that easily if at all. Are you able to spend time with you son? Sorry so many questions but just trying to understand what you are going through.

      Lorraine xx

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    • lorraine52317
      lorraine52317 paul67642

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      Hi Paul

      I imagine the strain on you must be heavy and you are still grieving for your gf. Your son will always love you and maybe you should limit the time he spends with your gf daughter. You have enough on your plate to deal with and your son doesn't need to be exposed to her negativity. His age can be difficult for him too and due to his body changing he may say things that he really doesn't mean. Have you got a good support network that can maybe speak to your son. Importantly is there someone you can lean on whilst you are going through such a difficult period in your life? You and your son will get through this Paul and trust me your his dad he will always love you.

      I'm here if it helps in anyway

      God bless you and your son

      Lorraine

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  • elizabeth20203
    elizabeth20203 paul67642

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    Hello Paul, Stay strong you have done well so far. Your son loves you as you do him. Are you still going to Woodlands for counselling? You are good at giving others advice now take your own advice. Keep talking here whenever you need to.

    Elizabeth.

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  • audrey96558
    audrey96558 paul67642

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    Agh Paul I'm so sorry you're in this place again.

    Please try and remind yourself of all of the things everyone on here has told you, and also know that your son loves you very much and if you feel your girlfriend's family are crossing too far over the line, you have every right to limit the time they spend with your son.

    Stay strong my lovely, you're doing a great job.

    Just keep on going.

    Thinking of you xxxx

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    • audrey96558
      audrey96558 paul67642

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      You don't have to be sorry for THINKING that, but please don't DO that.

      There's so many steps before you reach that drastic stage you know.

      You can ask for more help and support.

      But mainly, give yourself some time!

      It hasn't even been half a year since you lost your girlfriend, you're still at such the most raw, difficult stages; you really do not need to put yourself under so much pressure at the moment.

      Equally in such states of grief you should not make big, life changing decisions.

      Just continue to take care of your son and yourself to the best of your ability.

      Take some time to heal.

      Sending you lots of love xxx

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    • audrey96558
      audrey96558 paul67642

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      Paul this is going to sound harsh, so forgive me.

      Sometimes you have to put your children first.

      Sometimes life is utterly rubbish but you have to focus on other people's needs, no matter how much you are suffering.

      I know it's difficult, sometimes impossible, but please try and focus on his needs.

      I hope you're ok xxx

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    • Shelly0069
      Shelly0069 paul67642

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      This is not fair on your son Paul. Times are hard yes,? U have both been through a lot ! And still are. Don't make that rash decision!!!!!!!!. The impact on you both would be Devastating to say the least. You would be happy not seeing your son again? Living with someone else? Think very, very hard about this Paul. You are at your lowest, this is your child's future!!!!!!!!!........ Hold on in there please PAUL. 
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    • hypercat
      hypercat paul67642

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      Paul there is no one better for your son than his father.  You are irreplacable to him and always will be.  Who could take your place?   He can't go shopping in the supermarket for a new father you know!   He is grieving too and this is the time you should both be drawing closer to mourn yours and his loss.  x
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    • Shelly0069
      Shelly0069 paul67642

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      Thankyou PAUL 

      . Yes he your son and he belongs to you. Your flesh and blood. Glad your back with us. Well done, you fight this Paul, we are all behind you. We're here fornu when u want to chat/rant/ whatever. Take car. And P.S no morev silly talikng off you xx

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