feel my life is over
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lost my job for gross misconduct and can not live with myself for being so careless.Im 50 years old.I have continual tingling pain in my legs, i have palpitations when i try to relax, i dread waking of a morning, i have no interest or confidence in life
I have let my wife and children down, created financial hardship and put our lives in so much uncertainty.I feel so lost and dont see a way forward at all.
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Sarah812 gary564
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deirdre._03652 gary564
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Is your wife standing by you?.. if she is then I think you need to try to make a new start for the sake of your family, they too are very important.....
You conscience is your punishment, but they need a new start.......
I wish you and your family well, and I hope that you can get past this together, take care of yourself and each other.....Deirdre x
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Capodingos gary564
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It might be worth talking to a doctor about medication, I would be wary about antidepressants as they are difficult to get off, but could ask about something for a few weeks like beta-blockers for anxiety and palpitations or sleeping tablets.
I found beta-blockers stopped the palpitations but made me tired, so I only take when necessary. Also ask about seeing a cousellor if you think it would be useful for support.
I'm not sure the circumstances, but is it possible to get advice and appeal against dismissal and go to employment tribunal.
Otherwise try to put your energy into planning how to get a new job, not sure if you have already signed on at job centre, you may get a small amount of money and possible advice (although they are not much use) eg. with CV.
It may seem futile at the moment but every small step will help, and you will eventually get a new job, even if it is a short term one until something better comes around.
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deirdre._03652 gary564
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I got more part time jobs, my husband, my family, my friends and neighbours, everyone stood by and supported me.. I look back now and realize I wasn't a dreadful person I just made mistakes...
Can you appeal? If you can then have a try, you may well succeed...I.know that it feels like the end of the world right now, but it will really get better and easier.... I sure that your family love you dearly and want you not to give up... please let us know how you are going, you are in our thoughts...
Keep your chin up.. sincere regards Deirdre xxxxx best wishes to your family also...xx
Sarah812 deirdre._03652
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tony15730 gary564
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Capodingos gary564
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From what you've said it sounds like you can't talk to your family about it, but it is too much to cope with alone.
I'm not sure what you think of counsellors, but it would be worth seeing one to help you try and help organise your thoughts, feel less guilty and plan to move forward.
Every place you can get advice, including here, doctor, financial, employment advice etc. will help speed up the process of feeling better and make the panic fade. It is easy to get stuck and I spent too long before getting help, only then did I start to feel better.
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