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Feel spaced out and drunk, anybody else feel like this daily?

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I have very severe peri meno symptoms but the worst thing for me is this off balance, spaced out almost drunk sensation

I was determined I was getting out of the house today while my husbands off work

It's traumatic enough getting showered and make up on because I feel really shaky and lightheaded

I was in a shopping centre earlier and the feeling of my head being too heavy, feeling faint got the better of me, I'm always determined I won't let it stop me but again I had to come home

I find it all very depressing because I've always been such a busy outdoor sort of person. I have terrible neck pain & tension in it I think it's because I've been keeping my head as still as possible for months

Just wondering if any ladies suffering from similar symptoms have found a sympathetic dr who can explain why some of us experience this and others don't

Thanks for listening

Brenda xx

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  • cazjaz16
    cazjaz16 brendababy

    Posted

    I'm exactly the same where I am no longer able to leave the house alone I have to go out with someone I really trust and understands which usually is my husband I only go out of the house on a normal week about 2/3 hours a week
    • brendababy
      brendababy cazjaz16

      Posted

      Oh you must be feeling really depressed Cazjaz that's not living being so limited and they say it's just a normal change in life, nothing normal about it

      I try and go out everyday if I can when my sons are not at work or uni or when my husband gets home from work. I was ill last week and couldn't go out for about 4 days and it made me feel really low and depressed

      If you lived near me I'd take you out for a walk and we could hang onto one another, people would be envious thinking we've been to the pub and staggering home 😂

      Let me know if there's anything I can do or say that might help you

      Take care xx

    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 brendababy

      Posted

      Haha bless yes I wish others who suffered the same lived near. I just got back from my caravan for 2 days it was OK as no one else was about as the camp shut down but still felt crap I'm fed up tbh. I do drink alcohol to help me along but I know it's not good but it's my only outlet xxx
    • brendababy
      brendababy cazjaz16

      Posted

      Oh I miss having a wee glass of wine or a night out with my friends. I couldn't even imagine having any alcohol at the moment

      I feel scared of everything and the thought of feeling tipsy would make me sick. I think I need to stop fearing and focusing on symptoms

      Tonight for example I was popping out in the car with my hubby, opened the front door and the wind blew my hair into my eyes, I threw my head to the side as you do to move my hair and right away I started to panic, feeling dizzy etc, I've been focusing and going on about it all night and they say what you resist persists

      I need to get my hair done, my hairdresser has offered to come to the house but I've been putting it off because the thought of her moving my head etc scares me

      Think I'll need to get physio to teach me how to move my head again 🙉

      Hope you feel better soon

      Take care xx

    • brendababy
      brendababy cazjaz16

      Posted

      Hi Cazjaz I'm not sure of where I am i think still peri, last bloods I had done my GP said estrogen very low which would normally indicate almost meno, he prescribed livial in July even though I hadent been a full year without a natural period. I think my last natural period was in January this year.

      However, I've had a couple of light bleeds on the livial HRT

      I've got an appointment with my GP today I was going to ask for bloods to be done to see what's happening

      Hugs

      Brenda X

  • karen71465
    karen71465 brendababy

    Posted

    HI BRENDA YOU HAVE JUST DESCRIBED ME ,big hugs to you , i have been like this a year now  plus i have a headache every day all day its horrible isnt it, im 53 and i think when it gets this bad we are starting to get to the end of perimenopause so ive been told by family and friends. Lets hope so , i have been with my husband 31 years and i say to him how are you coping with this to because they do have to deal with it too ,poor things, he just says hes not going anywhere  this why i want my life back for him and me.I use to get so mad and upset now i say sit down and put something funny on tv and have a hug with my hubby, it doesnt cure it but it makes it feel a bit better for a while . we will get past this , i had post natal depression 22 years ago and a doctor said women that had this are more prone to having problems in menopause due to slight changes in hormones ,im not sure if this is right but thats what my doc told me ,please keep in touch would love to see how we go in time

       take care

             karen x  

    • brendababy
      brendababy karen71465

      Posted

      Hi Karen (((hugs))) really feel for you, its mad isn't it. If we could only find out why some woman are affected like this and some are not. It may be something simple that could be reversed and prevent all this anguish

      I'm left with no job, my husband is suffering as a consequence as I won't let him touch me incase it makes the dizziness/off balance worse, I've developed a real phobia about it

      I long to get my life back like all of the ladies but I feel hopeless and helpless at the moment

      My GP will not listen to me he told me I'm hyperventilating due to anxiety and that's what's causing the dizzy sensation, I am anxious but it's because of the balance problem

      I'm going back to see him tomorrow as I've been taking livial fir 3 months and don't feel it's helping at all

      I'm going to try and research this and find someone who'll listen to me. I'll keep posting and hopefully with some positive news lol

      Take care xx

  • terri16632
    terri16632 brendababy

    Posted

    I was exactly the same until I tried taking magnesium citrate.  I started with the pill form and that got rid of the tiredness and lightheadedness.  Rubbing the liquid form on my neck (a mix of magnesium citrate flakes and distilled water) helps with the neck pain and tension.  It relaxes me enough so that I can stretch and the tension isn't nearly as bad. I had headaches as well, but those come from the tension and not wanting to move.  There are tons of us with the exact same issue.  the only thing that helps me so I can go to work and not want to scream out loud is magnesium and stretching.  Research it.  I think it will help almost immediately. Hang in there. It does get alot easier to manage.  And no, I haven't found one doctor who knows the answer (and I've been to a ton - from 2 general doctors, 2 rheumatologists, 1 neurologist, 3 chiropractors, 4 physical therapists) except those online who are well versed in the miracle of magnesium.
    • brendababy
      brendababy terri16632

      Posted

      Thanks Terri, funnily I was in Holland & Barrett today as I'd read floradix magnesium was good for my symptoms and also ginger. The woman in the shop asked me to go check with my dr first to make sure it dosent interact with any other medication I'm taking so I came away with nothing

      I told her I was taking livial a form of HRT. I'm going to see the doc tomorrow night so I'll check with him

      The lightheaded/dizziness, off balance symptoms and also not forgetting the disabling anxiety has resulted in me having to give my job up and not being able to leave the house on my own. Even washing my hair is traumatic because I don't like to move my head about too much

      I think these symptoms are not being researched and treated accordingly because menopause is not an illness but it is ruining woman's lives, think I'll look into contacting someone in the media to try and get this some publicity!!

      Thanks for your help xx

  • lou63
    lou63 brendababy

    Posted

    Hi Brenda

    I felt excactly the same, I could hardly shower I would hold onto the walls at times, I would avoided going out and shopping was a nightmare supermarkets were the worst.

    I have told many GPs and my thyroid specialist, they just looked at me blankly like they had never heard anyone describe how i was feeling, I had a 24 hour heart monitor and heart scan because i was having palpatations, all was fine.

    I have found that taking Vit B6 and B12 have 90% rid me of this most debilitating symptom.

    I hope you find something that helps, its a awfull symptom.

    All the best

    Lou

     

    • brendababy
      brendababy lou63

      Posted

      Hi Lou, thanks for your advice, I take a multi vitamin but it's just a basic one

      The dizziness/off balance sensation is the worst thing ever, it prevents you from doing anything and causes so much anxiety

      How long have you had the imbalance sensation for? My biggest fear is being left like this

      I'm age 51 my sister is 50 and she is also going through the meno, she suffers with hot flushes and some aches and pains in her joints, she's never had any of these awful dizzy sensations and just tells me to get on with things, I just find these comments so frustrating that other people don't believe how frightening & debilitating it is

      I hope you continue to feel better, let me know if you come across any other remedies that helps

      Hugs xx

  • terri16632
    terri16632 brendababy

    Posted

    Yes, you would think that with the severity of the symptoms, more would be done. When you get blood work done, see if they can test your magnesium levels. As someone else said, vitamins b6, b12 or a vitamin complex helps as well. But for me, nothing does it like magnesium.  That pain is overwhelming.  I was looking into going on disability until I stumbled upon this site and others like it that could point me in the right direction. Try to read up on it so your doctor can't discount its importance. Hang in.
  • dianna20043
    dianna20043 brendababy

    Posted

    HELLO BRENDA

    YEP THATME.  If you find a tablet that can elivate the sensation I would love o hear.  I have finished menopause but suffer severe hot flushes that actually make me feel like you stated.  Taking Premia 2.5 but it doesnt seem to be taking away the symptoms.  Back to the doctor on 30 November 2015 to see what else I can try.  Its the pits and trying to tell someone about it they dont fully understand. so now I just suffer in silence.  All the best.

    xx

    • brendababy
      brendababy dianna20043

      Posted

      Hi dianna sorry to hear your suffering but you should never suffer in silence

      I know it's hard but I don't care how much the docs think I'm a pest or imposing I'm gonna keep persisting until someone listens

      We all know that peri & meno is declining and fluctuating hormones but I personally think it should be talked about and researched much more to alleviate a lot of unnecessary anguish and suffering

      If it's a simple transition a normal stage of a woman's life should there be so much suffering? why should we put up and shut up because Gps and gynos either don't have resources, think woman are hysterical and think we should all be sedated or tranquillised until the hormones settle down, which btw can take years

      There must be a sex hormone specialist out there who has came across these particular symptoms before and is knowledgable and wise enough to know why some woman endure constant dizziness/off balance while others don't and what we can take to alleviate it

      Sorry for ranting on but this is how I feel, so much life is passing by and we're just expected to accept it, it's time all ladies stood up and shouted out until someone listens

      Take care xx

    • dianna20043
      dianna20043 brendababy

      Posted

      Your not ranting I totally agree with you Brenda.  I always read up about hot flushes on the internet  and the end result there is no magic pill, and hot flushes can be with you for up to 10 years after menopause GREAT.  I suppose it will be a change in medication once again and hoping I get something that gets rid of them altogether.  Day by day thats all I can do...and stay positive.  Heres hoping for all of us suffering we can find some comfort ...this site is a blessing.

      xxx dianna

    • brendababy
      brendababy dianna20043

      Posted

      Hello again dianna im age 51 and have not really been bothered with hot flushes, the soles of my feet sometimes get warm and I've woken up in the morning a bit warm but nothing I can't cope with

      It's the balance issue that's causing so many woman to have to give up their jobs, become housebound etc, this is totally unacceptable, if it were some disease causing this you would be taken into hospital and all different test done until they find out what's causing it and what the correct treatment is

      HRT seems to be one size fits all, well it's not working and I believe more could be done

      Have a nice evening where ever you are or a good sleep if in the uk xx

    • dianna20043
      dianna20043 brendababy

      Posted

      Thanks Brenda.. with me I feel I just have to keep trying new medication to see what works best...time is my essence.  Life goes on and I just keep soldiering on until I get medication that suites me.

      I am in Australia so we are just starting our day.

      xx.

    • brendababy
      brendababy dianna20043

      Posted

      That's lovely living in Australia and it must be summertime as well

      I'm living in beautiful but gloomy Scotland just starting winter

      I hope you have a great day and keep posting and let us know if you come across any wonderful doctors in oz who can help us navigate our way through this

      Hugs xx

    • brendababy
      brendababy jackie95472

      Posted

      Sounds like a plan Jackie, I'm going to try and find out the best way to highlight this and get someone who has a high profile to help me to put it out there, why should we suffer in silence!! 🙉

      Watch this space....hopefully

      Hugs xx

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