Feeling depressed

I lost my mother in January to cancer and it still not sunk in has there is arguing in the family about her estate and that. I know how you feel about thoughts of dying and family members to dying. I have a rough few years my depression started when I had my children but I hit rock bottom when my grandson died at 22 days old. We have to take it one day at a time if you feel you need to see your docter go has you need a little more help with this maybe talk it through with someone but look after yourself hugs to you ☺

Jeanne 81532,

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Hi jeanne81532,

Hey sounds like your having a Bruno Mars day !

Get the ice cream out or make yourself a hot chocolate put on your favourite movie and put your feet up. Sometimes a little break from the norm can help divert your thoughts.

We've all been so we know and understand your situation.

Take care KS

Hi Jeanne, I understand how you're feeling because I'm in the same dark place. My fibromyalgia is bad and earlier in the year I was hospitalised with pneumonia which was very scarey. I now have restless leg syndrome which is driving me to distraction.

We need to stay strong and know that there are people thinking of us and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Take care xx

Hi! I don't think that what you're thinking about is entirely uncommon. I know I spent a good few months after the loss of each of my grandparents with my mind also preoccupied about death and dying whether it was about myself or other people. Eventually I came out of it. I guess the worry would be if it goes on for too long and at the moment your brother in laws death in august is still quite fresh. See how you go over the next month.

Sometimes when our minds are preoccupied with things it's good to focus on things that can help bring you back into the present and what is going on around you at that moment. Even simple things like listening to the birds singing can just get your brain out of a preoccupied moment. That's what I've used when I've dealt with anxiety or my 'morbid thoughts'.

Have you tried walking? Perhaps go for a gentle walk, walk around the block, just get walking, maybe get a walking buddy It's good for depression and gentle enough for fibromyalgia sufferers.

My daughter is 14 and has been diagnosed with fibromyalgia and I've suffered with bouts of M.E.

We walk together, it helps a lot

Hi Jeanne - I can totally relate to how vulnerable you feel after losing a loved one. 

I lost my son in 2005 and I really never recovered. I never thought in a million years it could happen to me and certainly never thought I would be pre-deceased by one of my kids. It didn't seem fair. 

I think the recent loss of your brother in law has flared up some anxiety as well as depression and you need to work through it. Easier said than done of course, but you have to think about the many good things in this life you have and how they build your zest for life. I think it's important to keep busy and find things that keep the mind not only busy but stimulated. The mind is a very powerful tool as we both know. It can play many tricks on you, some not so nice. 

For me, I try to live as much of my life around music. Music entertains all modds and you can program it to the mood you're in. Relaxing music aids my fibromyalgia and tinnitus much more effectively than anything upbeat or just a lot of noise. God only knows, I have enough going in both ears. lol. Try some good music and don't be afraid to unwind with some good headphones and just chill. Music has a way of lifting you up and putting you in a place in your life when things may have been a little easier, or a whole lot easier. I often reflect back in my life and term that period, "when life was much easier.." referring to the days when I wasn't stressed and I wasn't suffering a loss that was so difficult to get over.

Often times when I'm having a real bad day, I'll think of just how many people are far worst off than I am and give myself a reality check. It puts things in perspective. 

Certainily not a doctor but it appears you haven't found the right med to help you, at least on a consistent basis. You might want to relay to your doctor what you're feeling today and maybe find something that works more effectively. 

Hang in there and realize how precious your life is. I think we often think of our own mortality but we shouldn't get pre-occupied with it. The fact of the matter is, when we do pass through this life, we will never know it's over. We can't control when we go but we can certainly control how we go. In the event that you really feel out of control, take a long walk and unwind. Exercise really helps homogenize the brain process. Call a friend or a call a 24 support help line and get things off your chest. There are many people that listen. People even on this board are standing up and helping you with their kind words and expressions. 

Three cheers to life, Jeanne.. Honestly, it's better than the alternative and there's so much out there to appreciate and explore. Feel better and make today the first day of the rest of  your life.

Glenn

Oh dear Jeanne

I have been like this since I was 16 on going battle

But I will tell you now privacy are awful they made me feel anxious with a foreboding since of doom

I came off them a long while ago but was still very depressed

I was put on citalapram and after 2 weeks all the crying had stopped I went back to docs and said I could of hugged him

I didn't have side effects they don't make you drowsy just the first week of taking them had this urge to yawn all the time but not tired

I now take 40 mg don't get too depressed just sometimes like waiting for pip decision

Honestly they are really good I know others who are on them and they say the same

You just notice one day that the depression is not bad

You still can get down like anyone else but you want feeling like killing yourself thoughts

Also I can't take pregablin gabapentin or amatryptalin because they make me go very low in mood

Last week my doc tried me back on amatryptalin for mot sleeping but I had too stop them because changed my mood

Saw doc yesterday he said he could not understand why Because there also am antidepressant but if you read up on these tablets a lot of people feel the same way xxx

I am so sorry to hear of your loss

I lost my dad at end of Feb then a best friend from school who I had know since infants she left 2 young children

Its made me think of death and mortality

But please listen too me

If you feel like this today another can be so much nicer

Please please go see doc urgent ask them to try switching tablets about

I don't really go anywhere been feeling like everything is a chore

To even speak to people face to face

But I know I have to try and help myself

Let me know what doc says but ask for an emergency appointment

You can also go to talking sessions

They help by looking at what you can achieve in a day to learn to try not put too much pressure on yourself and to accept that you can't always do everything

Its like taking baby steps but trying to put 1 thing extra in your day

And when you achieve that it puts you in a better mood because you have managed to do maybe one extra thing in a day

I know what your going through and if you want private message me any time day or night xxxx