Feeling down
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Don't know what has just come over me. I am nearly 8 weeks
post . Operation on second tkr and have managed to stop all
my pain meds. I got up put some washing out and because it's
a lovely sunny day decided to go shopping and then have a sit
out in the sun this afternoon. However something just came over
me quite unexpectedly and I started to cry. What is happening?
I feel that only the people on here understand exactly what we
have gone through and don't feel that I can talk to my family
because they think that I am doing so well and now should be
back to normal. I wish people on here lived nearby and we could
meet up because some days I feel so lonely. I don't give off this
impression but I think it's the shock of the operation and trying
to get on with things. Anyway must pull myself together and
put on my coping face. Does anyone else feel like this? X
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finley joan51826
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caroline46398 joan51826
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Oh yes - I have done it many times, even now but not as often (19 weeks) - it's normal and I have seen it a lot on here - if you scroll or search you will see it. I even went to the GP as its so unlike me and I didnt know about post op periods of depression being quite normal. Accept it as apr tof the healing process, do as much as youlike and move on - it really is healing. Not been good for the bags under my eyes though - had to resort to cold teaspoon to shrink them one morning I cried so much and was goig to work in the afternoon. Funny too hwo it ocme out of the blue for seemingly no reason. As we all know on here, however, there is a reason - our bodies hae been intefered with and our brain knows it and is upset.
kathryn42410 joan51826
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My first 'episode' was at about 6 weeks when I thought I would put the dinner on (I'm living with my mum at the moment, too much of a struggle alone so thought I'd help out). I think I chopped half a pepper and then felt like my world was ending because I couldn't stand up any longer (I didn't know I needed further surgery at the time). I was a sobbing wreck when my mum came home.
I then hit my lowest point last week when I was told by my consultants secretary that he had a 5 month waiting list (when he'd told me I need my surgery within 12 weeks).
I don't like to go on at family and friends as I think they must be fed up of hearing it sometimes as much as I am sick of hearing myself. I wonder what I ever spoke about before this bloody thing?
I can't go back to work yet and I'm lucky I can work from home but it takes as much of a toll mentally as it does physically. I don't expect anyone who hasn't been through it to understand. I was driven in to my office yesterday for a few hours (my leg was twice the size afterwards but that's my fault for not doing my exercises) and all everyone kept saying to me was 'I didn't expect you to look so well'. I could tell they were wondering why I was still off. I resorted to flashing my scar at one point which is great shock value I've found (I'm still walking with two crutches too so it's not like I'm skipping everywhere).
Mine is just a waiting game now. Which feels like Groundhog Day for me. The tears flow regularly so I know exactly how you feel. If you ever need to get it off your chest, just come on here. I'm on it regularly and wake every day at 4am!! It is a shame we all live all over the place, I think a cuppa and a catch up would do us all good. (I'm in the North West of England).
Just remember you're not alone though.
Kath xx
joan51826 kathryn42410
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out he had been going for chemo for cancer so that put my
little moans into perspective and made me feelguilty
kathryn42410 joan51826
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I actually work in Manchester (live in Runcorn and had my surgery in Liverpool, I pretty much tour the entire North West) so we can always arrange a catch up one day. I just can't drive that far yet 😠
Keep going. Well done on getting out today xx
Clarkey1962 joan51826
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