Feeling like a Differnt Person
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Hi to all. this is something that I need to know, and has been troubling me a lot over last year or so..... Are there others out there who feel as I do.....that I don't even recognize the person I've become. I keep trying to tell myself that there was once a very productive, intelligent person who went under the name Bronwyn......such and such....She held a very responsible work position, she was a loving and caring wife and mother of 4....everyones' clothes were washed and ironed, the house was clean and full of people (either my own children or others')... there were always visitors calling/dropping in/staying with us.... to have a chat/cuppa..life seemed "so full" always something happening, or going somewhere....plenty to do.....it was not that long ago in "real" life, for me about 5 years max....have been unwell a lot longer, but seemed to still be "that" person....but now, Who Am I???? The house is so quiet....the family home has been sold (some said it was because I could not cope anymore...the house was too big....still don't understand why, really).....feel useless, not the me I used to be...where did I go? Is this the same for all of us? Is this what Fibro does to me/us? Tell me who you all are now to who you were before? Bron
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kaz_40 bronwyn97278
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Maggers bronwyn97278
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I am the same person just different. You are still the same Bronwyn underneath. Outwardly you may feel abandoned by your energy but you are still the kind caring person you were before the fibro fiend struck. Life moves on regardless of our capabilities and my house is quiet, kids have flown the nest which would have happened anyway. Some of my friends from my kids school times have moved on and we have lost contact. Sometimes I feel useless but there is still lots I can do. I dare not dwell on what I can't do but what I can, otherwise I would sink into depression. I have learned not to worry about what isn't completed in a day but take joy in the one thing I have managed. I now have a job that is just that a job not a vocation as before but keeps me going. Adjustment has been huge but who is to say by getting older this would not have been the same. We cannot survive with the stress and commitments needed to a high powered job once we reach a certain age. I am still Maggers I just happen to have a sprite on my shoulder wearing the fibro badge. Perhaps it is different for others but that is how I feel. Without the sprite I would not be part of this forum and have met so many inspirational people. Take care.
amybober5982 bronwyn97278
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I do work but it's just part time. I don't even want to leave the house most of the time. My mom says I'm just feelin sorry for myself an it makes me so mad because she doesn't know what I'm going through. I really feel like my life is over that's just how I feel. I have to push an push myself for everything. I keep telling myself that things will get better an they do for a day or so then they are right back to my new normal.
I hope things get better for all of us!!
kaz_40 amybober5982
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TeresaJS bronwyn97278
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There's a way, thare has to be a way.
loxie bronwyn97278
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kaz_40 loxie
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lisa52101 bronwyn97278
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I definitely don't know this person I've become. I used to be 6"1, size 10, sports mad, participated in competitive martial arts, worked full time as a social worker, raised 2 children, one of whom also has a medical condition that meant she needed 24hr supervision and cared for 2elderly relatives. People would ask me if I had elastic in my hours so I could fit it all in.
Now I'm a size 20, use a wheelchair and rely heavily on my husband as my carer. My body has betrayed me and my mind instead of the sharpness it once was is as blunt as a butter knife. My children have now left home, the friends I had have now abandoned me. Most of my days are long, watching TV. Today I visited my dr who wants me to have X-rays done on my wrist as I have lost range of movement and it is painful. On top of that he also thinks I have fasciitis in both of my feet.
Wow! I sound self pitying. I'm far from it but it does illustrate the decline in both myself and social circle and why I feel like a completely different person.
kaz_40 lisa52101
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lisa52101 kaz_40
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Gentle hugs 😊
kaz_40 lisa52101
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jeanne81532 lisa52101
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lisa52101 jeanne81532
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i don't know why but I decided to go ahead with the pregnancy and my daughter was delivered at 36wks as she was failing to thrive, I developed pre eclampsia and my seizure had become uncontrolled. I don't know how but apart from delayed learning, shortened tendons in her legs and epilepsy she was very well. Almost everything is settled and under control for her and she is a mother herself.
I know this is very different from what you had to endure but I mean it in the way that I too felt my body had betrayed me and in the process betrayed my child. Neither of my pregnancies went well and I had to have a hysterectomy after my 2nd daughter was born.
its surprising how well we can adapt even when we feel it's unfair and I've developed a very dark sense of humour through all that life has thrown on me. I always have two sayings to hand and they are....
1.Whilst life's picking on me its leaving some other poor bleeder alone.
2. I'm never going to get bored
Its all about what we do with life rather than what life does to us and I try to remember that whenever I'm down and struggling.
Gentle hugs
jeanne81532 lisa52101
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