Feeling like a Differnt Person

Thanks Meg;  I long ago learn't to ignore, what I call the bullies; but, what I seemed to have done, is make a Big mistake in teaching my children the adage of "treating others as you would like to be treated"...,  but feel that I made a mistake in not making/letting them know that not everyone else believes/acts on this adage.......Bron

It sounds like you children are lovely people. It is such a difficult problem parenting in this age of entitlement and materialism. I guess the bullies of the world are always going to be with us, how one helps one's children deal with them,I don't know,  sometimes I wonder if there is any justice in this world.  I apologise for the rant.

 

Thanks Meg;   I know there have always been "bullies"......well, will try and keep my thoughts to myself for awhile.....hoping all are coping with our own main issue of the horrible Fibro...........Bron

being  a parent is hard we dont always know if were doing right or wrong at times with the advice we give our children. ive tried install in my 2 boys the way I was brought which was to be polite at all times respect your elders good manners. it failed on the 1 son the other son is respectful when hes in other peoples homes. all we can do is do what we feel is right by our children. but in the end they have their own personalties will do what they want any way which Ive found out to my cost. we can only do our best sometimes our best isnt good enough

Hi meg Like you when I was first diagnosed I thought my world had eneded. I didnt want to carry on I became so low that I wanted to end my life. I cried an awful lot my husband felt bad because he didnt know and still doesnt know how to help me. I was at a very very low ebb when I found this wonderful forum and you lovely ladies. you ladies and my loving husband are what keep me going. what Ive found doesnt help with us is being a round negative people and people that just do not understand. so what I have done is distance myself from them. its pointless trying to explain to people. as Ive tried that so many times people just cant seem to understand and some cant be bothered neither.My mother in law has been terrible to me saying I know people with fibro their doing this their doing that. why arnt you working why arnt you doing this that the other. she doesnt like it the fact her son is having to take of me and basically do more or less everything I do what I can when I can. on the day she said all this to me I was visiting my gp and I broke down in tears. and told her what she said. my gp said she wants to mind her own buissness you are at the extreme level of fibro like many other conditions fibro comes in different severity fibro is different from person to person. my dr said you are not fit to work and I am not signing you fit for work end of. Ive worked all my life in between having my sons I brought them up on my own had 2 jobs and a house to run and keep going.My husbands mum has never liked me as I had 2 children out of wedlock she thought because of this I would have affairs behind my husbands back. she is surpose to be a christain. sorry ive gone off the point and having a rant. what I like to do is help people I raise money for the british heart foundation to help them do research into heart disease.I get alot of joy and feel good by helping others. what also lifts me is now again I try to treat myself whether its flowers or getting my hair done. by helping charities I feel you are doing something worth while and doing some good in the world hope this helps sorry for the rant   take care gentle hugs

helping our children deal with bullies isnt always easy. I think bullying will always be a problem when my son got headbutted on the nose by 1 it was an unprovoked attack I called the police in I had enough of this lad constantly picking on him both in school and out. the police came spoke to us and James he said his mom as asked that you dont press charges on him as he has learning difficulties. I said thats no excuse for what he did. this lad was known totthe police. the policeman went and had a word with him he left our son a lone theirs no excuse for bullying

Thanks for sharing your story Kaz, you sound an amazing person, so strong. Your mother in law sounds like a very narrow minded judgemental person, it can't be easy for you. 

Ahh thank you for that Meg thats so very kind of you to say so. no its not easy for me you hit the nail on the head she is very judgemental especially towards me and also very narrow minded. take care gentle hugs x 

Thanks Kaz; it is hard being a parent; and I think some of my probs are that the youngest was not "actually" old enough (he was 9 ) when I became ill, and had to give up my full-time work...so never actually realized what I was like as a person, before this???            Bron

its hard for youngsters to fully understand our condition and what were going through especially when they didnt know the person we were before. . mind you James is 18 and he still doesnt get it? how many times Ive tried to explain and tried to get him to read up on it

its certainly not easy being a paren thats for sure gentle hugs take care