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jamie50513
jamie50513

Hello Ladies,

I was really contemplating on wether or not I was going to post because I know I sound like a broken record. But I am feeling so low today. This is one thing that I haven't really dealt with in the last couple of months. I don't want to believe that I'm depressed but maybe I am. I've been questioning so much since all this has started.

I was such a happy person and enjoying life and now all of a sudden I don't know what is going on. When all this madness started about 5 months ago. I didn't know which way to go. Now that some of those symtpoms are gone for now and I finally felt like I was getting back on the path to normalcy, I feel like I'm right back where I started. I have been crying for 3 days now and I don't know why. You would think that since I'm feeling a little better physically that I wouldn't feel so sad.

I tried to handle things on my own as much as I could but I don't think I can handle this anymore. I hate that I feel so sad. I am thinking of talking to a therapist and maybe they can help me sort some things out. I've never dealt with anxiety, depression or anything. My family tells me I'm so skinny, I don't look or act the same. I've been so consumed with trying to figure out what is wrong with me that I can admit that I have let a lot of things go. Docs won't help, they tested everything including my hormones and eveything is normal except me being anemic and I'm getting help for that. My cycles are still somewhat regular so they say no peri. I just don't know anything anymore and I'm so discouraged.

Sorry for the long all over the place post and I really hate to be a downer. Since I don't have a therapist yet, I just needed to get this off my chest.

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  • kezzabird30
    kezzabird30 jamie50513

    Posted

    Hi Jamie. I hear your pain honey and I completely understand what you are feeling as I am feeling the same. I am going to the doctors. I think you should go back and see a different doctor. One who is more understanding. I just wanted to send you a hug xxx
    • jamie50513
      jamie50513 kezzabird30

      Posted

      Thanks so much. I was thinking about seeing abother doc. I just may do that.
  • tracy5858
    tracy5858 jamie50513

    Posted

    Xoxoxox... I understand I think I put myself in a crazy mood because my doctor is clueless. Hang in there don't never hesitate to share we all are going through the same issues ...
  • Snowbell1975
    Snowbell1975 jamie50513

    Posted

    Jamie, my twin, my friend...... sending hugs your way today. Have you had a chance to look into the Rhodiola? I've read that in studies compared to Zoloft (which my doctor prescribed but I didn't want to take due to side effects) it has had very positive effects in the studies and has helped to lift the mood and anxiety. I just started taking it, and I understand, just like Zoloft,  it takes time to get into your system and work. I am hoping by this time next month, I will feel much better. Its worth a try, as we need some sort of help. I am also at the advice of the lady at the health food store, combining it with Ashwaghanda. 

    Today is very emotional for me too. My dad passed 4 years ago and for some reason I bawled my eyes out this morning missing him. I was totally over his passing and never had issues with this. It has to be the hormones. Im on day 3 of my cycle, and from reading, on day 3, estrogen is very low and can cause depression. Since we have about the same cycles, maybe this is what is going on with you as well and we are feeling that estrogen dip. I wish we lived closer to one another so we could be there for support. If you get a moment today, look into the Rhodiola and Ashwaghanda. I will keep you posted on how I am feeling on it. I am willing to give it 6 weeks, as I feel so down and low and know I need something but cant bring myself to start the Zoloft due to the side effects. Lots of hugs being sent your way Jamie, we will get thru this. 

    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 Snowbell1975

      Posted

      This is horrible isn't it. Every day for the last 6 months I've felt so unwell.

      I think to myself perhaps tomorrow will be a better day,sometimes it may be a bit better or could be worse.

      I've given up working because of it. I am anxious,so low. I look at people and see that they are happy and doing things and that makes we feel worse because I want to be like that.

      Somedays I will go back to bed. Fatigue depressed anxious nauseous tinnitus toothache now every day. No interest in things. I just am not the same person. People must be fed up with me .

    • kezzabird30
      kezzabird30 michelle46271

      Posted

      We just all seem to be in the same boat! This is ridiculous in this day and age that we have to suffer like this. Sending you a hug too! xxx

       

    • Snowbell1975
      Snowbell1975 michelle46271

      Posted

      Michelle, I can totally relate. Its downright awful. I was so angry with just being pushed antidepressants by my doctors, but I have come to accept I need something to help me get out of this funk and be me again. I didnt feel comfortable taking the Zoloft, especially due to some genetic defects I have so I researched so long and hard and came across the Rhodiola Rosea. Im throwing my hands up and giving it a try. Just like all of us, I need some relief and I pray this will be it to get me through this trying time. Hang in there ladies. xx
    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 kezzabird30

      Posted

      It's the most terrible thing this perimenopause. I never ever thought I would feel so bad. I feel like I am always ill with one thing or another. People who know me must think that I always have something. I don't want to do anything. Today awful toothache and light headed and nauseous . I just want to curl up and wake up in a couple years when it's over . I feel different every single day but not in a good way. I have always looked after myself ie getting my hair done (couldn't stand roots) buying new clothes,going out but that's gone. I can't be bothered to go to the hairdressers . I think 'Oh well another week won't hurt' I want to be out and about again with some get up and go and feeling like I did. Rant over.
    • jamie50513
      jamie50513 michelle46271

      Posted

      I resigned from my job because the anxiety had gotten so bad that I couldn't sit still. I was always scared and paranoid that I was going to collapse or something bad was going to happen to me. Just feeling unwell. I can say that since starting iron and folic acid that I do feel some improvements to my energy. But I still have some symptoms going on. I woke up this morning with those internal tremors. They used to scare me when it first happened. Now I guess I'm just used to it. I just feel so helpless and useless.
    • kathy8894
      kathy8894 kezzabird30

      Posted

      so right that in this day and age there must be something for all of to help us get through the day!!!
    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 jamie50513

      Posted

      I know. I stopped my job 3 months ago. I'm learning to put up with the symptoms. Burning body leading to light headed leading to feeling I need the loo and going to faint . I was getting these 5 times a day. Not sleeping,body tingling,neck and headache all the time. When the feelings come on I now try to stop it. I'm tired out doing that. My kids are 16 and 13. I want to be happy with them. I don't want them to think I'm always ill now
    • CCinCal
      CCinCal Snowbell1975

      Posted

      I am with you on Zoloft side effects. I tried it few months ago and couldn't handle it. Made me feel worse like I was slowly being poisoned. I really wish our local medical facilities had a peri/menopause support group like they have for diabetes or weight loss etc. I think we are a silent majority.

      I'm on my 9th month of this and going up the wall most days. Last 6 days I've been on period and moods been so low can't get up and going. :-(

    • jamie50513
      jamie50513 CCinCal

      Posted

      I'm just went off yesterday and for the last three days I was on i've been crying and down. I've never expierenced this with cycles. I just used to take something for the cramps and keep going. Now I just feel out of sorts.
    • jamie50513
      jamie50513 michelle46271

      Posted

      My kids are 11 and 20. I used to do everything with them now I feel useless. I took the 11 year old to the movies and specifically got a seat by the door in case I needed to exit quickly. I was on edge the whole time. She enjoyed herself but I was miserable just glad she didn't notice. I know my 20 year old is tired of me, I get her to ride everywhere with me because I don't want to be alone scared I'm going to collapse or something bad is going to happen to me. I don't want to have an anxiety attack with them because it can be frieghtening and embarrassing for them. I've been in my room most of the day because I don't want them to see me crying. I've become someone else.
    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 jamie50513

      Posted

      I am exactly the same. Wouldn't it be nice if people on here could meet up and be together
    • Snowbell1975
      Snowbell1975 CCinCal

      Posted

      CC, I agree, we need support groups everywhere. This is such a debilitating time for us.
    • jamie50513
      jamie50513 michelle46271

      Posted

      That would be wonderful. I agree Snowbell, support groups would really be helpful.
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