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caroline62395
caroline62395

Does anyone else feel like they have aged over night? I look in th mirror and think “who’s that old lady?” My skin is dry, everything aches, I’m always tired, I don’t think I should feel like this at 47. My auntie who is 72 has more spring in her step than me. I want to start making improvements with my health but I just can’t summon up the motivation, anybody got any advise or feel the same? 

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  • karen66219
    karen66219 caroline62395

    Posted

    Hi Caroline, you mentioned in another post that you could find a book regarding feeling younger during this time.  Have you read The Longevity Book, by Cameron Diaz?  It was suggested by a girl on You Tube that I do my workouts with.  I read the first chapter on Amazon and think that it is worth a shot.  I went ahead and ordered it.  If you like, I will let you know if it is any good.

    I am a voracious reader, so one more book is nothing for mesmile

    • caroline62395
      caroline62395 karen66219

      Posted

      Hi Karen I’ve sent for the book you recommended, I read the reviews and it looks really good x
    • karen66219
      karen66219 caroline62395

      Posted

      I hope it is a good one, if Cameron Diaz can't help me age gracefully, then no one can! 

      You know, I had a friend telling me that she felt so bad about herself that she got botox to get rid of the worry line between her eyebrows (keep in mind that this is a woman who looks like Betty Paige, this is not my opinion, but everyone's).  If this woman can feel bad about herself, I am in for a helluva ride.  I don't know about you, but I will not go quietly to frumpy landwink

    • kelly55079
      kelly55079 karen66219

      Posted

      I bought a book by her about 5 years ago and gave it to my niece. I read too because she talked a lot about nutrition and other stuff.  I'll check out this other book. smile

      I have considered botox for between the eyes and nose to mouth.  Just do it and feel better. But then I would have to continue this for years and if I stop it will fall!!  UGH..  So I bought these Fron... which is basically tape that you put on at night.  It helps some..  I think many of these deep lines come from sleeping!!  I drink a lot of water and eat blueberries every day and keep my face moisturized.  IDK sometimes I feel crazy about this but if I let it go, I'm afraid I will regret not doing anything earlier.

    • karen66219
      karen66219 kelly55079

      Posted

      I heard her last book was a good one.  I don't know why I never read it.  From what I understand, this book is supposed to be about the process of aging.  I am of the hope that if I better understand what is happening to my body, I won't be so shocked by it.  I used to think that perimenopause was a few hot flashes and some moodiness.  I had no idea that it could be severe enough to be unmanageable.  This has been rather an unpleasant surprise.  I don't want to be blind-sided again.

      My friend does say the botox makes her feel a bit better.  If it does, than going what I am going through, I can relate to wanting to feel a bit better about herself.  I know what you mean too, I am kind of afraid if I let one thing go, it will become two, then three.  Then I end up being the crazy lady wearing the fanny pack, who's mustache needs to be groomed, hollering moodily at the kids down the street...of course at only 50 years old.  The horrifying reality is, how quickly that could come about if I let it!  Yikes.

  • sarah86682
    sarah86682 caroline62395

    Posted

    Hi fellow Perimenopausers!!  I too am 47. I didnt feel too bad until about 6 months ago when I started having some symptoms and then about 3 weeks ago everything just hit me full in the face. I'm sitting here typing this with sore dry eyes. My elbows hurt because I've just done some ironing and I could easily fall asleep but know I cant as the kids are due in from school any minute now. People tell me I look good for my age, but on the inside everything is slowing down and ceasing up. My energy levels have crashed.  I never expected to feel so old so quickly. I am so thankful for this site as I was feeling so lonely

    • amy341731
      amy341731 sarah86682

      Posted

      Hi Sarah- I’m the same as you and feeling party awful and old today..how is this possible??? I was fine a year ago!!! My skin is awful, I am sore pretty much everyday...if I do something I’m sore, if I sit too long I’m sore.. Emotionally I go between sad and hopeless...and so yes it’s lonely, I hide it from everyone. Glad I found this site..Here’s hoping we find something that helps. 😊

    • amy341731
      amy341731

      Posted

      Particularly ** not party old!! 
    • sarah86682
      sarah86682 amy341731

      Posted

      With you 100% and hiding it from everyone just drains you even more!! 
  • vicky77852
    vicky77852 caroline62395

    Posted

    My only way not to look old is to feel young! If we feel great, we look great! I’m grateful for what life gives to me and that I’m still alive. Menopause is a hormonal phase and has nothing to do with the overall aging. Aging is more a state of mind. I see more and more young people aging and older people feel and look young! 
    • debbie12340
      debbie12340 vicky77852

      Posted

      Hi Vicky,

      You’re very lucky if your hair and skin haven’t gone dry 🙏🏼 I just wondered are you on HRT ? Maybe that’s what’s make the difference.  Unfortunately the loss of hormones causes both of these, and they defiantly contribute to making you look older unfortunately x

    • caroline62395
      caroline62395 vicky77852

      Posted

      Hi Vicky your very lucky you seem to be in a great frame of mind and coping with menopause well, unfortunately I find it difficult to feel great at the moment, the changes in my body and mind are taking some getting used too x
    • vicky77852
      vicky77852 debbie12340

      Posted

      Yes, I’m on hrt, I diagnosed a year ago and it helps with symptoms but not with a magic way! I think that our bodies take time to adjust and that’s all. When we are so much obsessed with the aging and the changes, our mind makes us to see all these with a very distressing way. I have a friend, she had her meno at 46, no hrt and she looks great and sexy. She is 53 now and with a body of 40, few wrinkles and just all! 
    • vicky77852
      vicky77852 caroline62395

      Posted

      I feel feel you Caroline, just give to yourself a little more time and things will be better for sure! 
  • tracy99106
    tracy99106 caroline62395

    Posted

    hi caroline i have just read your post and i identify with your feelings . i will be 55 soon and i have lost my spark and have so many symptoms of the dreaded menopause . and find it so hard to be kind to myself and to motivate myself to improve my health .you are not alone

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