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wen_54374
wen_54374

Hi ladies I am 57 and nearly 2 year's post menopause. I have had a lot of different symptoms during this time itchy skin flushes sweats at night which i still get and very up and down .Six years ago I lost my mum and only brother within 6 months of each other and hit rock bottom so was put on 20mg of fluroxatine which has been great till the last few months .I find I am having really down day's anixiety and generally feel very low some days I just want to shut myself away. I went to Dr they have upped my pills now to 40mg a day which I have been on now about 17 days but I feel terrible panic and low and I feel like I have trouble swallowing feels like I have a lump in my throat all the time this makes me even more anxious it's a nightmare feel like I am loosing the plot .I hate all these feelings again as I know I am miserable to be around but it seems to of triggered off my health anxiety again .Help please .

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  • pam34236
    pam34236 wen_54374

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    Hi sorry to hear all this but maybe see how your hormones are going. It might shed some light and some different strategy could be used. I know it is easy to write than suffer but understand your pain as I am also trying to find something that would help me as well.
    • wen_54374
      wen_54374 pam34236

      Posted

      Thank you we must all try and help each other through this terrible time.
  • tmpearce
    tmpearce wen_54374

    Posted

    Hi Wen,

    I am so sorry you are having a rough time with menopause symptoms and to have it compounded by grief is just not fair. I am 55 and I believe am now leaving peri menopause and entering full menopause. It's hard to say for sure because a year ago I had hysterectomy with everything but my ovaries removed. Before that went through horrible anxiety issues, especially health anxiety, fatigue and constant gastric problems. These kind of got better and then about a month ago all started up again, especially the anxiety and fatigue with lack of interest in anything. So I think my hormones may be taking another dive!

    My anxiety manifests itself in that lump in throat and a tightness in my chest which, for some reason, eases when I take a deep breath. I've had tons of cardiac tests and all were normal so I just deep breathe and tell myself it's all normal.

    You aren't losing the plot (that's a new expression for me...I'm Canadian but live in US.). Try to hang in and when the anxiety gets bad try to distract yourself with deep breathing and maybe meditation. I know this sounds crazy but what about buying an adult coloring book and some colored pencils and find a quiet place to relax with it. I've started bible art journaling, which is kind of bible study meets scrapbooking meets coloring and that has done wonders for my anxiety.

    Sorry for the long reply.....just know you have friends here who understand and some have gone through what you are going through and are here to support you. Take care!

    Tanya

    • wen_54374
      wen_54374 tmpearce

      Posted

      Thank you Tanya for your kind words .THis is such a difficult time for us all .I find it especially hard at Xmas and with the winter nights .I think your advice about the colouring is wonderful I will do that .It's good to know u have experience with the lump in the throat feeling I am anxious about it and feel like I will choke then I am constantly checking my throat incase it's something serous hence the health anxiety .I know my mind plays tricks on me and the more I think about it the worse it become. It's good to know we are not alone .We will help each other to ride this terrible storm .Please take care .Wendy

    • natallia04776
      natallia04776 wen_54374

      Posted

      Hi Wen! I'm 43 but I understand how you feel. I started to feel not myself since March but the end of August gave me dip jump into peri menopause and health anxiety.

      Good advices here. I am trying not to stay in doors and if I stay try to keep busy. I do ironing even things I never used to iron before 😉 my husband 's t -shirts for work ?

      Blessings

    • diane87594
      diane87594 wen_54374

      Posted

      I to have heath anxiety it's not nice changed me as a person hate beening on my own never bothered me before it all started in august this year not had cycle for 16 month now had blood test I'm in menapause x

    • natallia04776
      natallia04776 diane87594

      Posted

      Anxiety is terrible. I hate it. I keep thinking and looking for things and then I think I have got it 😢

    • diane87594
      diane87594 natallia04776

      Posted

      It is indeed horrible place for us all coping with it hope us ladies will get back to our normal self again
  • 2chr2015
    2chr2015 wen_54374

    Posted

    Hi wen. I hope you get some relief soon. ((Hugs)). I get so much comfort from this forum just know I am not alone. Having all these crazy symptoms and the health anxiety is awful. I just wanted to mention that once when the pharmacy changed manufacturer for the antidepressant I was taking, I started having anxiety and depression again. The doctor increased my dosage. It took me a couple of months to figure out what was going on. When I was able to find the same brand again, I was fine and able to decrease my dose. Just in case this may have happened to you
    • pam34236
      pam34236 2chr2015

      Posted

      good to know that AD are working for you. Hope everyone here finds something that will help them out.
    • wen_54374
      wen_54374 2chr2015

      Posted

      Thank you for that information I never gave that a thought .I know a friend of mine who had really bad stomach problems and she only realised after a while it was the change in make of her AD .I will look into this.I really helps talking on here its been such a hard journey trying to cope with lots of changes at this time of life physically and mentally .
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