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feels like I'm slowly dying!

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Dennymo
Dennymo

Hi ladies! 

I feel like I'm slowly dying, anxiety through the roof everyday! Every ache and pain (and believe you me there's a lot) is some type of cancer! I don't even mention it to friends as they will think I'm nuts! Doctor just looks at me when I list my ailments, I'm 46, had two periods when coil was removed then nothing for 10 months......answer is maybe your at the start of your menopause and that was the end of the discussion!!! Dizzy beyond belief, no energy, bloated, stabbing stomach ache, muscles ache like I've done a marathon gym session even though I've sat for hours, anxiety is making me smoke heavily which in turn makes me more anxious, skin is like sandpaper, dry eyes, nose, burning sensation in mouth, the list is endless! Feel like a hypochondriac! Force myself to go to work as I feel more sane there as it keeps my mind busy but I'm that busy all I can feel is my heart thumping in my chest and the anxiety about that kicks in! the moment I'm home I collapse with exhaustion and then the head starts playing games! Oh and the sweats! There always a joy!!!!.........really cannot see light at the end of this horrible dark tunnel 

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  • Amalie13
    Amalie13 Dennymo

    Posted

    I agree.  This time is horrible.  I am now 51, and things began to "churn" about 2 years ago.  Over the past year, I have learned to "deal" with the horrible anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and doom and gloom.  Some weeks are relatively good.  Others are not.  Meditation, mindfulness, and therapy have helped.  And keeping busy.  But I can feel good for 2 months.....and than "whoosh".......the "crap" returns".  I am in one of those times now, as we speak.  Ugh.  However, my meditations, certain books, breathing, podcasts, and talking to you ladies does help.  The lows do not feel as low........

  • lori93950
    lori93950 Dennymo

    Posted

    Well I admire you for making it to work ! Many women have had to give up their jobs and personally I don’t work but going through this for 3 months I literally could not function and could definitely not hold down a job . 

    All the little things like dry eye sweats are minor compared to the dark moods fatigue and depression . Boy is that part tough ! 

    • juanita93228
      juanita93228 lori93950

      Posted

      Yes, I read somewhere that 15 percent of women have to leave their jobs during peri and menopause. That number would be higher if more women could afford it. But when you are single like me and you have bills to pay, you just have to pray and drag yourself into work.biggrinrolleyes

      I dream of retiring. I am getting through the days at work by the grace of God.

  • juanita93228
    juanita93228 Dennymo

    Posted

    Your hormones are just flying everywhere. They will settle down. You will still have up and down days. I still have terrible health anxiety, and low moods. But no more hot flashes, dry eyes etc. But still taking an antidepressant and  Valium for the rough patches. ((((hugs))))
    • dora_39625
      dora_39625 juanita93228

      Posted

      Hi Juanita.

      What antidepressant do you take and how do you feel on it?

    • juanita93228
      juanita93228 dora_39625

      Posted

      I am taking Trazodone. It's an older antidepressant that also helps with sleep. It's a SNRI not a SSRI. The SSRI's are too strong and make you feel worse before you feel better. I tried to take several SSRI's Zoloft, Prozac, Celexa etc. but they made me feel so bad I just could not deal. 

      I've been on the Trazodone since 2014 and feel fine. I started with 50mg and then went to 100mg about 2years ago and I refuse to go higher than 100mg.  Sometimes I even forget to take it. It's not a cure, I still have days where my mood is low, dark thoughts, etc. I hope to get off it completely one day.  biggrin

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