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Finally admitted I have a problem

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helen41356
helen41356

Hi all I'm new here as finally admitted yesterday to my husband about my drinking habits. Ive been drinking 2-3 bottles of wine a night mostly after he's gone to bed. Hiding booze topping up bottles of spirits with water so he doesn't know I've drank it. Taking bottles to bottle banks to hide it and most recently taking time off work so I can drink in the day and be sober when he gets home. Only done it twice but it's frankly terrified me as to why I would do this. So yesterday I sat him down and told him everything. Thank god ive a supportive hubby he's been concerned about my drinking for years but it's escalated to this since our last child left home. God knows why I've got a great life stressful job but money a great home. I feel so guilty and ashamed. I don't want to admit this to a Dr it's disgusting behaviour. Thankfully I didn't drink yesterday and apart from a little anxiety I'm fine. I know I now have to abstain I am an all or nothing kind of person that's how I kicked fags years ago. So today is day 2 but it's really scary to think about dealing with all the things that will come up socially with no booze. How do other people manage?

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  • helen41356
    helen41356

    Posted

    Hubby bought in some alcohol free fizz but not sure if I shouldn't just be breaking the habits and associations what does everyone else think? Does that keep the brain thinking about booze?

    • JulieAnne101
      JulieAnne101 helen41356

      Posted

      Hi Helen

      Yeah my hubby had problems with alcohol free beer. Just too much of a trigger

      Regards

      JulieAnne x

  • vickylou
    vickylou helen41356

    Posted

    Personally speaking I think it tastes foul.

    I was told by a counsellor not to drink it as it's a bit like torturing yourself. It just reminded me of the fact I couldn't drink, so there was no point in drinking it. That's just my opinion though

    • helen41356
      helen41356 vickylou

      Posted

      Thanks it was ok but did start my thinking and I'd been fine all day. No more of that then.

  • michaelmck
    michaelmck helen41356

    Posted

    I am in the same position, hate myself the morning after....know that I feel better not drinking, have a good life......but just can't seem to stop. Was a violent alcoholic house when I was young....hate myself...if  you want to email, maybe help each other....take it easy and good luck x

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  • caroline1978
    caroline1978 helen41356

    Posted

    Well done you! So nice to hear you have what sounds like a supportive husband - good luck on your continued journey smile
    • helen41356
      helen41356 caroline1978

      Posted

      He's been great totally stopped drinking too to support me. Couldn't ask for a better reaction.

  • Tish56
    Tish56 helen41356

    Posted

    Hi hun I've had the same problem my drinking has escalated to the point I have felt I can't do this anymore!! I have a wonderful second husband who I have been with for 20 years and 5 lovely kids all grown up and left home now but still see 4 of them quite often.

    My first husband was an alcoholic still is I hated how he was hiding drink all over the house but I now think I am just like him!! It scares me so much I can't bare it anymore!!

    I went to my doctor for help😱but she told me to cut down on my drinking (Not very helpful) so I thought your on your own Tish where do we go from here, so I found an audiobook by Anny Grace it has given me a new inspiration to be sober!!! She also has Utub tutorals. Try it you have nothing to lose!! Take care God bless😊Xx

    • helen41356
      helen41356 Tish56

      Posted

      Thanks Tish good luck with your recovery. I'm on day 5 and feeling great. We went for a carvery today then sat in the garden drinking j2o not even slightly bothered. Not saying there won't be tough times but I even got back into riding my horse. I feel happier and more positive than I have in years.

    • vickylou
      vickylou helen41356

      Posted

      Hi Helen

      well done you! Treat and pamper yourself.

      Retail therapy is my favourite, reminds me what I can do and achieve by just social drinking.

      Also great to spend a couple of days at a spa centre. Hot stone massage is fantastic 

    • helen41356
      helen41356 Robin2015

      Posted

      Hi robin. Going great 2 weeks tomorrow since last drink and I feel amazing! I think I'm addicted to apple juice now but I can live with that one thanks for asking .

  • Robin2015
    Robin2015 helen41356

    Posted

    So great to hear well you doing. You should be immensely proud. Offer yourself a treat! Robin
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