First Herpes Outbreak, PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

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In the beginning of december of 2019 I had surgery to get 2 tumors out of my uterus and a D&C done to help the bleeding since my menstrual cycle was 2 weeks long each month. I had pretty rough sex with my boyfriend of 2 years pretty soon after surgery. My doctor told me not to have sex for 4-6 weeks. & immediately after I was in so much pain. My boyfriend and I had sex this past weekend I want to say Friday. either the 9th or 10th of January 2020. i called my doctors on-call service in unbearable pain begging for the nearest appointment. i also had started my period the day of my appointment (3 days after i was experiencing excruciating vaginal pain.) i went to my doctor crying about having sex too soon and about how i cant even pee without it burning like acid. I am terrified. He said i was covered in blisters and was convinced i have herpes. He prescribed me Valtrex and 5% lidocaine ointment for pain. He also swabbed a blister and sent it to the lab. I keep checking my patient portal for my lab results. i am in complete shock and denial. I want to kill myself. I feel like someone lit my vagina on fire with a match. i shake and cry uncontrollably doubled over in pain. do u think i can have something else??? my boyfriend doesnt think its a big deal. he just had blood work done and said as long as it isnt AIDS/HIV he doesnt care. I am in so much pain. Should i go to the hospital? I willupload pictures. im so scared please help me. File size is too bigimage

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    hey,

    sorry your going through this hard time!

    from your picture and the pain your in i would think it is herpes!

    • Posted

      thank you for replying. With my research I am beginning to believe the same. I don't know if I should go to the hospital. I need so much help. Ugh. I hate my life.

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    Hopefully these pictures show more. i cannot stop crying.image

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    hey love, from what i read and honestly what could have happened was you probably been had it and didnt know. Having major surgery can trigger things like a outbreak, from what i understand. but this should be the worst one it will get better love.

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      thank you so much for your reply I hope this is as bad as it gets i cannot emotionally stay calm i think it's making things worse. i dont believe my boyfriend cheated but idk. my doc thinks he did. ugh. thank u so much for your kindness.

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      Hey! I don't know your boyfriend or your relationship but I will say I had my first outbreak a year into a monogamous relationship with absolutely no cheating. The virus can lay dormant in a person for years so it is possible you got it from a past hookup or relationship and the stress of the surgery triggered your first outbreak, or your boyfriend has had it for a long time and is asymptomatic so he unknowingly gave it to you. Cheating is quite a leap for your doctor to make in my opinion so I would not over think that comment. That being said, it is your relationship and your business so handle it as you see fit just thought I would offer that thought:) Good luck with everything and hope you feel better soon

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    you shouldnt allow someone with that mindset to have anything to do with your body. Not trying to play doctor phil but he sounds like he doesnt care about his health or yours. Id say get a whole std panel to see if he gave you anything..

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      you're completely and totally right. I wish i had known what i got myself into. he went for blood work and i have not done blood work yet. he is just very relaxed about it and does not think it is a big deal. i on the other hand am falling apart, my mom has been a huge support to me. i will go for the blood work when i can stand. i need to get the medicine working enough so i am not stuck in bed. You are completely right though. I appreciate your reply more than you know. Thank you.

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      Deep down inside that's how I feel too because before my surgery I had presurgical blood work testing and I feel like it would have come up before the docs put me under. I hate that I am beating myself up to figure out if it was him or if it was something that was dormant in me that I gave to him. I desperately wish that I knew. But even so, I can't rewind time and I am slowly adjusting to the reality that this is my life now.

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    i think maybe you had it beforehand and with your surgery and stress on your body it got fierce. Or maybe yall are both newly infected. It looks very painful. I hope the meds help you feel better quickly and glad you have your mom. Hang in there! Interested in his test results! ask that he gets tested for everything. And you too

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      thank you so much for your reply, that really could be the case. unfortunately I probably will never know and yes I'll definitely post updates!! thank you so much, i'm hanging in there. this is one of the hardest weeks of my life. i will make sure we both get a full std screening.

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    it does look like herpes. From what i read the first outbreak is the worst and it gets better. There are alot of people on here with it that are living happy healthy sexual lives . Great support here. i wish you the best

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      thank you so much, the replies and support mean so much during this difficult time of my life. i wish you the best also!

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    i think that's herpes

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      yeah I'm coming to terms with that being the case for me unfortunately, i appreciate all the responsive messages i have received on here. It has really helped my anxiety and helped me cope with the pain.

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      thats good hun. if you need any help or have any questions feel free to message me!

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