First PAINFUL outbreak & I am on my period. HELP!

Thanks scorpio32. I've been researching anything and everything for the past three days but I haven't really found anything about having an OB and period at the same time. As of now, the constant Epsom salt baths have been working and even though it stings to clean down there I've been putting my brave face on and cleaning as much as I can so my menstration isn't out of control. Pads are turning out to not be so bad. I bought the overnight Always pads so I don't have to worry about blood getting everywhere.

I had a horrible case of ovulating pain in the morning and what helped was closing my eyes, breathing, focusing sorta like meditating on the pain and remaining calm through each ovulating sting. I was surprised at how well it worked. I think the goal was relaxing the body and remaining calm.

How often do you have outbreaks? What has worked for you? Also, when were you diagnosed? Thank you for the reply, I appreciate you reaching out. This is still very scary for me.

Just before christmas had gone to the clinic. But told them have symptoms of herpes. The doctor looked and said think you do have it. So was not good over xmas or new yr but got confirmed beginning january. So I decided as was still clueless to go speak to health advisor. I suggest go local gum clinic and speak to someone it helped that day felt better. I been feeling I am about to have my second ob. But had a lot of tingling, soreness but nothing.

Just was feeling.normal again last 2 wks.

I'm so sorry you had to deal with your first OB during the holiday season. I could not imagine going through what I'm going through now at that time. How did you stay mentally and emotionally strong during that time?? Also what is a gum clinic?

Thanks feelsbroken. I'm really trying to be as proactive as I can despite breaking down every now and then. It seems like it hits me like a ton of bricks the second I feel okay. I took a nap a little while ago and when I woke up I felt like it was just a dream until I got up and felt the irritating pain.

I agree, it seems like the meds don't do anything but I know I need to continue them out. I wanna think that taking L-Lysine has been helping. Last night I made the mistake of applying undiluted tea tree oil and it was horrible. After reading more I found out I should mix it with olive or almond so I used Olive since I had it. It seems to help the second time around with the burning sensation.

I'll definitely add vitamin C to my cupboard as well.

As for contracting it, I didn't have oral sex with him it was only vaginally with a condom. It freaks me out that condoms can't even protect against HSV. I feel like sex is nonexistent in my life from here on out. I can't wait to gain a handle on all this.

What do you do when it starts to itch during your mild outbreaks? And how do you know an OB is coming on, what do you do on top of taking meds?

Well condoms give you about a 30% protection rate from people who are infected, so that's still a pretty large percentage left there w risk.

You feel like you'll never have sex again, but you will. That's just not something you can fathom now, but on a couple of months you will. It really is a grieving process and w every month that passes, I'm better and better about my diagnosis.

As far as the itching goes, it isn't much on the daily meds and I succumb to the itch at times or if it gets to be too much w no relief, I take an Epsom salt bath and that seems to resolve the issue for the most part.

I have had an ob w no warning signs... That has been while on my period, I seem to break out in one sore on the inside and if I go pit drinking till the wee hrs and forget my meds before I left I will. They don't hurt being on meds and arw there just for a few days . taking it twice a day has made the works of a difference. I take vitamin c daily and lysine, but not as of late w the lysine. I think I'm going to start journaling it daily to see a pattern w triggers from diet, stress, holistic remedies, etc. Keep your head up... There is an end to this.

Journaling is a great idea. I think I will also do that bc I have no idea what any trigger would be. Thanks again!

Thank you chey317! When you say more breakouts were they open sores like the ones you had on your primary outbreak?

I know it varies from person to person. But I'm terrified that I'll continue to get open sores in the same spots that I'm having them in this primary breakout. I've been reading that the following outbreaks aren't as bad as the first one. I just hope this to be true.

How are you? I just assumed that what mild outbreaks would be sores but not as painful. I may sound a stupid or could it be tingling or itchy feeling. They say not as bad as first Ob. What if you have very mild? You have but still have sex. I have itchy skin anyway. I get the tingling a lot. It will be hard as some people don't get outbreak for a long time after first ob.

When it is over you will feel much better.

None of mine were as bad as the first and they were every few months for the first 8 months or so. I learned to deal with it and I promise the break outs aren't normally as bad as what ur going through. I haven't had a break out for over a year and my last one lasted about 3 days. Now it's like it never happened and I don't have it.

An yes all mine were open sores an it burns like hell to pee at first. My dr gave me pills that I took when a break out started cause it makes it go away faster. Take like ibuprofen for the irritation drink more water. It also seemed to me that stress and pop and fast food all 3 happened around the time I would get a break out so mainly focus on avoiding stress when possible for the first year. After your first year or less they are WAY less frequent. I really wish you the best of luck and I hope it goes away soon.

I'm on daily meds, but my obs on it don't hurt. Minimally tender at best. I too know how embarrassing it was at the ER... I couldn't even open my mouth and say what happened w out balling.

I can't wait to get past this initial OB.

The Doctor and Nurses weren't as "nice" once they gave me the diagnosis. That added to my embarrassment and made me feel pretty low. Like I did something wrong. It was awful.

Mine didn't wait for test results, I had my first outbreak, thought I had a yeast infection and razor burn because I had used cheap razors, and he said, I think you have herpes, oh I'm pretty sure but I might be wrong. I will test and see. I had never seen that doctor before. I had to wait a week to find out. I cried and cried and cried. I don't know how I got it. The person I was with tested negative and never had any bumps. I checked before I said anything about it. So lost on that.

It may seem now like it ruined your life but I swear I have had nothing in over a year. To be honest, my boyfriend doesn't know yet. I don't know how to tell him. His ex had it. But I never have outbreaks and it only speads 2 weeks before/after an active outbreak. Just take your meds for the first 6 months and see how it goes. I forget I have it, then get sad when I remember. It's honestly not as bad as it seems. and definitely hold your lips open when you pee. do whatever you have to do to avoid that burning feeling. I hope you feel better. Cheer up honey. It's really not your fault. You didn't get it on purpose and you didn't know the person you were with had it either. Idk how I got it still and its been a few years. Stay as stress free as possible for your first 6 months or so. It helps

I'm waiting on official results as well, but the doctor I saw said he was 99% sure I have herpes. I thought I had a bad yeast infection too. I was in disbelief when he told me. I don't know how I got it either as I've been faithful with the same person for years. My only guess is that I've had it for years and am just getting my first OB since I've been overly stressed lately. I've read that your partner can be a carrier of the virus without showing symptoms. What a nightmare. I'm glad I found this site to talk it out as I feel alone in dealing with this.

Me too! I am having a posterior vaginal repair for rectocele done on the 27th and thats how I found the site. I'm in the US, in Indiana. Where are you? I suppose the same thing with me though, maybe I had it for a long time. But my partner claims he got tested and was negative which confuses me.

I'm also in the US... PA.

I've read that the carrier will show negative on tests unless an actual blister is stabbed or a blood test specific for herpes is taken.

I've been reading tons of information the last few days. Hey..... what else do you gotta do when your stuck on your back letting your girl parts heal? :-)

*swabbed. Not stabbed. Lol. Ouch.

I was thinking that stabbing them would not feel too good. I am kind of irritated though because I went to the Dr and requested to be tested for everything, ALL STDs and was told that I was. Then I find out I was never tested for herpes until I was diagnosed. For all I know, I couldve been born with it, I was never tested for it until I was diagnosed

I'm really sorry to hear that. That sounds like that test got neglected. It's never good news.

So now.... get over our anger and move on right?

Manage our symptoms the best we can.

At least now we have others to vent our frustrations.

I went to the clinic just before xmas and I said think I have herpes the lady doctor exammined said think u do. New year got that phonecall oh u have what we thought it was.

I be honest was not always safe with sex but always was in clinic checking and then I realised they don't check for it on normal std screening. But had my last std check september but did another std full screen was clear.But they say most people got it unaware of it.

Aww.. I'm sorry I know how you feel. I got lucky and had a very empathetic gyno, but my GP I saw after I went to the ER to get nerve pain meds for nerve pain I had from my first ob which was unbearable, was horrible to me! When I burst into tears and she heard my diag, she looked down at me, especially because she came from Indian decent and they don't believe in pre-marital sex, so to her it was all my fault. Going to the ER, I had a young and attractive ER doctor and he wasn't very empathetic either.

I'm sorry and you didn't deserve that treatment. You are not any less of a person or any less worthy because of this and you need to repeat that daily. You are just as beautiful and a gift to life today as you are, than you were before this.

Did you and your partner have oral sex? Did you find out if it is hsv 1 or 2? If it is 1, he gave it to you orally. I don't lnow if he's been w any new partners as of recent either, but tests take time before you build antibodies. My first one was negative and my second one 3 months later was positive for hsv 2. I have had hsv 1 orally for 11yrs and I have never tested positive for hsv 1. My belief is, that because a positive rest is based on a 3.0 and higher, that most oral infections are so old and have such a low antibody count, they don't come up on the tests. So that's likely how you got it.

That's not true... The virus has asymptomatic shedding and you are contagious during that period. I do not see the purpose of not telling your bf if his ex had it and he accepted it.

The fact that your obs are so mild and you've not had an ob in a long time, leads me to believe that you got it from oral sex as well. Did you test positive for hsv 1?

Trust me, you weren't born w it. You would have been very sick as a baby and most likely have some issues from it today. You'd be breaking out on your bpsu, not just your vagina.

When you ask for a full std panel, that does not include herpes. You have to specifically call out for herpes, in order to get tested for it. Makes me mad that is the case, bit it is. I believe the government doesn't make it law to include in the panel, because of money from big pharma... The more people infected, the more money from antivirals