Has fluoxetine stopping and starting ruined my relationship

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Hi can anyone help please. I have been with my girlfriend 2 years and we have been amazing and she's been so happy and wanted us to get married and get a house together. She had a bad spell before we got together and was put on fluoxetine and has been on for a year and half and suddenly stopped due to running out.unbeknown to me she got given some citalopram and took them for 3 week and it coincided with her ending our relatjonship out of the blue and even her family said it was out of carachter as she was telling them how happy she was just before. Could this be anything to do with the medication change (sudden stop and start).

She has just started back on the fluoxetine and seems to be admitting her head is all over and needs space to work out what she Wants. Any help would be greatly appreciated as I am just stuck and confused. Please help

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    Thankyou both of you I appreciate your input. I do beleive deep down she wants me as she was so happy and borderline obsessed with us then bang... This happened and I found out about the medication swapping. She would t talk to me at first and nobody could understand why. I've stood by her and sent texts and she seems to come out a bit more and has said she needs to do this alone as she doesn't want to hurt me at the min. One day I feel she wants me and is sending love heart texts and the next min she is so distant.she thanks me for standing by and understanding she needs space but it's killing me not been able

    To be there. She says she needs to do this alone and get her head right as she feels she's having a young mid life crisis and doubting everything in her life.its been such a shock to everyone. She's so loving and loyal and would never want to hurt me intentionally..

    The strange thing is we don't thonk she was depressed and it was just a one off episode in her life doe to her dad trying to get in touch and it opened up old wounds. So these tablets just seem to be messing up what seems a normal happy person.

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      Yes medication does mess yr head up. When i started fluoxetine I told my boyfriend to not contact me anymore as he cld not help me in my depressed state, and I wld contact him when I was better, which I did and we are much happier in our relationship, so I am sure when she is stable and better you will both get back together.

      Good luck.


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      Hi Paul, it's odd how sometimes the smallest things are what can trigger someone falling off the depression cliff, it all just suddenly builds up and becomes too much! And it's a very easy thing to hide from the people who care the most because you don't want to hurt them! Your girlfriend will need time and space, unfortunately there is no quick fix for this illness! But you sound like you are a very open caring person who is aware of what's happening. All you can do is be there when she needs you and support where you can. Once the meds have settled down things will be easier.


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      Hi Deborah.thanks for the input it means a lot. She knows I am helping and always there for her and I wish she would let me in just a little. I keep regular contact with her mum and her mum says she's still quiet and not herself and she knows her the best of anyone. At first she was saying it was things like she wanted to follow her new job which she loves and she didn't want to squeeze a relationship on and our age gap of 8 year put is at different stages. Then after a week it changed to she doesn't know what's been going on in her head and she doesn't know what she wants and she feels she's said things she can't take back...

      The change from her being so happy to this with no warning signs. Surely it's got to be the whole messing of medication and stopping Prozac abruptly and starting citalopram for 3 week then changing back to fluoxetine 2 week ago.

      As I say she's opened up a bit and said she misses me and can't turn her feelings off and she just needs to sort this herself as she doesn't want to ever hurt me again and so needs to be 100% she isn't going to. It's been 5/6 week since all this first started with the medication messing and Alain the same time in which I haven't seen her and her stopping seeing me. I'm just at a loss.i don't know if it is her not wanting me anymore or the medication scrambling her head. She did something similar just as we first got together before she was diagnosed to take Prozac and she didn't know wether a relationship was right for her etc but this time she knows the happiness she is throwing away. She knows how good we were surely and also how understanding I was with any issue she had even like the endometriosis she suffered with and tiredness.i just wish I knew answers.


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