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Have Fibromyalgia, Thinking That I Should Not Marry

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amandadee
amandadee

I am a 36 year old woman and I have come to a place of realizing that I probably would not be able to take good care of children if I had them. And now, I am questioning whether I even have the strength to be a good wife. I can't even take good care of a fish right now. I am having to give my fish back to the pet store. I can't keep up with household chores very well. Also, I am currently unable to work, and this might continue in the future. I have had fibromyalgia for 15 years. Does anyone who met their spouse after a diagnosis have any advice for me as someone who might or might not still consider marriage? I am so tired all the time. I have a romantic heart and I would really like to marry, but I question whether I would make a good wife with this illness. Any advice is appreciated.

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  • amandadee
    amandadee

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    Thank you all so much for the wise, loving, caring advice! :-)

    I have sometimes suspected that the lack of tolerance for and understanding of my condition meant they just were not the right type of guy for me. I even dated one guy who told me never to tell his parents that I have Fibromyalgia and bipolar disorder (I think he was ashamed of my having those conditions.)

    My most recent ex-boyfriend is into mountain climbing. I should have know that dating someone that much more physically active than me wouldn't work!

  • cherub123
    cherub123 amandadee

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    i can understand how u feel, but if the man u marry really loves you. he should take you as ypu are. and accept and understand your condition.of course it will be hard but if he is truly genuine, and marries u for better or worse, he should be there for u. whatever happens
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