Having trouble reconciling with my husband

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I and my husband are having fights almost every day. We try to hide it from our kids but sometimes it was really tough to do. I'm not really sure what's the root cause of our fights but somehow we always manage to start a fight with very little things that don't really matter. I've lost some weight because of our frequent fights and I'm scared that I am turning to a bad mother for my kids. I'm asking for any advice on how I can resolve the issues with my husband.

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    It takes two to quarrel so it is best to listen and don't respond by aggression too.Listen and think why is he or she quarrelling about. When things are calm talk about it if necessary if not forget about it. Some people are more explosive than others .Take advice from friends ,relatives,professionals and even strangers how to solve marriage problems. Try to find out the reasons for these quarrels ie stress,money problem,mental problem, work problem,or he or she is not happy in the marriage anymor because of a third party. How to save your marriage you must change your ways of dealing with each other 😻Respond with understanding and love and be mindful of your actions😻Go on holiday with him and kids 😻Go for walks in parks ,shops and eat out 😻Take the monotony of dull marriage by doing happy things together as family💃🐣🦉🍝🍜🥗?🏂🏸🥅🚴???🤹???🤹???Being happily married is an art  in modern world

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    If your husband is suffering from OCD then read the NHS website about it and learn how to handle them🤔They have certain habits and their thinkings are very vertical and different from non OCD men and women and try to help him to understand his condition by talking about it or by counselling and OCD can be controlled by mindful thinking🙏Hope my suggestions help you and your husband and make your marriage a happy one for your kids .

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    Janet

    I can't answer you because unless I lived in you shoes i just know you difficulties. I divorced two woman whom I loved deeply because my children happiness was more important than my own. I realized I have no control over someone's choices and moved on for the sake of my kids. I pray your family can work through these issues and remain intact. My God bless you family. 

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    I don't take Doxepin, I think it's a tricyclic antidepressant.

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      Janet , marriage is hard work, and the vows that you take means a lot. I’m in 40 yrs, did we fight oh yea. But in the end we both had to want to be married. I had to learn to communicate, and so did my hubby. We even went to a marriage counseling for 2 yrs. I learned a lot, especially since he’s hs OCD & has  Etchberger‘s disease . So it was especially hard. And to top thing off my hubby was pushed into retirement because of his total hip replacements. He had back to back replacements. So he feels useless, and I’m not home to help because I work 50 to 60 hours a week. But there is a balance. I try and give him what he needs  physically , but your limitations. I just keep  encouraging him to get better . I don’t worry about things outta of my control. I also tell him I’m stressed, please back off. So there’s a balance, you both have to find that. But talking and hugging it out helps a lot.  Keep pushing, you both can do it. Hugging both of you. ??????

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