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Help with dealing with hsv1

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staci21292
staci21292

I found out I had HSV1 when I was 17 after my boyfriend at the time went down on me with a coldsore. We were both young and thought that it was impossible for me to get... ignorant I know. But I am now 24. I had the first outbreak when I contracted it, and I didn't have another one for over 5 years. But within the last 6 months to a year, I've been having more outbreaks ( only 2 but still that's alot when you thought it'd be one every 5 or more years). I know I have been stupidly ignorant on this whole situation, but now I'm in a really tough situation. I have been sleeping with a guy on and off for two years and I haven't told him. I know I should and I am planning to now because they are starting to come more frequently but I am PETRIFIED that he is going to judge me and turn his back on me. I'm sure he's clean because I have been careful but it still scares me that he won't accept it. Is there any advice on how to tell him or what I can do to soften the blow for him? Again, we've been sleeping together for two years so its not like it's a new relationship or anything, and he's not my boyfriend either so it'd be easy for him to walk away from me....which I don't want

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  • staci21292
    staci21292

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    Hi guys! I just wanted to give you an update. I finally had the chance to tell the man I've been sleeping with that I had hsv. Of course I had a little liquid courage so it made it easier for me to tell him. But, I was utterly and completely shocked. He accepted it! I mean of course he was hurt and sad that it took me this long to tell him, but he was very understanding and actually listened to what I had to say instead of letting his... pre-conceived notions get in the way.

    I honestly felt so relieved and I STILL feel so relieved that not only did I tell him but that he was genuinely accepting of it... so I must say, if there's hope for me, there's hope for anyone.

    I wanna thank y'all for the help, because I remember one of you said to keep reminding him that it's been 2 years and he's still clean, and honestly I think that's the only thing that made him understand that its not a horrible thing andthat I've done and continue to do everything I can to make sure it isn't passed around.

  • dianejones
    dianejones staci21292

    Posted

    Hey, I don't know if anyone still uses this site but I am 16 and my boyfriend transmitted herpes 1 to me. I had it for six months and it didn't show up until my first time having sex. I just wanted to know for future relationships how do I bring this up. I'm scared that high school boys won't have the maturity for it not saying I want to have sex all the time but when I meet someone how do I bring it up. 

    • jessica28578
      jessica28578 dianejones

      Posted

      Hi diane,

      How did he transmit it to you?  Have you gotten diagnosed by your doctor?

  • daniel43260
    daniel43260 staci21292

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    Hello everyone. My name is Daniel. I was recently diagnosed with HSV-1 (oral herpes). I originally noticed a somewhat blister on my lip with no pain, itching, tingling, or any form of irritation. This was on a Monday. I wasn’t able to see the doctor until Friday and she looked at it and told me it was a cold sore. I had never experienced it before and didn’t take the news very well. I was so distraught on the drive home. I immediately started googling symptoms and pictures and everything. Part of me thinks I have been misdiagnosed. I never had the same symptoms as most people have and my blister looked nothing like the blisters other people had. I don’t know maybe I’m grasping at straws here. I might be in denial. The scab came off Monday the following week. With no pain at all no open sore either. It is now Thursday and my lip is practically healed already. I’ve been taking Acyclovir. Maybe I’m just lucky and haven’t had terrible symptoms like everyone else. Especially, since this is my first outbreak. I’ve had a hard time dealing with depression and not sure how to move forward with dating. I’ve had a bad time with dating as it is. I just feel like it helps to talk to someone but I don’t have anyone to talk to about this. I’ve only told maybe 3 people so far I feel so disgusting. I’m not even sure where I got it from. I asked the last person I had Sex with she said she didn’t have it and went and got tested and came back negative.
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