Hemorrhoidectomy Fears

Full recovery about 6 months 1st month pretty bad but not the worst thing I could imagine.. I would say it's an 8 out of 10 on the pain scale, I seen your list of recovery help, make sure you add a few bottles of Nyquil and alot of motrin and tylenol, your gonna need them, most important thing is a sidz bath this is a must,

After surgery your gonna have 2 free painless days to prepare yourself cause of whatever they put in the area of surgery..

My advice is plenty of water and just eat soups salads and fruits and take whatever stool softener the dr tells you. If I had to do it again I would in a sec.. after that 1st month it's a rollercoaster some good days some bad, but no big deal, what got me through the first couple off weeks when the pain at its worst was filling the sidz with very warm water and pooping in it, then jumping in shower to rinse off, forget about wiping for a while..The nyquil or zquil your best friend to try and sleep most of the healing process, Good Luck your making a very good decision, I wish I did it 20 years earlier..

I think you are being a little bit too panicky. Although I completely understand why you are anxious especially after reading the bad stories. I was also totally freaked out but having now gone through it I feel the stressing was not worth it. Please remember that there are positive recovery stories out there so please make sure you read through them as they offer quite good tips for smooth recovery and hope. Definitely opt for recovery in the comfort of your home (the hotel idea is just silly). You are immensely lucky to have a caring and supportive wife by your side.. so embrace it with gratitude.. and on occasion when you want to be miserable I am sure she will give you a space to mope 😃 Good luck .. wishing you a smooth recovery.

You better have your own supply, cause dr. gonna give 10mg of oxycodone at best, in my opinion motrin works better..

5 horrific days (but only when pooping), 5 more very painful days...3 more weeks of significant but tolerable pain...I wore depends for 1 month due to leakage.

80 % healed at 1 month 95% healed at 2 months...ready for receptive anal sex at 4 months

I had 2 hemorrhoids removed.

four 4 days I would sit in bathtub before every poop. my 1st poop o ly happened after snorting poppers (amyl nitrate) which relaxes the sphincter...it seemed like a life saver that 1st time.

let your wife take care of you some...u can send her out of the room when u want to be alone...

hi Robert,

Sorry to hear of your fears. I can relate as I had a hemorrhoidectomy in June and was petrified beforehand especially after reading all the horror stories. What I can tell you is that for every horror story there are likely many more success stories that are simply not shared. It's human nature to reach out when things aren't going well and seek support.

For me, yes I had some struggles at the start, but I say with confidence that having the hemorrhoidectomy was the best thing that could have happened for me and I would do it again in a heartbeat. Is the recovery painful? Yes, it is, but when you think about it what surgery is pain free? None in my experience. This was quite painful for sure and in an instinctively vulnerable place, but the pain for me was not unbearable. The first 10-14 days were the most difficult but even in that time I was able to get up and walk around my property and do some light chores. It was the mental game by around day 12 where you think it will never end that was the difficult part. Expect to have a day or two that breaks you, days where you think you've turned a corner just to wake up feeling setback and then slowly over time you find it becomes a thing of the past and you get your life back. Remember, if all goes well and for most it does, you get these darn things removed and get some quality of life back!

You're in the opportune time right now to start preparing. If you are not taking a stool softener or something of that nature, you might want to start now to see how your body copes. Expect some cramping, bloating and gas at first as that's normal. Personally fiber was the worst thing I could have taken and I believe that it actually worsened my hemorrhoids. PEG was and still is my lifesaver and I also added colace during recovery because of the constipating effects of the prescription pain meds. In addition to taking these I also took tylenol and advil around the clock for at least 2 weeks. I would set my alarm for nights so that I was on top of my pain meds and also kept a written log of what and when I took medication. I used ice packs and lots of baths and showers to help with the pain. I would test out some different ice packs now to see which ones might work. I kept a super simple diet of oatmeal, soft fruit, soups and meal replacement shakes for at least the 1st week post op. Anything soft going in should be soft coming out. The first few BMs were pretty painful, but short lived and getting into a bath afterwards was a lifesaver. Forget about wiping and just hop into a shower then bath or pat lightly with wet toilet paper.

Get all your things in place and test a few things out beforehand. Stay on top of you meds and swallow your pride. You will get through this and on the other side is your quality of life returned. For some perspective, I was back to work and on a plane to a conference less than 4 weeks after surgery.

you got this!!! Good luck!

hi Robert,

I had a similar experience where my first surgeon told me the pain was excruciating like childbirth. I can tell you for a fact that it was NOT as bad as childbirth for me, not even in the same realm. My second surgeon and the one who ultimately did the procedure said that the pain shouldn't be too bad. Um, Yes, expect pain, but remember that you will have strong meds to help you through and you will get through!

PEG is polyethylene glycol commonly sold as clearlax or miralax at pharmacies.

good luck!