Hemorrhoidectomy Fears

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I'm a 61-year-old male, having a hemorroidectomy in exactly 5 days and 11 hours. I've had surgeries before (broken bones, knee replacements, etc.) but I've never been so fearful of anything as this, especially after reading some of the horror stories. I'm not sure what I'm more afraid of- the pain or the humiliation and embarrassment that goes with this surgery. I have a great wife who wants to drive me home from the surgery and take care of me as I recover. I really prefer her to drop me off at a nearby hotel instead and leave me there for about a week to be miserable. I really hate the thought her seeing me suffer and all the unpleasantness that goes with this type of surgery. I know I'm going to be absolutely miserable and just want to be left alone. I'm sure I'll survive a few days on my own. I told her she can bring me a meal or two every day. Just leave me alone with my painkillers, Colace, baby wipes, etc. Just curious if anyone else has ever done this? Am I being really unreasonable to just wanna be left alone for awhile?

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    I'm very grateful to everyone for the helpful advice and encouragement. I've got all my supplies ready and have been adjusting my diet to increase fruits and fibre. Only 2 days, 11 hours and 22 minutes to go. Trying to take everyone's advice but I'm resigned to at least a week or two of sheer misery ahead. I have one last question: one person recommended that I try using some "poppers" to relax my anal sphincter and ease the pain somewhat when I have a BM. While this makes sense and I'm willing to try it, I'm curious if anyone else has tried using poppers for this. Based on what I've read, it sounds like poppers can be a bit dangerous if used carelessly. Any other opinions about poppers would be greatly appreciated. Thanks again.

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