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sarah1996
sarah1996

How did you lot cope with doing house work before you thr?

Due to being unfit to work i spend all day in the house on my own till family come home but i feel lazy if i do nothing so i constently do housework but the severe pain it cause literally reduces me to curling up in a fetal position and crying, plue tramadol are no help at all for the severe pain im in.

So does anyone have any good tips for housework without chronic pain?

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  • Lorna020247
    Lorna020247 sarah1996

    Posted

    Hi Sarah,

    If I were you do not do any wait until family come home it will only take longer for you to recover wait until you feel up to it, light dusting and small things but def not hoovering and standing aw shining up .  That's why you are in such pain not doing yourself any good at all.  Perhaps a friend can pop in or a member of the family.  Good luck but DO TAKE MORE CARE.

    LORNA

    • sarah1996
      sarah1996 Lorna020247

      Posted

      I havent had my op yet just battling with my disabilities caused by CHD but obviously by the time my parents come home from work they are tired and living with a younger brother whose spirts mad he trapes mud and astro into the house and it makes me anxious so i just have to tidy it away.

      Ill have to try and let it go but dont seem to be able to x

  • Rocketman_SG6UK
    Rocketman_SG6UK sarah1996

    Posted

    As anyone says, don't  overdo it.

    As Luvinlex said "Remember you don't need to be cleaning anything unless the Queen is stopping by for tea. People will understand if things are not in perfect order."

    Graham - 🚀💃

    • sarah1996
      sarah1996 Rocketman_SG6UK

      Posted

      Wheres that comment? I cant see it

      And i know people say i dont need to be cleaning but when you live with a 14 year old who trapes mud through the house from his bikes and cletes and astro from football you really do because he wont and i hate it because its me who has to look at it all day haha

    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK sarah1996

      Posted

      Ooh that was a few weeks ago now - I liked it so much I put it in my website.

      I can only agree, if you have a youngster about the place it is very difficult. We should of course be getting them to help us, easier said than done though as I know withour own 25 year-old.   I have always said that this recovery is much easier for us guys than you ladies.

      Graham - 🚀💃

    • sarah1996
      sarah1996 Rocketman_SG6UK

      Posted

      Haha i would aplaude anyone who managed to get my brother to help with housework. Hes at that akward age hahaha
    • bridie000
      bridie000 sarah1996

      Posted

      My partner is at an awkward age, in this case 51! He doesn't understand why cleaning needs to be done and then gets huffy when he's told, or even reminded to do things he said he would do, apparently it's nagging.

      I wonder if you can buy a cattle prod over the internet!? :D

    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK bridie000

      Posted

      That's not an awkward age problem, he's a  man, so naturally he doesn't see the need for daily or hourly cleaning.  wink

      Sounds like he suffers from the same condition as me - um, er, um, what?   Oh yes, short term, er .. whatsit .......... oh yes, memory loss.

      (not to be confused with serious medical memory conditions)

      It's a man thing.

      Graham - 🚀💃

  • lizard615
    lizard615 sarah1996

    Posted

    Oh boy....I'm in the same position! I live by myself and do thing in stages when I feel like it. I do a chore, rest....my surgery is scheduled for April 5th. Taking the trash out is a chore in itself! 😞
    • sarah1996
      sarah1996 lizard615

      Posted

      Yeah its difficult. I dont live alone but im home most of the day whilst parents work.

      Good luck for your op, waiting for mine to be rearranged

    • maggie93798
      maggie93798 sarah1996

      Posted

      Perhaps if you made a meal each day, slow preparation and sit or stand as comfortably as you are able, your parents would then be less tired re housework. I am sure you do not mess the place up so a "brother training project" between you and your parents? Presumably your brother gets home before your parents, so do they know the amount you do to clear up after him? 
    • sarah1996
      sarah1996 maggie93798

      Posted

      My parents both work very demanding jobs and have other things they have to attend to on a night so i dont really appriciate you trying to insinuate that my parents are bad people in anyway with your 'parent training' messages.

      Do you not realise that i just want some normality in my pathetic life and maybe cleaning gives me that?

      I asked for tips on cleaning, not your opinion on how awful my parents are and infact i have found what you have said very rude....

    • maggie93798
      maggie93798 sarah1996

      Posted

      You have got the wrong end of the stick! With a vengeance!! I can remember being 20 and NOT telling my parents anything I did not want them to hear. I merely asked if they knew the extent of your pain and consequent frustration. You are trying to help them, they are undoubtedly worried sick about you. My mother was a nurse on night shift, my father worked all the hours God sent at his own business. If I had worries, or pain after a bad accident and a tendon repair they never knew how much because I hid it. The time in hospital and crutches etc etc. The house jobs I did in recovery, daily with a plaster thigh to foot on my right leg. The loss of my friends etc etc. It was only when I was much older and they very old that we all came clean about how we all felt. Not as much to contend with as you, but do not accuse me of parent training. It is only concern, it ruined my relationship with my mother, do not let it happen to you
    • sarah1996
      sarah1996 maggie93798

      Posted

      I make it a habit to constently mention when i am in pain and they constently tell me off for doing heavy house work. But the problem is i enjoy doing the house work.

      I may have got the wrong end of the stick but it is hard not to whej you say i should be training them and so on

    • maggie93798
      maggie93798 sarah1996

      Posted

      Training referred to you and your parents helping your brother to leave a little less mud around the house, and NOT to you training parents. I have a brother 4 years younger than me, he was into rowing thankfully which does not bring much mud with it.
    • sarah1996
      sarah1996 maggie93798

      Posted

      But you mentioned i should train my parents before i mentioned anything about my brother.

      But at the end of the day it doesnt matter. If i misunderstood im sorry but if it was me saying that about your family im sure you would have took it the same way

    • maggie93798
      maggie93798 sarah1996

      Posted

      It is it is better left, possibly we both misunderstood each other.

       

    • maggie93798
      maggie93798

      Posted

      Sarah, re things to do. Have you heard of future learn. Free on line courses on all sorts of subjects. you might find some of interest
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