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How do I tell my wife I have genital herpes?

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justin28906
justin28906

My spouse  and I almost never sleep with each other. The once or twice a year obligatory sex is initiated by me because she could care less about sex. Hugs & kisses are our thing. I have recently been exposed to & contracted it from a female "f**k buddy" or a "Friend with Benefit!" & now going through the first outbreak. My wife and I  don't live in the same part of the country so my wife doesn't know about this. She's has always been suspicious about me so telling her is like opening a giant can of worms! If I ever have to have sex with my wife & not wanting to expose her, wear a condom, how do I explain it to her since she would definitely question the condom?!

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  • jessica28578
    jessica28578 justin28906

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    Hi Justin,

    I think it's in your best interest to tell her the truth.  Condoms doesnt 100% protect you from the herpes simplex virus. There's also a chance of you shedding the virus without you knowing. She's already questioning you and you can only deny it for so long. Say you do give it to her accidentally.. how do you think that will blow over. The guilt alone from giving it to her with kill you. At least give her the option whether she wants to forgive you and move past this. If you love her, would you risk her health?

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