How do we remove our fear of fear

Hello Anne,

Many thanks for your reply,I understand your fear of water,as I too was thrown into a swiming pool when fully clothed ,(fotunately it didnt trun into a fear of water for me .I recall going right down to the bottom of the pool,grabbing somoen`slegs and coming up to the surface hanging on like grim death.

My own main fears are , of Drs and  Hospitals,they have just occcured more recently though,I am now trying a something Holistic (cant give the name in here as it would be blocked) .I am really wanting to be rid of these 2 I can deal with the others without too much of a problem .If you wish Anne you could pm me with the ones you maybe don`t feel comfortable posting in public. I wish a good day for you too.

Millyimp

Welcome Tis my friend from our other groups, I relate to your fears of all things medical,(ie) as you see from my posting,

I don`t know how I came about them,I know like you  you sometimes come away feeling ,you have not been listened to ,and also that sometimes you are wasting their time ,as others are waiting to be seen who could be worse than we are at that time.So how do we come to terms with our fears,I as said am trying the holistic therapy.Began it yesterday ,so not able to say yet if it works,but I do have faith in the person who prescribed it  ,

Take Care

millyimp

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can you pm with the details if you find it helps you .

i am doing my best to keep avoiding mainstream meds 

as i dont think they no what they are doing they just keep throwing things at people in the hope of something will work 

and the side effects of most are horrific 

and couldnt bare the thougth of feeling any worse

Yes Tis,

I can either wait and see if it helps me with the 2 phobias I am wanting to be rid of .more than the others,as I can deal with them most of the time.

Then pm you with the results,or I can pm you with the name of the product and the name of the person who prescribed it for me ,just tell me which you prefer .

I know what you mean ,hoping prscibed meds will work ,but ,you do still tend to have side affects with them. like you say mwe can do without being made to feel worse

 

name of the product would be good ,the person proberly wouldnt be of any use if i am not in there area

 

Ok will private message it to you ,as it seems it will be seen as advertising in the forums.

I am not in the area either ,I get it online .

 

ok i thought you said you trusted who prescribed it thats where i got confused 

Yes I do trust the person who prescibed for me 

hi,i know exactly what you mean some of  the 'proffesionals' like to abuse their power.Try next time you are at the doctors to put your point across what you want from your appointment do not  feel you have to agree with everything they say, you could always research you condition online and possible treatments be in the know! 

so true, the side effects is what scares me , meds for the side effects of the meds and then for the side effects of these, a never ending roller coaster, getting back to fear, those meds must have their effects on our brains, causing depression etc. which makes it difficult to deal with fear, just trailing off thinking.....

blessings to all

No george,

We are talking about real irrationa fears that have escalated into phobias.

I know lots of people who don`t fear them ,but I also know tall well built men who do fear them ,and run away out away from them.they are strong men when they are able to speak about them openly. I have been ridculed so many times it is just so unreal,I have a couple of lady friends too with these phobias who too are ridculed ,,not very nice,and I say to them .I just would never wish any phobia at all on them .

 

I mean I would say to those who do ridicule ,just beware it doesn`t happen to you one day,because then they would truly know about it

 

Ah! My wife fears all spiders. She does not like to hurt them. I have to catch them with a post card and clear glass and then free then about 50 yards from the house.

when i was divorced from my first husband i had to learn not to pass on my fear of spiders to my daughter

one night i went in the kitchen and there was a large spider near the cupboard , i decided to give him a name so he would seem more friendly 

i named him george  so every time i went in to the kitcchen i would say good morning george etc and before long i was no longer scared of him

 ,i used to shake and cry when i saw them  ,i still not keen but i dont go to pieces like i used to . i made a friend of him i missed him when he left .my little eight legged george .

I can never do that make a friend of them.I am afraid I find them so utterly repulsive,as do my 2 lady friends.I do get my Husband to get them for me and yes sorry but to kill them if he has to .This will be next on the list for using the product I am trying to remove the phobias .so I hope it does succeed ,and does the job.I can only put this one down to when I was in Hong Kong with my then Husband ,and believe me they were really massive out ther,we even had a black widow in the apartment we were living in at the time ,I feel maybe this is where the phobia came from,as I don`t even like any insects at all (,there were also lots and lots of huge cockroaches  too), and they used to fly as well as crawl, but although I dont like them I dont have a phobia about them,

oh god no idont think i could stand big ugly foregn spiders that would be to much . but i can just  manage the ones in the uk 

i am terrified of wasps a nd bees cant stand them near me absolutly freak esp if they are buzzing arounfd my head .

and if i saw a cockroache well you have to get me down from the ceiling horrid things .

I know ,one night when we were out ,(in Hong Kong)we came home and as my H opened the gate he started to shake his leg,a C had crawled up his trousers,and at other times we would be sitting eating and one would fly across the room  sometimes they hit the fan ,and yukkkkkkkkkkkkk ,oh they were everywhere .

 

my god i would have needed counsiling after living with those horrid things 

I have a wry lopsided and uncertain smile. Have you been conversing with me with two legs or him (she?) with eight? 

who knows