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How do you function with perimenopause?

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I was just curious how all of you strong ladies function living with this hell? I see alot of you suffer so badly then go into work! Im ashamed to say i dont have to work but i can barely get myself motivated enough to do housework let alone leave my house! Im so sick all of the time. I have no energy (prolly where i cant eat properly), Im nauseous 24/7, my gut gurgles loudly no matter what i do eat, dizzy and lightheaded, i never know when my periods will hit, I feel like i have constant pms, i get hot flashes, ovary aches, i get super anxious....if i do have a small window of feeling just "okay" i cant relax to enjoy it cause when i try to the hell comes back harder and more intense than ever. I dont feel like im alive anymore. I feel like im trapped in tgis never ending loop of hell! I have to get my license renewed and my eyes checked but town is 30 minutes away, I freak out thinking i will get there and the hardcore nausea & dizziness will hit amd i wont be able to drive home. How do you cope?

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  • hopeforever
    hopeforever Guest

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    Brandy take gravol for your dizziness and nausea. It does wonders. you can get it at walmart

    • Guest
      Guest hopeforever

      Posted

      I will look into that thanks! And i hope like you the nausea lessens some for me. Thats my worst symptom honestly. It keeps me from eating properly which im sure make dizziness worse! But i do have a blood sugar meter and i check every time im having those feelings but my blood sugar is always fine for some reason. I dont see how you drive 45 mins to work everyday! Im in awe of you!

  • staci88515
    staci88515 Guest

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    I just started a new job. I am so scared. It is awful. Each day brings a new symptom and it is scary not to mention embarrassing. I have to worry about having a migraine aura. I have to worry about being dizzy 24/7. I have to worry about feeling lightheaded. I have to worry about having a panic attack. I have to worry about having heavy periods with large clots every 21 days. I have to worry about incapacitating menstrual migraines. I have to worry about my vision under bright fluorescent lights and huge windows without shades. It is worry on top of worry on top of worry. I am the sole earner in my household. Not working is not an option. If you are one of the lucky women who don't have to work, thank your lucky stars. If I didn't have to work it would feel as though I won the lottery. xo

    • hopeforever
      hopeforever staci88515

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      Staci congrats on your new job. Take gravol for dizziness and as far as panic attacks when you feel one coming on take a deep breath and head to the bathroom. When i started to have heavy periods i would wear a tampon and a pad and black under bottoms just in case anything slipped out. Carry advil and always have water on hand. It is tough at first but then things just become the new norm. Find a friend who you can count on and trust with your peri or meno. Hope you enjoy your new job.

    • Guest
      Guest staci88515

      Posted

      Staci sweetie you deserve a huge medal! To have all of that horrible stuff happening to you plus to have the burden of being sole earner....i am just in complete amazement. I feel like i would have a nervous breakdown!! I wish i had your strength!! It could be that it is easier for me to give up since i dont have to work but that makes me feel even mire ashamed of myself. This forum really helps reading how all of you ladies try to cope with this bad hand we have been dealt. It makes me want to try even harder to hang in there!

    • staci88515
      staci88515 hopeforever

      Posted

      Thanks for the tips! There are a few older ladies in the group. Hopefully, one can sympathize. I never thought I would be this person. I was a confident professional working woman last year. My whole life got turned up side down. xo

    • staci88515
      staci88515 Guest

      Posted

      Brandy, thank you for the kind words. Never be ashamed. We are all in this together. We are all struggling, Thank goodness we have each other! xo

  • kelly55079
    kelly55079 Guest

    Posted

    I work part-time and lately I'm exhausted. Don't know if it's phase or what. It's very difficult to get out of bed and be able to function--- I have that 'drunk' feeling mostly where I question where I'm at or what I'm doing.. UGH Maybe this is why ppl drink coffee in the morning.

    • Guest
      Guest kelly55079

      Posted

      I have used that sane phrase!! I tell my husband some days when i get up i feel like ive been drugged! I tease him that hes secretly drugging me at least he has a sense of humor about it. But all joking aside it is horrible having something that you cant treat! It would be nice if there was a magic pill to make it all better!

  • Escarole
    Escarole Guest

    Posted

    Hi Brandy, I coudn't agree more with you! I' m going through hell too, since all this started, a year and a half ago. I never thought my life could be such a nightmare for so long. I've had all kind of symptoms, migraines, nausea, cold flushes and flu-like symptoms, palpitations, anxiety, allergies, itchy skin, utis, ovary aches, etc. Every time I go to the doctor it's always the same thing: this is perimenopause related. I'm not working right now either, but raising my two kids, and like some of you have said,most of the days I feel sick and it's hard to just get out of the house or making plans. What scares me the most is not knowing if this will improve after menopause. What do you think???

    I really admire those of you who are still working, you are super women!

  • jackie95472
    jackie95472 Guest

    Posted

    I had a horrible time with perimenopause. Nausea headaches acid reflux fatigue. I lost my job it was devastating. My advice to you is to get help and don’t stop to you feel better. During the time I was so ill I made sure that I had a doctors appointment to try something new to get me through this. I am now on nortriptyline for the headaches that wouldn’t stop. The fatigue finally lifted but it took a long time. I went on hormones but feel they really didn’t work. I advise you again to not give up to get help and get well. Demand to feel better.

    • Guest
      Guest jackie95472

      Posted

      Thank you but its hard getting drs to listen! They just want to say its depression and anxiety! Im 41 years old but for some reason they think 37 years old (when it first started with awful symptoms) was too young to be starting perimenopause. So i guess they still feel low estrogen and progesterone is still cause by depression which they think is my fault and want to throw antidepressants at me! I refuse to use hormone replacement, back in my teens and twenties i tried birth control pills & the depo short with horrific outcomes. Im just trying to "exist" now but with this awful nausea, dizziness and exhaustion im not living 😦

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