How I cured my vulvodynia

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I see so many posts on here about constant or provoked vulva pain that I thought it might be useful if I explained vulvodynia and how I cured mine. Vulvodynia literally means vulvar pain and is a condition of the nerves in that area. The nerves have become hyperactive and hypersensitive due to trauma which can be chemical or physical in source or due to infection. I think mine was due to persistent thrush infection and the many remedies I tried to cure it, including home remedies such as bathing in a bath with some cider vinegar in - that made my soreness much worse (chemical trauma). Vulvodynia can cause itching, sore or burning sensation and this can be continuous or provoked (only happens when the area is touched). The nerves are so hypersensitive they register touch as pain and the usual way to diagnose it is to touch around the vulvar area with a cotton bud and where the touch registers as pain then that is the affected area. It can involve the whole of the vulvar area or can be in a horseshoe shape toward the posterior (which may also involve the perineum) or the anterior or can be offset to one side. The pain is a form of chronic neuropathic pain because it stems from nerve damage as opposed to nociceptive pain which is caused by tissue damage. Neuropathic pain can be very hard to get rid of. It took me 1.5 years of determination and the occasional disappointing set back to cure my vulvodynia. Probably more like 2 years to get back to normal.

Ok, ready for a long story about how I cured my vulvodynia:-

First I saw a gynaecologist. He took a biopsy of the painful area and confirmed no diseases or cancer. He put me on amitriptyline and steroid cream. These slowly worked for a while and made me comfortable enough to have a long overdue smear test. I had the smear test and the pain came back full force - back to square 1. By that time I had used the steroid cream for as long as is recommended and had stopped it (long term use not recommended). However, desperate to get rid of the pain I tired it again, but this time the cream stung me and made the pain worse. The gynaecologist gave me lynocaine cream to numb the area, but that stung me and made me worse. Nothing was working and in the end the gynae said that he could not cure me he could just help me managed the pain. Well, I wasn't going to put up with that for the rest of my life. So I did some investigating to find someone else who could help me and found a dermatologist consultant in Oxford who specialised in vulva pain. I also found some medication on the internet, made in Italy which is a gel is specifically for treating vulvodynia. It calms down the overactive and hypersensitive nerves. Saginil gel  - you can order it direct from the suppliers, epitech, on their website. You can do this because it is not classed as a medicine because it is made of natural plant-based ingredients. It is expensive, as is the post from Italy, but I am so pleased I bought it because it was the only thing my skin could tolerate there and it did make a difference - it reduced the pain so that it was bearable and I could function better with daily life.

i saw the dermatologist and she told me all the things that she had found worked to get rid of the pain, but nerve pain is difficult to get rid of so she suggested I try them all and stick at it. i was surprised because, appears from upping the amitriptyline dose to 50-70mg a day (I was on 20), the rest of the things were what you would class alternative, or natural, cures. They were: western acupuncture, physiotherapy, chiropraction and manual desensitisation. Now, different things work for different people because there are different causes for the vulvodynia: infection, physical or chemical trauma, hormones, trapped nerve in back. I knew mine was caused by repeated and persistent thrush and the various treatments I tried to get rid of it (including cider vinegar - ouch! No!). So I didn't see a chiropractor because is didn't thing it stemmed from a pelvic nerve problem, however, from what you describe, yours might. I did do yoga exercises that free trapped pelvic nerves. I bought a book on pelvic floor exercises and did those, rather than see a physio. I did the manual desensitisation - this is where you stroke yourself very lightly in the painful area, using non-irritating lubricant (I used oil based lube by yes, or coconut oil), just once the first day. Then each day you gradually build up the strokes in number and pressure. The idea is that you are retraining the nerves to register touch as touch and not pain. So, massage yourself there just enough so as not to cause lasting pain afterwards. I built it up until I could do 100 strokes of fairly good pressure, then I moved into inserting a finger, then two, then the tip of my husband's penis and then gradually out him in a little further each time, until I could get most of him in, then starting moving with him in, again gradually building it up each time. I also found a GP that also ran a Western acupuncture clinic. Western means that they leave the meddles in and pass electricity through them. That was what really worked for me - each time I went I just got better and better. Apparently the amitriptyline and the acupuncture work well together to dampen down those hyperactive and oversensitive nerves. I upped the amitriptyline to 50mg as day, very gradually by 5mg every 1 or 2 weeks because it caused side effects so my body needed to adapt to each increase. 

Finally, there are the changes to how you live. No tight clothes, no sex (until you are ready), no exercise (I gradually built that up too but walking just a short distance and gradually increasing it - never do an amount that cause she lasting pain). Go knicker free if you can - I work mainly from home so was able to go around with no knickers on and baggy jogging bottoms or a skirt. Sitting also caused problems (I work at a computer) so I got a ring shoved cushion form woman to use after they have given birth and sat in that so that there was no pressure at all on the sensitive area (dame for driving the car). Coconut oil was soothing (raw, cold pressed, organic coconut oil) so I applied that externally and internally with a clean finger after every time I went to the loo (I carried a little pot in my hand bag so I could apply it while out and about with an organic, pesticide and bleach free cotton pad). No scented products on that area, in fact I didn't wash there at all, I used coconut oil to clean the area and when showered I used organic, nasty chemical free and scent free body wash and shampoo and conditioner (because stuff runs down). I also washed my clothes in scent free, kind-to-skin laundry detergent and conditioner. Toilet paper has bleach in it, so I got some tissues that were bleach free and used those to wipe after doing a wee.

The key is to be persistent, try everything, gradually build things up, stick with what works, be determined, don't give in. The consultant dermatologist was very impressed with me because I was so determined and didn't give into urges. She said she had many women who just got fed up with how long it was taking and just went for a long walk / bike ride / horse ride or had sex and put themselves back at square one again. It does take a long time - it took me 1.5 years of all that stuff in my message above to get to being pain free. Even now, 5 years later, I still apply coconut oil after every time I go to the toilet, use tonnes of oil based lube during intercourse, go around the house wear no knickers. I don't want it to come back. I am also still on 50mg amitriptyline a day. At first I was afraid to come off it because the consultant dermatologist told me, you may be pain free, but if you come off it too soon, the pain can come back. So it is best to wait a few months after being pain free. Then menopause set in and I got hot flushes and my GP told me to stay on the  amitriptyline because it helps with hot flushes. My body has adapted to it now. I hope to reduce the dose sometime (gradually, by 5mg very 2 weeks, just like I built it up). I still do pelvic floor exercises - the book I got was called 7 steps to pain-free sex by Claudia Amherd. It is mainly about vaginismus, but the exercises apply to vulvodynia too - just don't do them sitting on a juggling ball (ouch) do them standing up first, then lying down, as it advises in the book. Gradually build up the exercises, doing more and more each time. Again, don't do so much that it causes an increase in pain or lasting pain - cut back if that happens.

Also, you need to get some organic, chemical free sanitary towels for when you have your period (no tampons). 

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    Apologies!  Just read all the typos!  Hope you can make sense of it all!  Next eye is being done in three weeks time, then an eight week wait for correct reading glasses......!  If there's anything you want explained then get in touch!

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      Hi Clariver, it’s food to hear from you again. And good to hear you are on the mend. You story illustrates my point about finding a vulva pain specialist - in my car and yours it was a female dermatologist. Also you have highlighter the importance of trying everything you can until you find something that works, being persistent, proactive, determined and patient. It takes time, a long time to get better and even longer after that to get rid of the fear (the fear that I might do something that will make it return). Good news is that I have finally allowed myself to wear skinny jeans again! - I’ve found a nice very stretchy pair that doesn’t cut into the privates. I do still sit on a donut cushion when working from home or driving though. All that caution about aggravating the nerves still remains to some degree.
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      You know, with all of a fear about the return of the pain, I didn’t really want to think about it or talk about it - fearing that even focusing on that pain again might bring it back. But I was reading so many stories on the forums about women suffering with vulva pain for years and not getting appropriate medical help, I felt I had to share my story. And when I read about those that are on the road to recovery, I’m pleased I did.
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      What are you guys thoughts on repressed emotions contributing or causing the issue ? I find sometimes im not in pain but im obsessed about the condition and wont let it go even when I am recovering. Its like its masking the real problem which is something emotional. The contracting of the pelvic floor in response to fear seems to be what really kept mine goin long after the infection I had disappeared. And now the muscles are being released and im getting more n more normal feelings down there but I have massive anxiety coming up about letting the issue go. Just a thought. They say chronic pain is learned neural pathways.
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      Hurrah!  So glad to hear from you Suki, and congrats on getting back into your jeans again!  And a big thank you to you for sharing your experiences which will have helped so many people.  As I said before, you should write a book!  I do know what you mean about not focussing on the problems, and so it was very breve of you to start this discussion, despite that.  I think it is very encouraging to hear about others who have coped with vulvodynia, and come through it...... It is certainly quite some journey!  Enjoy your jeans now!  All the best .....
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      Hello Katie.  I don't know about repressed emotions, but chronic pain causes new pain pathways which fire off constantly and need to be damped down.  two good books I read are called back in control by an american neuro surgeon d. hanscombe, and  mindfulness for health by burch and penman.  You can get both online and second hand copies don't cost so much. This is probably why meditation works so well.  Hope this is of help.  Good luck!

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      Hi Katie, I have often wondered myself if the condition could be related to emotions as mine started after a horrible time in my life and feel like I focus on this more than the problem it self it’s like we use it as a distraction. I have noticed from seeing a physio that I actually hold all my tension in my pelvic area so everything is tense and overly tight which my physio has explained can cause pain and it’s just retraining your body to let go with stretches and relaxation etc. 
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    Hi Ladies.... I was feeling really positive and felt I was improving for a while but the last couple of weeks its got worse... I cant wear anything other than baggy stuff, I have to sit at work all the time and that pain spreads to my bum cheeks (feels like it all goes numb when I sit for a long time) I have just had enough at the moment and feel I will be one of those people who have it for 20 years.... Feel it really distracts me from studying for my masters degree as i am constantly researching.... 

    Up side is i will be finally seeing a gynaecologist next friday - any tips on things i should ask for her to give me/refer me to ect?

    I guess I have posted as I have had a few really down weeks and cant seem to get out of this depressed state I am in right now.. I also feel like how can it be getting better if its getting worse?! I am not even doing anything different so I am very confused If i am even on the road to recovery or not?! 

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      I really feel for you. It’s weird I am doing a masters too, I have a load of deadlines looming and my symptoms have got a lot worse recently too. When I’m in a study hole I always feel like my world has shut down a bit and wonder if that makes me more hyper aware... it’s hard. 

      Hope something helps for you soon xx

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    Thank you for this post Suki girl. I have been struggling with vulvodynia for many years. I also have endometriosis and IBS and have had a lot of invasive procedures over the years. Feel i have tried all the nhs has to offer but nothing has worked long term. I have seen gynaecologists, a neurologist, dermatologist a gastroenterologist and a psycho-sexual therapist to name a few. I am keen to try acupuncture as I feel so far my treatment has not been holistic and all my ailments are interlinked. I am taking gabapentin, it was amazing At first but then began to wear off. Increasing the dose made me feel very bleary and slow, I am a lone parent, I work and am studying a masters so can’t afford to be bleary!!

    My partner walked out very suddenly 6 months ago and somehow this has increased my sense of my whole pelvic area being totally defective (I have a bad back and worse still I have recently developed piles 😱😳🙈😂??). I feel a real sense of shame, even though I know that is irrational 😔.

    Thank you for all the previous posts, I feel I have some different things to try. I have been giving up hope and this thread has spurred me on. 

    Xx

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      I got piles as a side effect of the amitriptyline (caused constipation for a while after I went up in dose). In fact the piles were so painful, the pain as worce than the vulvodynia - I guess that was one way to distract me from the vulvodynia ... get a worce pain!
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    Hi everyone here 

    It’s so relieving to see so many people here suffering just like me because it reminds me I’m not alone I’m so happy for some of you guys finding solutions to your vulvodynia as I know how it feels.

    I am 19 years old now a couple of years ago I suddenly started feeling a burning sensation in that area. Being 16 at the time I had no idea what it could be, I was depressed anxious and in all truthfullness ladies I wanted to end my suffering. I started researching online finding anything, there was endless nights I cried and cried wishing it away as I was only young. One day it up and left strangely by itself and after getting cystis a week ago I’m afraid it’s back again to haunt me. As a anxious person I immediately felt depressed and hurt because I don’t know what I ever did to deserve this. I’m sure you ladies know what it’s like looking around you seeing happy people walking around and just wishing you could be like them. I’m so greatful to see all your remedies and tips, and I hope to battle this as best I can. I’ll keep fighting if you ladies keep fighting. 

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      Hi Shauna. I know exactly how you feel. But it is very intriguing that your symptoms just suddenly left one day. That is not normally the case with vulvodynia. Nerve problems don’t just go overnight. It is a long gradual recovery. Unless an allergy is the cause. Some women have found that a dietary change case cause a rapid recovery and it can return just as suddenly if they eat the food that they are allergic to.

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