How I cured my vulvodynia
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I see so many posts on here about constant or provoked vulva pain that I thought it might be useful if I explained vulvodynia and how I cured mine. Vulvodynia literally means vulvar pain and is a condition of the nerves in that area. The nerves have become hyperactive and hypersensitive due to trauma which can be chemical or physical in source or due to infection. I think mine was due to persistent thrush infection and the many remedies I tried to cure it, including home remedies such as bathing in a bath with some cider vinegar in - that made my soreness much worse (chemical trauma). Vulvodynia can cause itching, sore or burning sensation and this can be continuous or provoked (only happens when the area is touched). The nerves are so hypersensitive they register touch as pain and the usual way to diagnose it is to touch around the vulvar area with a cotton bud and where the touch registers as pain then that is the affected area. It can involve the whole of the vulvar area or can be in a horseshoe shape toward the posterior (which may also involve the perineum) or the anterior or can be offset to one side. The pain is a form of chronic neuropathic pain because it stems from nerve damage as opposed to nociceptive pain which is caused by tissue damage. Neuropathic pain can be very hard to get rid of. It took me 1.5 years of determination and the occasional disappointing set back to cure my vulvodynia. Probably more like 2 years to get back to normal.
Ok, ready for a long story about how I cured my vulvodynia:-
First I saw a gynaecologist. He took a biopsy of the painful area and confirmed no diseases or cancer. He put me on amitriptyline and steroid cream. These slowly worked for a while and made me comfortable enough to have a long overdue smear test. I had the smear test and the pain came back full force - back to square 1. By that time I had used the steroid cream for as long as is recommended and had stopped it (long term use not recommended). However, desperate to get rid of the pain I tired it again, but this time the cream stung me and made the pain worse. The gynaecologist gave me lynocaine cream to numb the area, but that stung me and made me worse. Nothing was working and in the end the gynae said that he could not cure me he could just help me managed the pain. Well, I wasn't going to put up with that for the rest of my life. So I did some investigating to find someone else who could help me and found a dermatologist consultant in Oxford who specialised in vulva pain. I also found some medication on the internet, made in Italy which is a gel is specifically for treating vulvodynia. It calms down the overactive and hypersensitive nerves. Saginil gel - you can order it direct from the suppliers, epitech, on their website. You can do this because it is not classed as a medicine because it is made of natural plant-based ingredients. It is expensive, as is the post from Italy, but I am so pleased I bought it because it was the only thing my skin could tolerate there and it did make a difference - it reduced the pain so that it was bearable and I could function better with daily life.
i saw the dermatologist and she told me all the things that she had found worked to get rid of the pain, but nerve pain is difficult to get rid of so she suggested I try them all and stick at it. i was surprised because, appears from upping the amitriptyline dose to 50-70mg a day (I was on 20), the rest of the things were what you would class alternative, or natural, cures. They were: western acupuncture, physiotherapy, chiropraction and manual desensitisation. Now, different things work for different people because there are different causes for the vulvodynia: infection, physical or chemical trauma, hormones, trapped nerve in back. I knew mine was caused by repeated and persistent thrush and the various treatments I tried to get rid of it (including cider vinegar - ouch! No!). So I didn't see a chiropractor because is didn't thing it stemmed from a pelvic nerve problem, however, from what you describe, yours might. I did do yoga exercises that free trapped pelvic nerves. I bought a book on pelvic floor exercises and did those, rather than see a physio. I did the manual desensitisation - this is where you stroke yourself very lightly in the painful area, using non-irritating lubricant (I used oil based lube by yes, or coconut oil), just once the first day. Then each day you gradually build up the strokes in number and pressure. The idea is that you are retraining the nerves to register touch as touch and not pain. So, massage yourself there just enough so as not to cause lasting pain afterwards. I built it up until I could do 100 strokes of fairly good pressure, then I moved into inserting a finger, then two, then the tip of my husband's penis and then gradually out him in a little further each time, until I could get most of him in, then starting moving with him in, again gradually building it up each time. I also found a GP that also ran a Western acupuncture clinic. Western means that they leave the meddles in and pass electricity through them. That was what really worked for me - each time I went I just got better and better. Apparently the amitriptyline and the acupuncture work well together to dampen down those hyperactive and oversensitive nerves. I upped the amitriptyline to 50mg as day, very gradually by 5mg every 1 or 2 weeks because it caused side effects so my body needed to adapt to each increase.
Finally, there are the changes to how you live. No tight clothes, no sex (until you are ready), no exercise (I gradually built that up too but walking just a short distance and gradually increasing it - never do an amount that cause she lasting pain). Go knicker free if you can - I work mainly from home so was able to go around with no knickers on and baggy jogging bottoms or a skirt. Sitting also caused problems (I work at a computer) so I got a ring shoved cushion form woman to use after they have given birth and sat in that so that there was no pressure at all on the sensitive area (dame for driving the car). Coconut oil was soothing (raw, cold pressed, organic coconut oil) so I applied that externally and internally with a clean finger after every time I went to the loo (I carried a little pot in my hand bag so I could apply it while out and about with an organic, pesticide and bleach free cotton pad). No scented products on that area, in fact I didn't wash there at all, I used coconut oil to clean the area and when showered I used organic, nasty chemical free and scent free body wash and shampoo and conditioner (because stuff runs down). I also washed my clothes in scent free, kind-to-skin laundry detergent and conditioner. Toilet paper has bleach in it, so I got some tissues that were bleach free and used those to wipe after doing a wee.
The key is to be persistent, try everything, gradually build things up, stick with what works, be determined, don't give in. The consultant dermatologist was very impressed with me because I was so determined and didn't give into urges. She said she had many women who just got fed up with how long it was taking and just went for a long walk / bike ride / horse ride or had sex and put themselves back at square one again. It does take a long time - it took me 1.5 years of all that stuff in my message above to get to being pain free. Even now, 5 years later, I still apply coconut oil after every time I go to the toilet, use tonnes of oil based lube during intercourse, go around the house wear no knickers. I don't want it to come back. I am also still on 50mg amitriptyline a day. At first I was afraid to come off it because the consultant dermatologist told me, you may be pain free, but if you come off it too soon, the pain can come back. So it is best to wait a few months after being pain free. Then menopause set in and I got hot flushes and my GP told me to stay on the amitriptyline because it helps with hot flushes. My body has adapted to it now. I hope to reduce the dose sometime (gradually, by 5mg very 2 weeks, just like I built it up). I still do pelvic floor exercises - the book I got was called 7 steps to pain-free sex by Claudia Amherd. It is mainly about vaginismus, but the exercises apply to vulvodynia too - just don't do them sitting on a juggling ball (ouch) do them standing up first, then lying down, as it advises in the book. Gradually build up the exercises, doing more and more each time. Again, don't do so much that it causes an increase in pain or lasting pain - cut back if that happens.
Also, you need to get some organic, chemical free sanitary towels for when you have your period (no tampons).
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rachel1million Suki_girl
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This book is good... about all the things one woman tried to cure her vulvodynia... https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/28092.The_Camera_My_Mother_Gave_Me
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kirsty90669 Suki_girl
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Hey, I've been suffering with extreme vaginal pain, it's mostly around the vulva and clitoris. It's gets so bad sometimes I want to end my life. I've seen doctors all they gave me were creams/tablets (didn't help). Then I saw a gynaecologist who told me I have a problem down there, I can't remember the name of it but it's basically eczema down there and the pain will never fully go away, it will come and go but when it comes back the pain will be like someone is sticking hot pokers into my vulva/clitoris and the area around it. I cant even sit like a normal human being anymore because it hurts. I cant walk for to long, as I'm writing this I'm in bed in absolute agony with the pain, I just want to break down crying. Over 2 years with it and I've got it for life :'( I honestly hate my life and can't cope anymore. I cant do anything, I don't even go out anymore.
Minamii kirsty90669
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Hi Kirsty, Minamii here, and I know people who have been on this forum for some time will think I'm beginning to sound like a broken record (sorry, guys!) but I had very similar to you, I put up with it for seven years going to doctor after doctor with no relief. Then, like a miracle, I got a bad dose of gastroenteritis and couldn't eat any solids for a week. Within two days, I found that all the horrible symptoms I'd been putting up with and which had been making my life a misery disappeared! So that gave me the clue that I was eating something which was setting off the pain. As I recovered from the gastroenteritis, I tried re-introducing one food per day. Everything was fine until I had a small amount of mashed potato as a meal. BINGO! As they say in the classics. After a week of being totally pain-free the symptoms came back. I stopped eating potato, and the symptoms disappeared again. I cut potato right out of my diet, then a month or so later, they came back. I checked back on what I'd eaten which was unusual and remembered i'd had a meal with sweet chilli sauce added. Now I could see a pattern emerging, since chilli, tomato and potato are all related, they are from the same family called "Solanacea". They are in fact related to the Deadly Nightshades, which are known to be toxic. A bit more research on the internet showed that there are some people who develop a nasty form of eczema when they are sensitive to the chemical solanum, which is what I was suffering from.
Now, I'm not saying you've suffering from the same thing, but what have you got to lose by trying it? The list of foods I'd advise you to avoid would be Potato, Tomato, Chilli, Capsicum or Bell Peppers, Tobacco (yes, it is related to the Nightshade family too), Eggplant, and Goji berries. You might also try avoiding legumes like peas, soy, and chick peas, since they have small amounts of the chemical if you're hypersensitive to it.
When I inadvertently eat something with those foods in them (try finding anything pre-prepared without tomato or potato, it's difficult!) my go-too medication is a strong antihistamine. It damps down the reaction enough to be bearable, but the only long-term cure is avoidance of the foods.
Good luck, and do let me know what your result is. My personal email is and I'd love to hear how you get on. I suffered for seven years, it was horrendous, so I do sympathise!
Minamii
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rachel1million kirsty90669
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I would say keep going back to the GP though and don’t take no for an answer... have you been referred to a dermatologist or anything if the gp thinks it’s eczema related? In my experience I have usually had to ask for the referral... I am seeing a woman’s health physio in a few weeks hoping I might finally find some relief.
Good luck to you, I hope you have friends or family you can reach out to for some support. Take care xx
Suki_girl kirsty90669
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kirsty90669 Suki_girl
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Thank you so much for your replies. I don't really have any female help around. As I don't like talking about this stuff I'm a prude haha. Like even when someone mentions sex I go into a ball. But here no one knows me and I'm free. Lol. I was wondering would weight play a part in the vaginal pain? When I sit for more than 10 mins the clitoris etc hurts then when I get up and walk it hurts and lay down, also when I sit down it feels like something is trying to push itself out.. I'm unfortunately 31stone now I used to be 33 stone before joining slimming world a few months ago. Would it play a part?? Again thanks for the responses.
Suki_girl kirsty90669
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kirsty90669 Suki_girl
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This all happened because one day the part between the ureathra and vaginal opening was seriously itchy, so stupid me instead of leaving it, I rubbed it with toilet paper. And man do I regret it. Everything was fine before I did that. I think it triggered the eczema down there. I went straight to the hospital and had to wait 5 hours just too be told it looks raw, and was given cream, which helped a tiny bit but stopped working, then after 4-5 days i went to my GP and she gave me another cream and told me just to use that, that helped for a while then stopped. After having the pain for over 2 weeks I finally went to see an amazing gynaecologist who helped me through the bad times etc. But she gave me two types of cream, 1 in a small tube and a big tub, plus dermol wash. they haven't helped, I'm going back soon and tell her what's been going on and mention some of the treatments you had and see what she says. My main goal is too lose the weight and see if that helps in the slightest. Like I said everything was absolutely fine, free from pain, able to sleep a full night, happy, not depressed, until I stupidly rubbed down there with toilet paper!
Suki_girl kirsty90669
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i have several moments that I regret because just when I was gettting better I did something that put me back to square one again. The worst was having a Pap smear test. I was almost pain free, just uncomfortable, and had already delayed my smear test by a year and I know it is important to have this screening test. But afterwards I was right back to the most severe pain again.
I think I also caused the whole thing myself too. I was having repeated thrush infections which would repond to the oral medicine but kept coming back. This went on for a few months and so I tried a home remedy - cider vinegar added to a bath. Afterwards I was in such searing, burning pain. If only I had known then what I know now - that one silly action like that can result in years of pain!
I have made it my mission to let women know that vulvodynia exists and that our private parts are very delicate and should be treated gently.
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